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im dating a virgin and I'm inexperienced myself too... are things going to be really awkward and embarrassing when we get more physical? I heard virgin guys last less then a minute, how long will he be like that for? and how can I help him not feel embarrassed?
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  • "are things going to be really awkward and embarrassing when we get more physical"

    Yes, if you rush into it. If you don't and let things evolve progressively, then no. It's gonna take some time until you can confidently take some initiative, express what you like and what you want and look at him while you're getting physical.

    "I heard virgin guys last less then a minute, how long will he be like that for"

    If you go in straight for a bj or intercourse when you haven't built up your intimacy for a few months, of course he'll be likely to get real excited way too fast. If you two get used to doing some stuff for a while (fingering, hj, removing some clothing), it'll help a lot to make him last longer in the future. For the real first sex, he probably will come quicker than a non-virgin. But in a minute? Not if you've done some stuff before. Don't freak out about it, guys aren't like vulnerable sex creatures desperately waiting for their first "mechanical" move. Remember that most of them are used to masturbating already so if they've seen you naked and touched you before, they can't last only a minute.

    "I heard virgin guys last less then a minute, how long will he be like that for"

    My boyfriend was a virgin and it took only a few times until we got used to the right positions. We didn't have sex again right away though, so the adjustment took a few months.

    "how can I help him not feel embarrassed?"

    Smile at him. Caress him face, kiss him a lot and look at him. Smiling is important, as I said. If you look at him and you smile, he won't feel as shy and it'll reassure him. You might want to undo your own bra the first few times - not because he won't be able to do it, but because it might stress him out if he's nervous and struggling with it. You can just show him your tricks to undo it quick and easy later, once you two are comfortable with each other.

    Most important thing: don't rush into it! My boyfriend and I lost it to each other after 5.5 months. By then, he had seen me practically naked, he had fingered me a lot, I had given him a lot of hjs and I had seen him almost naked too. Might be a good idea to buy some condoms in case he's too chicken to buy some. Wasn't a problem with my boyfriend but who knows, better to be prepared and sorry.

  • Tell him you are taking the contraceptive pill, which will relax him a lot. Give him a quick release by hand first, so that he doesn't finish too early when he is trying to get into you. Put baby oil on his p..enis and on your la..bia, so that penetration will be easy. (Always a good idea.) Don't use drugs or alcohol, they don't help.

    • im not on the pill though

    • Then you damn well ought to be

    • I was going go use condoms I don't like taking pills its not healthy

  • Give hand relief first, then he'll take a bit longer over penetration. Put oil on his rod so it slides in easily. Young virgin males are repeaters so he will want to penetrate several times in a row.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Not sure I can answer..never had a virgin...maybe think of it as experimenting with one another rather than successfully completing intercourse? I mean none of us successfully complete intercourse all of the time..if your first time is not the best...then just you are just like the rest of us? Now...this part is really tricky but don't let it buffalo you...females can't always come either...but hard to ever figure what a man is going to do...sometimes he can rut & rut and never cum, other times he can be hair trigger..and sometimes he cannot even stay hard long enough to shoot...all kinds of different factors including current stress levels, fatigue, lack of confidence or even overeagerness...I will never be much good at sex if I have taken stimulants..sudafed comes to mind..but "fooling around" with each other is just as important and fun than successful intercourse conclusion..keep in mind that partners frequently disagree as to their perceptions as "successful". Help him not feel embarrassed? Just reassure him and be kind to him...pats and caresses are usually soothing to any member of the primate family..just visit the zoo if you doubt me...(:(:(:

    • "..pats and caresses are usually soothing to any member of the primate family." <333

  • everyone is born a virgin. humanity has survived only because a very long history of virgins succeeded in having sex. when you let him touch you all over and let him know he can go into you, the thrill will overcome any embarrassment. If you are unsure, feel free to dim/turn off the lights - that usually cures any shyness, and if not get a thin sheet to put over the two of you.

    • yeah I would probably do it in the dark... but what do I do about my pubic hair? it's embarrassing... shaving makes it spikey...

    • nothing. he'll be too worried about what you think of his pubic hair to notice yours.

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  • say "sorry" when you stop laughing.

    • why would I laugh

  • It will probably be awkward, but both of you will get better and it will be more and more enjoyable each time. It will depend on him for how long he lasts. Even if it isn't that long, he should be ready to go again not too long afterwards.

  • It won't be that bad if you both trust each other and know you're inexperienced. The best is if you both have a good sense of humor you can just laugh through it together and don't expect explosive sex, just a little fun and learning what it feels like. Don't make it out to be such a huge deal and put pressure on each other to make it perfect, just relax and let it happen how it happens with no expectations.