20 year old virgin guy, what to do?

[Anonymous]

I'm now almost 20 years old, but have never even kissed a girl. In high school I was very skinny and didn't get any action with girls. Now I have bulked up in the gym, but I'm still the same loser inside. They probably think I'm a cool guy so I don't want to disappoint them. I want to become a cool guy with experience, because I know girls like that, but it means I will have to disappoint some girls before I gain that experience or should I lie?

[s3tupMayne]

Ok now let me tell you that I'm in the exact situation that you are in basically

I'm not "bulky" but I do have a good body these days thanks to the gym. And I've always had a pretty good face, but a few things kept me from getting involved with girls when I was younger: a rough case of social anxiety, cystic acne (the most severe kind, if you don't know), and an eye disorder that left my face looking pretty weird.

I'm now 20 years old and I've only kissed two girls but recently I've been dating a lot more girls (just sort of holding out for the good ones though)

You gotta understand that you need to change the way you look at yourself. The reason why is that your life experiences are just history. They don't influence your future actions or whether or not you'll do the right thing now. What will affect whether or not you do the right thing (which, I guess in this case is something like "get a girl to like you") is how you look at yourself. Confidence and experience will affect how you look at yourself, obviously, but your self-image is more important. If you look at yourself like you're still the same loser, that's what you'll turn into for girls after they get to know you, and actually that'll be more disappointing to girls than the fact that you haven't kissed anybody before

And yes, the truth is that you will disappoint a few girls who are just looking for hookups. There was a girl who (I didn't quite realize how much so btw) sorta desperately wanted to hook up with me. I dated her and like one or two hours into the date we were making out. Then I told her the truth of my sexual history and well it went over alright but things slowed down. She had this image of this sexy god person that she had been fantasizing about me with (I'm completely serious) and all she really wanted to do was hook up with me.

On the other hand, the girls that I got to know a little bit before I dated, well obv there's some attraction but it's not the only thing on their minds. They're willing to try to work stuff out with me before we get in the sack. My first kiss was with a girl who really liked me and she went through and taught me the ropes and we dated for a couple of months after that

You gotta understand that you've made some big changes to yourself, having went to the gym and seriously worked on yourself. That's something that not a lot of people can do, deliberately make a fundamental change to themselves in some way. That basically makes you not a loser by default. You have to power to make changes in yourself and because of that, other people. But you have to understand that you can have an effect on other people and on yourself and you're not stuck in your old tracks to really be ready for that. You won't disappoint anybody with your history, they know that it doesn't make you a person. You'll only disappoint someone with a lack of character or lack of strength. You probably don't have that, so pick yourself up!

[Gregs]

Have a look at some stories in my profile and see if they can get you on the right track

[Asker]

I already know all that. I can have all the confidence in the universe but it won't change anything, sexual experience is important. And another thing is that I don't like girls my age, most of them are like children, they are into parties and other bollocks, I don't like that. I like older women, and they don't like virgin guys, actually no girls do.

[Gregs]

Wow Are you 100% certain of that? If you so worried about that save up some money and go to a prostitute... hell, go to ten prostitutes

[Asker]

Certain of what exactly? That women don't like men with no experience? No I'm 200% sure. ;D I would go to prostitute, but good ones are very expensive, I don't like those with no teeth and needle marks on legs.

[Gregs]

Like I said, save up money if you THINK this means so much, the truth is there are plenty of mature women that would love a guy that isn't experienced to teach and have fun with

[Asker]

Where are they? never seen one :D

[marjorie52001]

Well, I don't advise you to lie!

you never kissed a girl, what are you waiting for? I mean if you find a girl who likes you and you like her back, take a step and do a move!

don't be too shy girls don't like this, just be confident, and don't confess that it's your first kiss or something...

if you are not asked, don't say, but don't lie if they ask u!

the most important thing is how you feel in the relation ship!

I am pretty sure you are a nice guy ;)

so be confident and good luck

[Asker]

I'm not waiting for anything, I just want good for girls and I know I'm not good. Maybe I should get a protitute or something to gain some skills, or is that a bad idea?

[marjorie52001]

About getting a prostitute, that's not a very bad idea, if it will give you confidence, and it can break your shiness! and like berrylicious_818 said be yourself, and experience is not very imporatant as long as you are in a goud relationship ;) dont h?sitate for more questions ;) good luck

[berrylicious_818]

Well you don't gain anything in lieing but make everything worse. You should just try to be yourself. Don't try to be something your not because that isn't you. You want girls to like you for you not something you aint. I don't think its so important to be experianced. That is just a sterotype people have put. Try to have confidance about yourself not sex confidance.