20 years and still a virgin... turn off?

[Anonymous]

I'm 20 years old and have never had sex. I'm pretty much the "good girl", although I've had oral sex and love fooling around. and I really -want- to have sex, and want to experiment with different positions and whatnot (so in other words I'm not gonna be lazy and just lay there. well maybe the first time lol.). But I like to think that what I lack in experience, I'll make up for in enthusiasm/eagerness :P ANYWAYS, my real question is, how big a turn off is it for a guy when a 20yr old girl tells him she's still a virgin? Would love to hear from guys of different age/experience. Also, what's the best way to tell a guy I'm a virgin, while letting him know that I'm still open to having sex?

[Anonymous]

I waited till I was 21 to have sex. For the same reason as you.I was pretty much the "good guy". I don't regret waiting, and yet, I was so anxious to finally find out what I was missing out on. So I really do understand what you are feeling.

Because of this.from my perspective, I think it would be great to find out that the girl was a virgin. I am one of those guys that just loves sex, and to find out that the girl is "anxious" to get involved. Or rather, make up for lack of experience with enthusiasm.LOL. I would love to be able to show her the joys of sex. I think it would be a very erotic journey.

[hartjo80]

it isn't exactly a turn off but some guys don't like to have sex with virgins because of the intense connection a person gets towards their first. you'll remember that person for ever. I'd suggest trying to find a 20 year virgin guy. then yall can experiment and don't hafta worry about if you're doing it wrong. lol. I think it's cool your a virgin but if you really want to get into the sexually active group then I wish you good luck and lots of fun.

ps protection and b.c. don't want any suprise visits from the stork. ;-P

[Mustang2]

look it can scare guys at first because when girls are still virgins we are afraid that you will judge us because we have had sex. so if you tell a guy that you are a virgin immediately tell him that you just never found a guy you wanted to. oh and I word of advise. don't try and find prince charming for your first time. find a guy that you can trust. he doesn't have to be a boyfriend but some one you think that even if yall drift apart you'll be happy it was him. and pick some one you think will be good. haha

[bigboii6655]

Being a virgin isn't actually a turn off but it does mean some **boundaries** in past relationship but you can take those thoughts away from the guy by saying:

I've fooled around before, done a few things, nothing to serious, but I'm ready and willing to go further at the right time.

[wally]

for sum guys it gonna be turn off ,other it will be turn on , if you both guys are in love its not a big deal for him you still virgin , nothing wrong with it been a virgin .