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23 year old male virgin who has never had a girlfriend, am I a loser?
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I'm a 23 year old male virgin who has never even kissed a girl. This fact really gets me down and at times I feel completely useless. I'm worried that if a girl ever found out I was a virgin at 23, she would probably think I'm a complete loser. What do you think?
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What Girls & Guys Said
30 16You are not a loser. You just need to be more courageous and ask a girl out. Stop being shy aroundwomen. If you dodon't change then you'll be single and virgin forever and that's not very nice lol
Loser? No, not in the slightest.
Bro, you aren't a loser. Being shy is really bad and women pick up on that really quick.
DO NOT go to a hooker.
Just keep trying, maybe find a guy friend that can be your mentor/wingman. Also always have a nice hair cut, dress well, and smell good.
I don't think so, but unfortunately most girls WILL... it's just a fact.
gotta do the work
No. I, as a woman, would think that you have standards and moral values.
any girl that thinks you're a loser when you tell her isn't worth being in a relationship with! personally I think its quite sexy when guys have the unexperienced, cute, virgin thing going on.. don't worry x
you are absolutely not a loser.
some girls actually find virginity to be a turn on. please dont listen to anyone who tells you to get a prostitute thats just ridiculous. if you want to talk more about this/want more advice about getting girls without being worried about you lack of experience... private message me
i would also like to add that if you live anywhere near ny and you want to kiss a girl, as long as you're a nice guy i would gladly kiss you haha...kissing is fun :)
Are you available for an advice? I have the same problem as him, I would be glad if you could help me
Don't believe women that say its ok to be. Yes there are women out there that do won't that but its a very small fue. You have to be confident in your self as a man you have to be. They won't you to feel sad and alone when they wouldn't date you themselves, a women can't teach a man how to be a man. You know when your mom says (Dont worry you'll fine someone one day) Dont believe that its only going to make you more alone. I'm 23 average looking I just need to be more confident in my self.
i am also in the same situation n i feel like the fucking world is on top of me whenever my friends bring that up
Your not a loser. A girlfriend won't necesarily fall into your lap!
It's not a bad shout with an escort, and the only reason I say that is becuase she could do all the work if you like. Or you can see it as practice for you. It will get the first time out the way and could make you feel more comfortable and ready for the next time.
I wouldn't usually say something like that but your freinds know you well and perhaps it's an OK idea.
BUT keep it clean! Go somewhere reputable and use protection and get checked afterwards.
I don't blame you not ageeing with your mates either, maybe just get yourself out there.
Go out with your mates and talk to girls, you never know what might come of it unless you try.
Well I'm 22, never had a boyfriend or kissed before and I'm a virgin as well. The thing is you can't let this type if thing get to you because sometimes it is a matter of patience. Perhaps you can try going out and working on your confidence by speaking to women, and then build friendships first. You also shouldn't let what your friends think bother you, there's nothing wrong with being in your situation, when it happens it will be special.
Don't worry bro. I was in your exact same situation last year. I was 24 and never kissed or had a girlfriend. I managed to get my first kiss in March and my first girlfriend around June. I finally lost my virginity in September. It can happen. Don't lose hope yet1
how did you meet your first girlfriend? in school? through mutual friends? online?
Work
A co-worker?
Yes.
sadly to most girls the answer is yes because most girls want a guy who has been pre selected
just do you
no, you are still young.
You're definitely NOT a loser
No you're not
That's awesome, actually. It lets us know that you haven't been giving it away to every girl you meet. And you're clean. It's really hard to find that these days. Don't worry. I'm 22 and I've only had one real boyfriend. Only kissed three people.
Well, you don't have to tell her.
Here's the thing. You could have great looks, great intelligence, great personality, great job... but, if you don't have confidence, you're not going to get a girlfriend.
Self-doubt is like a bad smell. It will turn off girls immediately.