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A guy that doesn't masturbate?
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So I've been in this relationship for a few years now and we're both Christians and mutually decided to wait until we're married to have sex. I'm a virgin but he isn't... I admit sometimes I'm sick of waiting and I tell my boyfriend that who by the way obviously has more will power than me because he'll say no to any advances I make and tells me that I'd just regret it and that he's doing it for us... So here is where my question comes from. I am not naive I don't know why my boyfriend acts like I am. He says he doesn't ever masturbate but I don't even believe there is a guy that doesn't! I've had boyfriends before him at least they were honest with me haha! What guy takes a shower for like 45 minutes if He's not doing that? I know he's not cheating so he's not rejecting me because he's not interested. I just don't like the fact that he's being a liar about such a petty thing.
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I'd appreciate any feedback especially from guys, what do you think? Are there any guys that really don't masturbate? I don't understand his mentality at all, he's too mysterious!
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8 25I know this is a older post but if he is anything like me he probably finds it nasty. I can honestly say that I've never masturbated because i find it disgusting and im a halfway decent looking guy so shouldn't have to in the first place. I know that last part is a bit much but its just how i feel. Best thing to do is have a serious conversation with him if you think it might be a problem mentally or physically best thing you can do is communicate with each other. Hope this helps.
Hey, I might be late on this, but he could be asexual like me. I have never masturbated -no lie- at least not awake. Your boyfriend could be lying to you, but he could also be asexual and not feel the need to masturbate.
You don't even need to be asexual. I used to watch porn for years, basically once a week and felt normal attraction and never did it.
It's his business, just be happy you have a boyfriend & don't worry about it.
GIRL! four years is a long freaking time! My boyfriend and I are Christians and we waited about four months. Either get the freak married or start doin it! Are you sure he isn't gay?
Well, as you said, he's not a virgin...which means he hasn't been completely pious his entire life. He probably has masturbated at some point in his life...however, it's possible that he was able to give it up...just depends what kind of person he is, really.
Masturbation isn't like food or sleep. You can live without it. However, it'd be pretty tough for a lot of guys to do...because it's not just a physical thing, it's a mental thing. In fact, the mental part is what makes it the toughest.
To stop masturbating permanently (or for longer than say a month), most guys would have to change their life around quite a bit.
I believe it is possible if the guy can maintain an emotional balance in his life, has close relationships, eats a good diet, and has good alternative outlets for stress (since masturbation often serves to relieve stress).
BTW, the fact that he takes long showers means absolutely nothing. I take long showers and I don't use that time to masturbate. I don't know...45 minutes doesn't even seem that long to more for a shower, since I've had showers that last for an hour. I guess I just lose track of time. I'm sure you have friends who also take long showers and they're not masturbating while showering.
Any guy that says they don't is lying. Take it to the bank.
Well I can't go more than three days without masturbating or else I feel so horny I want to do any decent looking woman I see. I have trouble sleeping if I don't do it at least once a day.
If he's taking 45 minute showers he is most likely masturbating. I wouldn't take it personally that he won't tell you though, it's a very private thing for most people and many feel ashamed that they do it. It doesn't really mean he doesn't trust you he's just embarrassed and doesn't feel comfortable talking about it, WITH ANYBODY.
Maybe if you tell him about your own masturbation habits he would admit it to you but if I was you I would just leave him alone and let him have his shower fun. It's healthy for men to do it too, it reduces chance of prostate cancer.