Accidental one night stand....?

[Anonymous]

i met a guy through a friend the other night and we instantly connected. Not just with stupid petty sh it but on a personal level.He apparently 'googled' me and got in touch with me. we got together sunday night and ended up getting pretty hammered. and ended up sleeping together. now I have never had a one night stand. I really care about this guy and I feel as if I have blown my chance. We have talked since and my friend stated that he told her that he liked me. Is there a way to correct my actions and show this guy that I actually CARE about him? also~ do guys view this type of action as a one time deal? meaning a girl gives it up easy are you done with her after that? if not how do I know where he stands?

[Deeplove55]

Ok. If he is still around saying that he likes you and is not rejecting you in any kind of way then everything is cool with y'all. he obviously likes you enough to still want you after a 1 night stand. Not all guys think badly of girls they have sex with quick. Most do cause they care nothing 4 the girl and had that hit it and quit it goal in mind but some as yours may really like you to where it wouldn't change his feelings 4 you whether he had you the first night or not. you just never know a guys true motives because some stick around because the sex is really good. So don't jump to any conclusions right now because of this one night stand. Watch how he acts. Does he ever want to go out in public with like taking you out or does he just want to see you to have sex? Does he avoid meaningful conversation? No matter what he says, if he doesn't show that its more than sex, then its probably just sex he's liking you 4.

to correct your actions, See how he reacts if you don't give him sex one night. does he get angry? leave? or he's cool about it, not pressuring? hopefully he cares about your feelings and wait. y do this? it will show whether its more than just sex when y'all are together.

Again, you can never really know how he feels about you cause people say a lot of things they don't mean to get what they want and there's no certain way of its real or not. We just have to trust. Time will tell.

[Gia65]

Can I say this.when are you young woman going to see yourself as equals.

Excuse me but you both slept together.! We help create the attitude that men a lot of men have, by this type of thinking!

So what your where two consenting adults who had a little to much to drink and you had sex.!

The real problem with having sex to soon or should I say prematurely.is you create intimacy before you even get to know one another.it complicates what your feeling.and truly you don't even know each other yet.

You can't change it and hey think of it this way.if he doesn't stay interested well these are the consequences.there are always consequence in life.

I do however hope that things work out they way you hope they will.

Your human and we all do or have had a one night stand during our life time.

[irish-girl-08]

Couldn't agree more

[irish-girl-08]

fellas don't think we what we think honestly if we give it up they don't go to them selfs yep that's it I won't be starting anything serious with her! if they really like us they will want to get to know us more they won't look down at us for giving it up to them so next time you meet up maybe just kiss instead of sex and if he still wants to see you after that he likes you

[Gia65]

That's right irish girl...............guys just say oh she is a slut or she is easy so can justify using a girl.

[irish-girl-08]

Not were I live to be honest most people who I know who had one night stands are going out with them fellas now! don't get me wrong but there are some guys who do think oh slut I'm just going to use her but its not always the case we say we should be treated equal right? well we should stop assuming all guys are the same as this isn't being equal which we always go on about wanting to have

[Crapshoot]

Most guys don't think that if a girl gives it up on the first date that she's a slut, that's just something girls spread around. The problem though is that he's going to expect sex from you if you are in a relationship and this might cause tension at times.

The other aspect is that guys will say anything to get into a girls pants, and if you just eat up all his bullshit you might end up being used, i.e. you want a relationship and he's just in it for the sex until it gets too serious, then he'll book.

I suggest that you ask him to hang out, but don't give into his sexual advances until you've gone out a few times. Don't hold out too long though, I HATE it when a girl holds out for too long and it literally can drive me to the point where I don't want anything to do with her even if there is a spark.

For guys, sex just comes with the relationship. If you're not having sex with him and it goes on long enough he'll get frustrated and look for someone who will have sex with him. This isn't the case for all men, but it definitely is for most in our age range.

[ilovelegs]

I'm not one to give credit to a girl that has a one night stand. I guess that makes me think that sex is her main motive in a relationship and she's had them before. He may still like you and want to see you but I don't know how serious of a relationship that'll ever turn into. But who knows. Given enough time of being together and his seeing that having sex isn't all there is about you, you guys might really connect someday in a good relationship that isn't built on sex. Don't make a big deal out of trying to explain to him unless you have already. If you're not that "easy" then let him know that you're aren't and he may respect that. Was this your first one night stand? I guess it depends on what kind of a relationship you want with him. A fun and great friendship that can lead to love, or just one where you really like each other and you spend a lot of time in the sack until you both get bored.

[dakadan]

I think it depends on the chemistry that was created. I had a one night stand that turned into a two-night stand that turned into a marriage. Call him and let him know that you feel he is more than a quick fling and you would be interested in exploring a relationship with him. Start communicating with him instead of guessing what to do.

[Crapshoot]

This is good advice also, you should definitely call him and ask him to hang out. Just don't underestimate the power a man's sexual needs have over the way he thinks, it might lead to heartache.

[mav0502]

nothing at all wrong with a 1 night stand.and you both were part of it and you both still want to talk again.thats all a plus sign for everything.you guys also click.so where is the problem really? your both adults and can do what you want when you want.so call him up and talk to him.if it happens again then great.if you find you liked it the first time and meet up again.the go for it.who cares.once ur enjoying it together.could be the start of a great relationship.