Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I asked what I could write a myTake about and someone said I should write about my first sexual experience. First I was like "No way!" but here we are. Perfect for the anniversary of my first time.
On this page a lot of people asked questions about this and this is not about my first experience, this Take is more general tips for your first time. (these tips are mainly for straight people, not meant to offend anyone) Just a few tips on the way...
The right timing...
...is when YOU feel ready. Don't let yourself get pressured into doing something you don't want to do. Some people are ready at 16 while others may not feel ready until they are 47, there is no perfect timing and no perfect age to lose your virginity! It is your body and you should decide when and with whom you want to experience your first time. Your body, your life and your decision.
All the magic during your first time...
...is bullshit. Sorry to say that like this, but well someone has to say the truth. Your very first time won't be magical. Sex is not magical, it can be special though.
The pain for us girls...
...is different from person to person. Some of us will have pain and others won't. When your hymen breaks it's just a little pain. It's over in a second. Also it can break during sport, that's what happened to me and it's not a big deal.
Girls, when he is entering your vagina with his penis, you will feel pressure. It's fine. My best advice I got and can give to you is BREATHE! Relax and breathe. After the first few strokes it will be over, that's just a few seconds.
-> If it doesn't stop hurting though, stop what you guys are doing. See a Doctor and relax, don't panic.
Let's not forget about the blood part
Some of us will bleed and others don't. It's different from person to person. Also to add when we're talking about blood, I don't mean "the sheets will be drowning in blood" blood. I mean there will be a little blood stain. Just put a towel underneath. Also if there is a blood stain, wash it with cold water and soap. Moreover, some bleed afterwards. Don't panic girl, it's fine and it will stop in like 1-5 min (again, different from person to person). It's also not that much, just sit on the toilet and let it bleed.
Figure out what you really like
During your first time, you can't really tell what you like. Try it out a little bit and after a while you will figure out what you really like and what you don't. Both of you should try to concentrate on your own and your partners needs and wishes.
Communication
Communication is very Important, talk to your partner what feels good right now and what doesn't. Also listen to your partner if they tell you something. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want, you can't get more then a no. Yes, a "no" does not hurt you. Life will go on.
Don't fake your orgasm!
Also a topic I read a lot on this page. Don't fake it! If you're faking it, he will believe he is doing a good job and he will continue doing what he is doing every time you sleep with him. Meaning, you will need to fake having pleasure every time you sleep with him instead of actually having pleasure. It's nothing wrong with telling what you like and what you don't. Your partner will be thankful if you can help a little bit, because no one can read minds.
Also guys keep in mind, not every girl magically orgasms and definitely not just by penetration.
Plus guys, it's not bad when she touches herself during the act, just wanted to put this out there, because I did also read some questions and comments about that.
Take time!
Go slow and take your time. Enjoy each other and take time to explore each other. I would suggest you both try missionary the first time and do a lot of foreplay and even if you want, you can use some lube.
Enjoy the moment!
If you don't relax your mind and already go in with a negative mindset, it won't be good. Relax and see what happens, don't overthink and enjoy the moment.
Sex is really awesome and fun, it isn't not only for reproduction. We're human being with needs and there is nothing wrong with expressing those needs! Just don't hurt someone else.
Overall keep it safe, use protection and take care of each other. Be open to what happens and enjoy!
What Girls & Guys Said
10 19Thanks for these tips that I'll never use
is this one of those mytakes
How was your first time
Great take!!
Thank you for this, this is really helpful and make me less worried! :)
Hi
My girlfriend didn't have sex for 11 years and when we had sex she said it feels like the first time and hurt, tho we had two sessions the first was okay but said still hurts , second time the next day she asked me to finger her in the middle of the session but after we were done she felt too hurt and said it's bleeding? so we stooped. Now i want her to see a doctor but she is shy or something. I really want her to be okay cuse i don't know what is wrong.
Well I know after a while it can feel like that, but I find seeing a doctor is a good idea. No one is too shy for getting help on their health Good luck tho
I like your advices, for me to late but hope this helps someone who still has this coming 😊