After sex my husband ignores me?

I do not ask to have the long conversations after we do sex, but I really want to cuddle and he will not. What can I do to get him to cuddle with me? It is making me sad.
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  • If I were you I would just try to communicate with him your feelings and what exactly you want/need from him. I would ask him to maybe compromise that if he really wasn't into it, to at least do it sometimes for you anyway. I think if he loves you once you put it all out on the table how it makes you feel he'll most likely listen.

    If after you've had this conversation and nothing changes I would feel like there's something deeper wrong with the marriage if he cannot listen to your feelings.

    • Thank you for the nice answer. I think I will try to approach him with this idea. He is so moody lately :( I think it is stress at his work that is causing him to be as this.

    • Stress could be it too, sometimes when my guy is stressed from work he really can be emotionally distant because when he's home he just wants to do his thing you know and relax. Sometimes I take it personally because my stupid emotions but rationally I know it has nothing to do with me and I just try to communicate with him my feelings and we compromise on things.

  • I always nuzzle and play the cute card...I'm not sure if that works for everyone but tell him you feel used and you want a more emotional connection and maybe tell him how much it means to you.

Most Helpful Guys

  • People express there love in different ways. He's obviously not very sensual. That's simply the way some people are wired. Nothing you do will change him, but if the two of you have good communication, you can get him to comprise some for your sake. You'll never get everything you want out of him though...

    • he use to cuddle, and now he stop and I do not know why :(

    • We all do things we don't really want to do in the beginning of a relationship. Time goes on, we get increasingly comfortable around the person, then we let ourselves slip into our own normality. The ones that make it are the ones who can overlook the little things and comprise on the big things.

  • well I hate to do this to the guy but have it in the contract...before you put out tell him "you want it then we will cuddle after"...laws are made up of just simple agreements

    • communicate with him ask him why he doesn't ...give him the space to say anything and let it be ok...then tell him what you want and why it's important to you. make a request and compromise I think it's pretty simple

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  • Pretty sure there are lots of problems in your marriage. The cuddling isn't the problem, there is a deeper issue.

  • With a girl as cute as you, what's his problem?

    • I do not know. He is 19 years more old than me, maybe he too tired? :(

    • that's quite the age gap I'm sure you know that, It may be that or something else? My best advice would be to talk to him about it, if he cares about the relationship he will be honest about it, if he tries to brush it off then that could be a sign that he may not deserve you.

    • 19 years is a pretty huge age gap. The poor dude is exhausted. You're young enough to be his daughter. He can't keep up with you. By the time you're his current age, he'll be in a retirement home and you'll be changing his adult diapers.

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  • ...and you married him...?

    Communicate your concerns to him.

  • Well most guys have a short term loss of interest after sex...but cuddling isn't sex...maybe he can't help it but I would talk to him about it...you are not even asking him to kiss you...o.O

  • Stop being so needy.

    • That was just flat out rude.

    • What a rude and worthless answer. Wanting some more intimacy other than from sex from her HUSBAND is not needy.

  • f*** ablack guy they won't ignore you after, trust me