After sex, rest time?

[Anonymous]

i understand you guys are not like us girls (unfortunately) and need time to rest between sex, but what I want to know is how long do you normally have to rest for? and is there anything that can turn you back on, and get you back in the mood faster? also how can I help my guy to last longer in bed, as he gets really mad with himself when he comes early (after couple of minutes) on my birthday (new years eve) it was the best sex we have ever had, he lasted coming on to 30 minutes and we orgasmed together, it was fantastic but we can't seem to get back to that

[KERMlT]

Well, you could take his short performance as a compliment. If it really feels good, a guy can't help himself.

Position is key. If he has control over how fast he is going the better he can control that. If a woman is riding on top, she might not heed the call to slow down.

Sensitivity. If his penis is really sensitive (uncircumcised penis for instance) then you might try to use a condom. I wouldn't recommend two condoms though since it wasn't made for that and other complications can arise.

Warming up. If he rubs one off before coming over, or perhaps that is taken care of during foreplay, then he should last longer later on. Depending on how much recovery time is needed, it could be done prior to going to dinner so he should be good by the time you come home.

Hormones. Testosterone isn't the only hormone racing through his system. I guy could have no rest time at all and go for another one right after (without the use of drugs). When a guy climaxes though, it releases a hormone that acts like tryptophan (eating turkey). It makes him sleepy and thus why guys tend to nod off after sex.

Up again. I wouldn't say that physical touching is a good indication of interest. Studies have shown that physical contact from an unwanted source can stimulate an erection (massage from a sister or another dude). A better indication may be a bit more subtle. If your partner is willing to listen, describe to him what you wish to do and you should be able to see results. Dirty talk might send the signal to his brain for more sperm production thus give him an erection.

Switch things up. If your partner is getting into a groove and you feel that the show will end soon, switch positions. Try new angles, use a toy, do foreplay activities again, etc. You could even tie him up and go slowly. Hope that works for you.

[cosmopolite]

Use a condom or lots of lube.

Ask him to masturbate 12-24 hours before you two get together.

He should do a half hour, at least, of foreplay on you. Then you will come after, say, a mere 5 minutes of penetration. You should also combine masturbation with vaginal penetration. My wife always does that, and she always comes.

After he comes, you should be able to get him hard again after 15-30 minutes of finger or oral foreplay. He should then last a whole lot longer. In fact, he may be able to come only 1-2x a day and so outlast you after he's come the first time

Begin with a BJ to orgasm. Take a break, possibly including food. Then begin finger foreplay, which includes his doing what you prefer to your clit. When you are thoroughly warmed up, which may take over a half hour, being vaginal. I bet you will come before he does!

If none of this works and he keeps coming in under a minute, you will have to seek professional advice. There is one thing he should never do, and that is to have himself circumcised. That could work wonders when he's young, but could poison his sex life after he's 40 or 50.

[wanacot]

The rest time varies for every guy. Typically younger guys can recover faster, but not always. Some are luckier than others.

To last longer he can try different condoms and/or lubricants which basically numb the sensation for him somewhat. Also, get him to practice getting close to orgasm then stopping and letting the orgasm subside. Another thing he can try is kegal exercises for men (google for instructions).

I'm curious what made that one night so much better than any other. Was he drinking heavily or doing anything out of the norm? That could be an indicator if he follows that template you will get the same great sex again.

[Asker]

We are curious as to that night too - no, nothing different, he had a couple of drinks but nothing major, but then that can be said for other times too and didn't have the same results. didn't get on with condoms at all, more I couldn't get on with them than him - but we were both virgins when got together, did tests in case on the request of my doc, and I have the implant, so yes we are being safe. thanks

[quinner23x]

Drink makes you last longer get him drunk and you might not hav to suffer crap sex any more,

[Asker]

It is by no means crap sex, he makes sure I am suitably satisfied before hand, and this does that bloody brilliantly, and it is good sex I just wish it would last longer, but recently it has been getting shorter and shorter, last 3 times 10-30 seconds literally :(

[OutOfMyElement43]

Tell him to think of apples when he feels the urge. It works of me. Most women need a few minutes of slow down time after orgasm; so, don't get all haughty on us. As far as recovery time? I need five hours. What gets me back in the mood? Sleep!

[MrWizard]

I can be recovered in 5-10 minutes. Physical stimulation does the trick for me.

[RipnRawhide]

It depends on the amount of previous sex and his enery levels

[chiefnavarro]

i need like 5-10 minutes to rest

he can do exercises were he can orgasm without ejaculating and you saty hard and the penis swells. its awsome.

[Anonymous]

If I'm having sex with 1 woman, I can usually go again after about 20 minutes. But if I am going from one woman to another, I am ready to go after about 2-3 minutes.

[Asker]

Thats just wrong!!!

[Opinion Owner]

But true.

[Asker]

Well you shouldnt be going from one woman to another!! you are what I call a man whore!! lol but seriously, have you any self respect??

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I do, I totally respect people of all levels of sexual activeness, and deviancy.

[Anonymous]

there is actually a way you can get your guy to last longer and rest less. it takes training though. they are called pc muscles I believe located at the lower abdomen. look up pc muscle exercises. these muscles contribute on how quickly a guy comes and how fast he is able to go back in.