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Am I a 23 year old virgin loser?
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Hi I am in a weird situation I'm 23 years old a still a virgin, never had a girlfriend and really have no experience. it might seem strange to those who do not know me well as I'm kind-hearted, honest, good looking, in amazing shape (im ripped), and highly intelligent (a straight A student). On the other hand I lack confidence, am shy and can be very socially awkward.especially when I approach women. I'm worried that when I eventually do get a girlfriend she'll judge me for being a virgin and think I'm some kinda weirdo or something? do you guys think she will and would you have a problem dating someone in my situation?
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39 23Here's a thought. Don't tell her your a virgin. Hell that's the good thing about being a guy. No hymen to snitch on us.
Really? Do you plan on giving girls your STDS in that manner too? Grow up.
The hymen can be broken by vigorous exercise, injury, or just random accident. Additionally, women aren't all alike, and while some have fragile hymens, others have flexible ones that can withstand the stresses of sex without breaking. Add to that the fact that you really have to know what to look for to see a broken hymen, it's not a solid sheet when it's intact, and varies in size down to total absence.
Virginity is not a definition of anything other than character and personal choice. You are not a loser.
no way not wierd! girls will love u!
I know a couple girls that think being a virgin is hot. They're always on the lookout for a virgin haha. Don't be overly nice, but not a jerk either. And just talk to them. The worst a girl can do is tell you to leave her alone, at which point you just go about your life, even if it does feel like crap for a minute.
NOT at all. you sound so cute and so sweet! I know a guy who is 23 and he still a virgin he is so HOt. his just waiting for the right girl !
well for starters there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, since you seem to lack confidence you should find someone outgoing. if you have no confidence at all then you gotta at least act like you have some in front of a girl your interested in, the key point here is to keep her interested which isn't hard if she really likes you too and as far as confidence thing is concerned girls are people to and may just well be as nervous as you
dude don't call yourself a loser that means you may have low self esteem which girls hate.
keep your head up and be confident. try talking to woman on msn or online first than you can get the hang of it then you will be more comfortable with them. you sound like you have all the tools just practice practice practice and you will be fine. Even try interacting with girls you know like close friends or family and you will know how to act around girls and at first always have a confident wingman even if your not trying to pick up a girl just in case
I was in the same boat a year ago. The best thing for you to do is forget about how anyone thinks about it. Knowing what they think won't help your situation. It'll only hurt your confidence. Just get out there and meet people. You don't even have to tell them, but if you do tell a girl your really into it would help.
its a good thing becuz you ain't a manwhore like some other s**t out there
I'm 21, still a virgin, never had a girlfriend.
Find a lady friend to help you build up your confidence! Or you can do little things by overcoming your shyness by simply asking a random girl if you could borrow a pencil, ask for directions, time, etc. (be sure to smile and say thank you!) then move up by having actual conversations.
Also, the best sex I had was with a 20-year-old virgin. Why? Some men tend to think they're the shit in bed (when they're really not) only to ruin it by setting women's expectations too high. Not all girls like to be touched or spoken to the same way! The guy I slept with wanted to know where I liked to be touched, how hard/fast I wanted it, and LOVED to please.
Women will NOT judge you for being a virgin but women do love men who are confident (not cocky!).
Dude I am in the same boat, except I am not highly intelligent or good looking, but I am honest, very nice, I am decent looking I guess, I am funny, not everything you list though. I am terrible with talking with girls though, I always end up in the "friend zone." I felt that I will never lose my virginity, but after reading this it gives me new hope. I mean I have had my chances, but I was waiting for the right girl, now I am just anxious to get it over with! Does anyone have advice for me?
I am also 23.
your not weird am in the same spot as you am hot and sexy but never had a real relation w a guy because when they hear that am a virgin all they want to do is have sex and am not willing to sleep w ne1 that not right for me so keep our head I no I am
You are most certainly NOT a loser! I actually happened upon your question because I was wondering if I was alone in the world too. I just got out of a 7 year relationship and I am a virgin too. I am terrified of dating again because I know it isn't the most common thing nowadays. In fact, I would love to find a guy out there, my age, who is too. The whole virgin thing doesn't necessarilly have to be determined by how appealing you are to the other sex. It simply means that you have standards and understand there is more to a relationship than just the physical stuff. I can only see that as an attractive quality for a guy to have. If a girl thinks your a weirdo because you are in the habit of behaving responsibly, dump her immediately and call me lol j/k. But seriouslly, keep doing what you are doing, you will make some girl who is really worth it very happy someday. Just be patient.
dont be shy and shy is disease just like Sylvester Stallone said on Rocky 1 ;)
You would be so fun to play with, as you are new to it all. I don't think its a bad thing, you will get your time sooner or later. I wouldn't worry too much.
First off, I'm a 22 year old Virgin and there is nothing wrong with still being one. In fact you should be proud of your self, its an amazing to want to save your self for one person alone. The girl you choose to give your self too should feel honored, and if she doesn't then she most likely just wants sex from you in general.
Best of luck! Keep it up too, guys like you or a rare thing.
No, I don't think she will judge you. It will actually probably be a turn on. You could tell her the truth and ask for guidance on how to please her. Women love that. Also, don't get your moves and techniques from pornos. That is absolutely not how a woman wants to make love.
do you still need an answer to your question as I think I might be able to help you out. Reply if you would like me to help you
Hi, I do not think you are a weirdo looser. I'm in the same situation as you: a 23 year old, quite fit and smart although shy, guy.