Am I too tight?

I tried having sex with my boyfriend (I'm a virgin) and it couldn't go in, we tried and tried but it was impossible, I was really horny so that's not the problem. we only tried one position, reverse cowgirl. I don't have any problems with using tampons or inserting small things but I seem too tight for a dick to fit. Any positions that help it slide in easier?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • So, first, let me echo some of the other comments here by saying that no matter how horny (which I assume translates to wet, but that isn't always the case) you are, adding lube can make things easier. In my experience, lube almost always makes sex better. And nerves can still cause you to tighten up, so it's important to be as relaxed as possible.

    As far as positions go, I wouldn't start out with reverse cowgirl. I think of that as more of a Level 2 or Level 3 position (I don't actually have a level-system classification of sex positions—though I should...—but I think you get the point). Even for experienced people, sometimes the naughty bits don't line up quite right with reverse cowgirl, due to hip angles, penis curves, etc.

    For your first time, I'd recommend you on top (regular cowgirl, I suppose, although you can lean forward as well, making it less cowgirl-ish) or good ole fashioned missionary. Missionary allows you to spread your legs in a way that is more natural and therefore might be more comfortable. It also allows for an intimacy level with your boyfriend that might help you relax. You on top, facing forward, offers an easier angle of penetration (I'm assuming your boyfriend's penis doesn't curve downward) while allowing you to control the depth of penetration as you adjust to having him inside of you.

    If you're able to use tampons and insert other small things (the vagueness of "other small things," I have to admit, makes me curious—Sharpies? Hot Wheels cars? Diminutive former Yankees shortstop and hall-of-famer Phil Rizzuto?) then it's probably not that you're naturally too tight for a penis to fit. A penis is thicker than a tampon (hopefully), but the vagina is elastic, and on a relative scale, a penis is not so much bigger that it shouldn't be able to adapt. It's likely just a matter of being patient and taking enough time to let yourself adjust. Focus on lots of foreplay. You may want to start out with one of his fingers inside you, then move on to two of his fingers inside you to get more comfortable. Get to the point where he can have his middle and ring fingers inside you and rotate them a bit and you should be able to fit his penis after that.

  • Read up on "vagnismus." Also, you might try again with lube, if you weren't using it. Condoms drink the stuff up >< And... try try try again :) When I was dating a virgin, it took us 3 tries to get things to work. We were both relaxed about it, so we just tried again.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Really no man's going to complain about being tight that's why being with a virgin is like finding the holy grail your problem is position try missionary using lubrication

  • LUBEEEEE. And lots of it!! I always need it with my boyfriend even if I'm dripping wet. It helps to have some on him too before going in otherwise it can hurt

  • Lube, lube, lube. Lube it like a Thanksgiving turkey girl.

    • this should get best comment of the day award

    • I know, right?

  • No the best way is doggy style trust me and put lube

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  • Remember to relax and ask him not to rush when he's penetrating you. Using lube is a good idea as well.

  • Just lubricant and lots of foreplay. If you're warmed up and ready it will fit unless you have vagismus in which case you should see a doctor for that

  • Why on earth would you try a position like that for your first time? Either missionary or NORMAL cowgirl.

  • Try doggie position but you need to be ate out first n get real cummy pussy that should make it easier

  • Did you tense up a lot due to being nervous? Horniness and being wet doesn't necessarily prevent tensing up.

  • Reverse cowgirl might not be the best position to start off with, missionary would probably work a lot better.

  • you could try missionary.

  • Relax and try very slowly over a long period of time. Helps to maybe orgasm first through oral or so. To "warm up"

  • Invest in some astro glide, and keep trying till you score a touchdown!

  • Ah!!! No, being tight is not the problem. It's the starting position. You should have him do missionary, very slowly, otherwise it will hurt for you... the key for him is to go slow as he may be excited too quickly. Once you and him are comfortable.,. switch over. You both should enjoy it more

  • NO.

    Your body is simply not relaxed and not aroused enough for penetration.
    With the proper time and arousal ANY sexually mature vagina will expand and relax enough to allow ANY human male penis to penetrate it.

  • Oh boi... ( - -)

  • Lol change the dick, he might be too big, you need to start with thinner! Or maybe relax your muscles there, and lots of lubes and foreplay. Alcohol may help