Am I not satisfying my boyfriend?

My boyfriend and I been together for about a year now. We have sex frequently witch it a good thing but he takes extremely long to ejaculate about an hour and a half to two hours. But if I were to go down on him, he ejaculates right away. So I feel like I can't satisfy him when it comes to intercourse.
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  • Ok look I can go quick or make it last a really long time I will take longer if the girl hasn't got hers or as many as she enjoys haveing so maybe he holds back to insure you get yours then it kind of blue balls sets in so to speak and it's harder for a man to finish takeing a long time I can't say all men do this but if I hold back Cumming to insure she finished then I can go for a long time Now why he comes fast during a blow job you may be very good at it or he is not worring about you getting of it's about him. A second thought is many girls can't get off during sex they get off by oral or using a vibrator during sex needing more stimulation doesn't mean you don't enjoy sex it's just hard to finish I'm sure this works the same with guys. Just like girls may not come by sex Alone men may have something Don't stress to much enjoy the fact you get it for so long I bet there lots of females would live there guy to last along time

    • lol.. our quickies are never quickies. and I have manyyyy orgasms witch I love but by the time he is done I'm also so sore that we have to wait a day , sometime 2 to have sex again. He's not taking long cause he wants to.

    • Sounds like he may have a medical or mentail problem not saying he is crazy but he may not be getting the stimulation he needs from just sex doesn't mean he don't like it just a stimulation factor try this have sex till you get off as many times as you want then just finish him with a BJ since that goes quick Or start with a BJ get his mojo going then have sex if you want it inside u

    • Question a BJ are to doing it bareback no condom cause if your using condoms during sex he might not get the stimulation to bring him to finish. If you use condoms for sex that could be a reason there

  • i bet you he is trying to last that long. I had the same problem cause the first time I had sex with my girlfriend I lasted over an hour. I forget what she said but I got the impression that now she always expected me to last over an hour. After dating for a while she told me she doesn't like sex to last for longer then 30min cause it starts to hurt. ha ha deff was a weight lifted off my shoulders knowing she didn't expect sex to last super long made sex a lot more enjoyable.

Most Helpful Girl

  • i have this same problem. me and my guy take extreamly long to "get off". I have done everything I could to try make it faster. the only thing I have found to do is; 1) go down on him. and 2) use no protection. Not a good thing but hey it works. I think you should just be open with it and ask him if there's something you may b doin he don't perticularly like, or ask him if there's something new he would like to try. In the end it could be he has a medical problem. It happens...

    • we don't use protection.

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  • You can't conclude that he's unsatisfied with his sex life just because he orgasms slowly from intercourse. It could just be how he's wired (same as the overwhelming majority of women, note).

    • i could be but if its orally or masturbation it doesn't take him an hour or more.

    • So? Why should that mean anything at all?

  • Is this a problem for you?

    I'd suggest you:

    A: have sex till you've had as much as you want

    B: go down on him.

    Have you spoken to him? Does he know 1.5-2 hours is more than you need, or does he think he's being superlover?

    • He knows that he take longer then I would like me to. I asked him if I'm not satisfying him. he tills me to stop being silly!

  • It takes three things in some combination in order for a man to reach orgasm. Friction, Tempo and mental stimulation. Increase any or all of those three and the time taken to completion will be reduced.

  • He is enjoying the sex with you. He comes quickly from head because he maybe enjoys head more than intercourse. Many men enjoy oral more than intercourse(including me). It should make you happy that he comes so quickly from you being down there. He definately is into you and enjoys your face so much he comes quickly.