he needs to care about your pleasure, that's the biggest thing. there's a position you can try that might help a lot. have him slide in all the way and then instead of pumping in and out (the friction of which is making him come quickly), have him stay all the way inside you and just sort of pulse his pubic bone against your clit. if he does it right, it'll be great for your guys because you get the pleasure of being totally filled up by him AND clitoral stimulation and he's experiences almost no friction so the tightness won't be a problem. if he can do this to the point that you're about to come, THEN he can start pumping towards his 30 second orgasm. ;)
and just in general, if he has these stamina problems, as he works on them, he needs to learn how to pleasure you other ways. I know from personal experience that giving a girl repeated rounds of 30 second sex does NOT keep her happy. have him use his hand and mouth on you BEFORE intercourse so you get yours! sex needs to be fun and MUTUALLY pleasurable. good luck!
I've always been quick in bed. I've done my kegels, practised slow masturbation and all the other techniques suggested with zero effect really. So out of desperation I procured some Dapoxetine. If you dont know How to get it, the easiest thing to do is just search on Google for the keyword * DAP247TAP * ❤️ . I last longer on it without a doubt 😀 - note that it does not anaesthetise one's penis or deaden sensation, but it just gives you 'breathing space' - for a life long rapid ejaculator to be able to experience penetration for longer periods without constantly trying to hold back is pretty amazing. I've just found that they have Via*ra and Cia*is with Dapoxetine 👍. That's amazing.
eh, I had/have this "problem" as well, though it usually doesn't kick in until she's about to orgasm. once she starts clenching on me down there, its all over, lol. usually causes her to miss out on hers, unless she's on BC and I can keep going, or unless I use my hands or tongue to immediately stimulate her when I pull out, which kinda makes my own orgasm not so great.
of course, its also kind of an emotional thing for me as well, not just physical. if I'm not feeling...connected...she can orgasm all she wants and I'll never get close.
one thing that might help your boyfriend though, is to have him masturbate before you guys are going to have sex. its never as sensitive and pleasurable the second time, and he should last much longer.
also, he should have you orgasming in 30 seconds anyway, is the dude not giving you any foreplay at all? it usually doesn't take longer than a minute for any girl I've been with to reach climax, unless I just jump straight in, not wanting to bother with it.
My problem is, I'm so tight that he barely gets the tip in and he cums. I tried telling him not to worry and just go for it rather than easing in but he is afraid he will tear me and doesn't see blood 😔 we even tried to slide him in while he was only semi-hard but he said I am just too tight.
I have been with someone a little larger than him before, and yes, he tore my labia. But I didn't really bleed during sex, only after... For days.
Is there anything beyond lube, foreplay, and dildos to loosen me up? Are the oils or lotions I can use to relax the muscles/opening?
Your boyfriend needs to learn how to control his urge to skeet. Things he can do is bite his tongue, breathe in a couple times, think about grandma..There's any things.. It prob has a little to do with that ur tight, but not all.. He's just an eager beaver that needs to learn to control.. A good way to go about it is to google "why I come so fast" something like that... Read diff techniques and lay down with him 1 day, saying hey, lets try this, then we can enjoy it longer.. Never make him feel dumb bout it, instead educate and have better LONGER sex..
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ok well I have to add to this question because I have had this problem with EVERY guy I have been with including my ex husband whom we had sex everyday and all have said its because I am so tight...so I am not sure either but I just honestly don't believe every guy I have been with has no stamina so it could possibly be the tightness...I have had male friends say that come faster with a female that is tight vs barely being able to get a nut with a loose female so it does have something to do with the way that your va jay jay feels lol yes I did say va jay jay
Thanks. I agree.
Good for you . . . but also POOR you! wow, as a guy who used to struggle with cumming after 30 seconds, I would have TOTALLY been of the mind that it was as stamina problem. but you make a pretty good argument for the effects of the "tight va jay jay". ;) but still, I gotta believe that the most likely thing is that it's a combo of the two. the BIG problem is that she isn't getting any pleasure out of sex. He needs to work on his stamina AND learn how to pleasure her in other ways!
Well sucks about the no pleasure thing I was lucky enough to be with someone that could come and keep going.......if he cums too fast just give him and few mins and start up foreplay again.......trust me most men would rather you be tight then loose.......try to use extra lube it helps I have always had to because my ex would say I was so tight it felt like it was ripping the skin off his d*** and lube helped or use a condom it desensitizes for the male
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No, it's just his inexperience.
No, ask him for foreplay before sex. He should suck, lick n finger you before insert his dick into your pussy. Almost you'll cum with him.
ha! he cums so fast because he has a problem! its not you hun. it's called premature ejaculation, that's his problem. ur perfectly fine. although he's a total d-bag for blaming ur tight vagina.
yeah, he's not upset about it because he's getting his orgasm. you're not too tight, he just has no stamina. he's gotta work on that or starting giving you oral/fingering until you come as well
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