Anal sex accident?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 years and we just decided to try anal sex recently. we had done it several times with no problems and both really enjoyed it, but yesterday we did it and when he pulled out there was some poop on his penis (he wasn't wearing a condom). He got really grossed out (he gets grossed out pretty easily so this was pretty bad on his gross-o-meter) and told me it wasn't my fault but now he never wants to do anal again. I really like having anal sex and would like to do it again but I don't know what to say to him and feel kind of embarrassed to talk to him about it now... any advice?

[peace-love-couture]

I don't understand why people have anal sex thinking that the anus isn't wear feces comes out of...

First mistake made was him not wearing a condom.It is recommended to use a condom for that exact purpose along with other reasons such as STD prevention and protection and because you aren't suppose to have butt to mouth or butt to vaginal sex,you can just take it off.

Make sure you do an enema(syringe with warm water) and shower beforehand.

Just tell him you're sorry for what happened and ask him if there's anything you can do to interest him in anal again

[MzHellfyre]

Shit happens. ;) If it wasn't willing to get a little poo on em, then he shouldn't have been putting himself in the poo-hole. Try to suck up your pride and just talk to him about it. Tell him that you really enjoy it, and how good it feels to you, and see what he says. Tell him that if he uses a condom for it, then he won't get anything right on him. You should be probably using a condom for anal anyways, even if you don't use it for vaginal. There is risk for unpleasant infections. I say just give a little time, then talk to him about it.

[rayray_1990]

That's normal. lol. Unless you plan on using some kind of laxative every time you want to have anal, it'll happen at least every once in a while. If he's that grossed out by it, he shouldn't do it anymore or use a condom.

[MarcoUSA]

Great point! If you're mature enough to have anal, you're mature enough to learn how to prep for/deal with any poop accidents. I have helped girls with enemas before anal. I mean, I am the one enjoying her butt hole -- I can help clean it. I have done anal thousands of times -- seen poop here and there but not often and never much. Did not even phase me. I have no fear around a woman's anus. If you take that attitude, it won't matter if anything happens. And you know what, because you have that attitude, it probably won't. The more you try to clench off and make sure nothing happens? Sometimes that makes it worse...

[MrMysteryMan]

You have to talk it out if you want to have some more. No pun intended but sh*t happens right? It goes with the territory and you both have to understand this is going to happen. Unless you have an enema or something before you guys do the deed, then you're more prepared and cleaner. But tell him you're sorry it happened and if it makes him feel better, it was more embarrassing for you (which I'm sure it was). But use condoms next time. Just talk about it and in a more humorous light.

[smokeadmiral]

Okay, first off...anal sex? he's placing his penis inside of you having anal sex without a condom...what'd he think would be the possiblities of that happening? tell him to man up and get the hell over it. It's anal sex...although it feels good there are things that happened with that type of sex. Jezzzzz...some boys just need to cowboy up.

[MissionX]

First of all you should use a condom in second use the restroom before.

[Forgotten-Laur]

It's your anus! Everyone knows what comes out of there. What did he expect? Tell him shit happens. Lol. It happened to someone I know at work too. Although if he just wants normal sex from now on, maybe that's not such a bad thing.

[travis8888]

there are just certain things that gross's guys out. for me personally I won't come in a girls mouth. but I think if you've been with each other for over 3 years you should just talk to him. personally, I wouldn't want to do it again

[Maestr077]

That's exactly why I don't like anal so much...

Enema will solve the problem but you shouldn't be doing anal without a condom, it probably carries the risk of some infection especially if you're alternating between anal and vaginal.

[dakotaman34]

Its one of those things that happens sometimes. I have been their and understand completely what you are talking about. But its part of the game and it can happen from time to time. Tell him its all part of the game.

[MarcusDavis]

Sorry, that is one immature dude. I mean, whatever happens, it takes 2 to tango. Own up to your part bud. You can get a lot of insight at www.puckerup.com anal advisor. It is a woman answering anal questions, and she is terrific. God, you let a little thing like that stop you? No wonder this country is failing. IF the guy does it right, it should be an AMAZING orgasm for you both. Learn to deal with occasional milk dud. It is NOT that big a deal...

[knotme]

That's something that comes with the territory. I dont know what you can say to that

[southman]

Try buying an enema kit at the pharmacy store, give yourself an enema before leaving the house, it harmless and painless..it will clean anything out for the evening for you

[TallyWho]

Those immortal words... shit happens !

[Proxmty]

Have it with me instead. I will enjoy your poop shoots.

[Anonymous]

That's hot..I'd fuck u in the ass

[Anonymous]

its a risk we all must. I have a feeling he left something behind too, and you had to deal with it. so tell him to get over it becuase you like it and everthing no matter how dirty can wash off in a single shower. were animals so dig in.

the above is contigent on you at least doing your rudimentary, hygienic duty.

[Anonymous]

OH NO! Not Dukey-Dong!

If he hasn't already, he needs to get over this And give you what you like.

I see the date marker on this post is 9 months ago. I'm sure this issue has been resolved one way or the other. Did he get over it?

[Anonymous]

i know nothing about anal sex, but I was always curious about the poop thing like even in p*rn how they make sure there's no poop, like don't people eat and stuff throughout the day and food digests?

[peace-love-couture]

You do an enema beforehand and make sure you're lubed up and are relaxed

[MarcoUSA]

Of COURSE you are curious. As a woman, you know inherently that your anus is a huge part of your sexuality and true intimacy with a man. But of course, no one tells a girl how to practically try it. You can totally avoid ANY mess if you really want and it is easy. Pick up The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. My prediction is a cock will be going in your ass if it has not yet. Good luck!