Anal sex? Tips and techniques?

[juneangel6390]

OK, so me and my boyfriend have tried Anal sex in the past... I know he was dying to try it...like most guys...and I really wanted to make him happy... So the first time was kinda freaky so it didn't last long then(in and out), then the second time was actually pretty good, it couldn't last too long either because of how bind blowing it was. But that made me want to try it again, and we did, and it was good. :) but then we did it once after that and it was actually a really bad experience...It really hurt. I really freaked him out from how much it hurt me and he felt awful! So I was curious on why we could do it in the past but not could do it in the past but not now. So we did it one more time the other day, and it hurt just as bad if no more... I really want to be able to do this for him, and it kinda did feel goo the first few times we tried. So what I am asking is first your opinion on Anal sex? yeah or nah? NA if your for it and have done it in the past...can you give me some tips and pointers to have really good anal sex? Like what can we do to make it work? why didn't it work?

[NewYorkCity]

Ok anal sex is like a balley, you and your guy have to work together to acomplish a succesful penetration and enjoy it as well. It is not that easy as it seems and NOW YOU know from personal as it feels if you doing it wrong. First use lots of lube. The more the better, I can't stress this enough THE MORE LUBY THE BETTER tell your guy not only to be super slow but he has to feel when you exhaling so he can put it a little bit deeper but not to deep or you will have this bad expirience AGAIN. now it comes your turn. You have to be relaxed as your water in the sink. Talk to him let him talk to you communicate joke a bit while doing it. It will make you feel relaxed and him as well. USE LOT"S OF LUBE. After that when he will be fully inside of you tell him to be very careful for first I don't know 1 2 min. Let your butt adjust to his pines inside of you. And eventualy you will feel great. Belive it or not but anal sex is very pleasent. Good Luck and LUBE! LOTS OF IT

[juneangel6390]

Thanks! This is really helpful...We dont/havent ever used any real lube, probably the source of all our problems right there...... Do you use a condom, we can never agree on this!! :)

[NewYorkCity]

I was doing it without condom because I was 10000% sure she was clean ( meaning no STD's etc..) besides she wanted me be without a condom to because she said " You and me will become one and nothing between you and me will interupt us" It took me a while to understand what she ment. But when I did I was the happiest guy in the world. I was more mentaly satisfied then physicaly lol. sooo..

[Marfan]

Depends how clean you feel. In general, you don't need a condom as long as you're clean. It certainly feels better bare.

[Marfan]

My wife and I have anal quite a bit and we both really enjoy it - she likes it as part of DP, where she uses her vibrator in her vag and I'm in the ass. For her, position is key. It works very well doggy style or missionary position, but anything else hurts. Maybe your position was a bit off?

[juneangel6390]

Hmm, if we can ever get htis to actually work, ill have to try using my toy(vibrator)...or maybe I can try using it to get me to relax....think that might be one of my problems...im remembering how muhc it hurt before and just not relaxing all the way from fearing it might happen again! lol

[Marfan]

He can also help you relax with some deep fingering. That's what worked for my wife - she was an anal virgin before me. BTW the DP with a vibrator is a lot of fun... if used correctly, he'll be able to feel it too and it'll really get him going. You might also want to try butt plugs to help you relax. My wife once put one in without telling me when we went out to dinner. When we came home she lifted her skirt, bent over and pulled it out - she was wide open and ready for entry. Very hot.

[juneangel6390]

Wow...that does sounf pretty amazing...think ill give that a try! thanks........you did say that position was key for your wife.....i have heard some people say that I'm on top of him, and lower myslef onto him that will be better....Have you and wife tried that one?

[inquizitor911]

Try using some form of lubrication, or a lubricated condom. That may help with the pain you experience.

[whipzzz]

My wife and I have anal sex sometimes. I like it more than her though. The trick is to take it slowly. The muscles of the anus need gentle warming and stretching - use a water based lube and rubber gloves. We both have an enema before, too, just to keep things clean.

You might want to try it on him, that way he will understand what is happening to you.

[juneangel6390]

Thanks...We actually don't ever use lubricant...as crazy as it sounds just "natural" lubes. :/ Yeah I know, that's probably our main problem thier as to why it don't feel too good? And what do you mean by warming and streching? How do you do that?

[juneangel6390]

Do you use a condom?

[whipzzz]

Warming and stretching the muscles. Use a gloved hand with lots of lube. Start with one finger, then two, and keep going until you gradually open up the anus with more fingers. This stretches the muscles so that a penis or dildo will go in without pain. We don't use a condom with each other, but we do if we have other partners.

[juneangel6390]

Im afraid he might think the glove thing is a bit wierd?! I have thought about that before and heard it once somewhere, but noone else I have heard tlak about it has mentioned gloves, is that just a thign you guys use to feel better about it...liek cleanliness?

[whipzzz]

Yes, cleanliness and smoothness. But you don't have to use gloves at first. It's just a practicality - no need to wash hands and spoil the moment!