Are blow jobs and stuff expected in sex?

[Anonymous]

I'm a virgin still but when I do have sex I want to know! I mean I don't think I really want to do that...

[KatMcC]

It's okay to be uncomfortable with certain acts and if it's not something you enjoy doing, someone who truly loves you wouldn't pressure you into it. That being said, don't try and decide on what you will or will not enjoy when you're still a virgin. Sometimes things like that sound weird or off putting in the start, but after you get more comfortable with your sexuality, you try a few new things and you end up really enjoying some of what you experimented with.

Oral sex in general is something that happens in most relationships, but it isn't a requirement. Remember, though, that there is a difference between not liking something and being downright uncomfortable with it. I don't like to perform oral sex but my partner loves it so I do it anyway. If it was something that scared me or really made me feel nervous, then I wouldn't partake in it, but it doesn't. It's sort of a chore but I love how it satisfies my partner so I don't complain (especially when the favor is returned).

Just look for someone with the patience and understanding to guide you through this stuff. Making sure it's with someone you trust and feel comfortable with will make it a lot easier and much more pleasurable to learn and experiment with these things.

[expunge]

Don't do something because you feel pressured to do it.

Personally, I don't mind giving blowjobs; it's not nearly as gross in the moment as it sounds on paper. But, if you're really uncomfortable doing it and you really don't want to for whatever reason, your partner should respect that. Set boundaries and stick to them unless your feeling on the matter change. Just try to put more thought into it that "ewwwww gross!"

The flipside of that is that you have to respect your partner's boundaries as well. If he's really uncomfortable giving oral, or with a certain position, or whatever... he's allowed to feel that way too.

[EmberlyMai]

Depends on your partner. Unless he's very conservative about sex (like it takes you over a year of dating before having sex) he'll have the assumption of having oral. But he definitely won't expect it the first time so you have time consider how you feel. Wait until you have sex, tho, before you decide what you do and don't want to try. Don't underestimate yourself. Yeah, in theory oral sounds gross, but once you find someone and get horny, everything changes.

[Seenthatmovietoo]

Sex is about giving and receiving pleasure and while trying not to sound too much like the Kama Sutra sex position textbook, just imagine that he has a stick and 2 holes and you have three holes. Some combination of sticks and holes are going to get used. You might prefer straight missionary coitus for a long while but know that there are other variables and both guys and girls can enjoy oral in addition to straight coitus.

[Asker]

Thanks that makes me feel beter

[Littletad]

It's amazing what you'll do when you finally fall for a person. I never expected myself to like oral sex much, and then I was in for a major surprise.

[jimattack]

most of the time they are. if you are in a steady relationship with someone you shouldn't mind doing things like that to him, especially if he does things like that to you. it's nice to return the favour.

[SARAH18]

Geez, I never realized how many guys have answered here saying that they expect it from a girl.

[Asker]

Kinda funny isn't it

[mcali2]

Well it comes down to what men like and why you would do it? Having sex is not only for you but your wanting to bring pleasure to the other person. It is a 2 way street.

I could not marry someone not willing to do so. I could have one night stand with someone who does not.

That said wait until you marry and talk about it with the person whom you plan on marrying . Sex is great but worth waiting for..

[tim_hortuns]

get used to it...to get used to it try practicing on a Popsicle or a banana...in front of him he will like that

[tim_hortuns]

you gotta learn to love it and do it a lot or else he will be p*ssed off at you because blowjobs are awesome and we want them all the time and you gotta swallow to and say it tastes good and youy want more

[Alpha]

Fuck that sh*t ..she doesn't have to like it ...to have sex...and no if she doesn't want to swallow its okey !

[tim_hortuns]

Well then you never had a good who was good at blowjobs cause you wouldn't say that if you did

[Seenthatmovietoo]

Is that how you treat them up in Canada Tim? Gotta make for some cold lonely nights imagining your life as a porn movie. Get that I LOVE BJ's too, but prefer to treat her well and offer reciprocation without all the pressure. It makes for better results.

[tim_hortuns]

No dude your 50 so your only used to old ladies...the young women these days all give head and are good at it

[veritykrall]

Yeah I agree me and my ex did the whole time I think it just makes for a healthy relationship and well..he loved it. its pretty common in this day and age :)

[Littletad]

You don't sound anywhere near 23, nor do you seem respectable enough to even have a girlfriend or any girl for that matter.

[tim_hortuns]

Because I'm a man who speaks the truth on the internet so why do I need respect in the virtual world I'm not trying to make friends online

[Littletad]

Who said anything about that kind of respect? I just pointed out some nice factual tidbits.

[tim_hortuns]

And I'm just telling it like it is on the internet...i don't talk to women this way because I don't want a headache

[Serenading_by_night]

Haha. Yes, it's very clear that you don't speak to women often--if at all. Enjoy pleasuring yourself and dishing out cash for one night stands because no respectable woman will stay with you.

[staciarain]

I always swallow, and give them willingly (when deserved) but I don't think it's something that's required, nor does he have the right to be p*ssed off. It depends on the couple.

[tim_hortuns]

Lol women stay with a lot bigger asshole than me, I see it all the time, BUT JUST REMEMBER.....this is the net and what I say doesn't have any effect on my relationships with women at all...

[dav8t]

Once you are in a relationship with a guy you are really into you'll be happy to do lots of sexual stuff with him and him with you

[hot2468]

You will be the minority if you don't give blowjobs. You don't have to and a nice guys will understand but it is expected. Try it when you meet the right guy, you may end up liking it, or at least tolerating it.

[LoriR]

I give you kudos for being bold enough to ask this question. Your virginity is your gift to your mate/husband and his to you. You can give it to anyone you want but waiting for the honeymoon is a once in a life time experience. Once you give it away you can't go back. Blow jobs or whatever else you do behind closed doors is a personal preference. Find a mate/husband who is open to this but doesn't demand it. Someone who will take your likes and dislikes into consideration and you will return the feelings. Sex is wonderful and better than your mind can image, if it is with your mate/husband. Casual sex is only lust but relational sex with your mate/husband is wonderfully fulfilling in mind, body and soul. Wait for a mate/husband and enjoy a pleasure you both will deserve.