Are blowjobs really that essential in a relationship?

As I drove into work this morning listening to the local morning radio show talk about girls giving guys bl*w jobs. They indicated that if your girlfriend has looks rated to a "9" and she will not "wave the magic wand" she automatically becomes a "7". If your girlfriend has the looks rated to a "6" and she likes to play with your magic flute than she automatically becomes a "9". True of false. Are bl*w jobs that essential in a relationship?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • NO! You and other males & females really need to get away from the generalizations...I would not care if anyone ever tried to blow me ever again...would actually prefer that they did not ...however...giving my woman oral is mandatory...if she won't allow that...might as well break up right now...NONE of us have the same wishes, desires & needs...this is the same crap as some guy or gal thinking they know everything about the opposite gender because they have had sex with one lover...lol..or just sex one time...o.O

  • I hate to admit it because it seems so shallow but yes blow jobs are really important to me. I feel like if a girl is willing to put a lot of effort into blowing me and maybe even lets me come a full load in her mouth she is dedicated to me and it makes me feel really special and appreciated by her. I don't expect her to blow me to finish a lot but if she does it sometimes it makes me feel like she really loves me and just wants to pleasure me. Of course I will return the love by going down on her : )

Most Helpful Girls

  • It all depends on the persons needs.

    Its very rare that I have come across a guy that doenst feel the need to receive blow jobs. Usually, a guy that feels that way is someone who has never had a really great blow job.

    If you satisfy your partners urges it makes them more sexually attractive to you.

    If someone does not satisfy their partners urges, it kind of makes that person (still attractive) but not has great has they thought.

    So in all fairness, I do agree with it.

  • Guys tend to place their sexual desires (regardless of how often you get the off) as the main priority in the relationship. They don't really care that you listen to their feelings or care about their dreams or any of that drivel in romance movies. They care that you let them put it where they want, when they want, as often as they want.

    • oh a fair number of us want emotional intimacy AND tons of Putting it where I want, when I want and as often as I want. Or maybe a few. Some of us, anyway.

    • I disagree with the answerer. I would honestly put the fact that a girl can care abou tme enough to listen to me and to care about my dreams and hopes. Sex comes second to me in a relationship. But...If I was to have just a hookup, I couldn't care less if she listened to me. But I don't do hookups, so here we are.

    • I think that it's one of those things guys value in the moment, but when they look back and take inventory of their relationship, they're more likely to be ticked about the amount of sex they get than give a girl bonus points for "really getting him."

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  • looks have nothing to do with it. guys love blowjobs. the release is intense. and for girl, you can get your guy off whenever you want. car, park, airplane bathroom. essential? depends on the guy. totally awesome. yeah.

  • I wouldn't say that it could turn a 6 into a 9, but willingess to be sexually open and adventerous in bed is a very attractive quality. It could definitely make a woman more attractive, and do the opposite if she doesn't have it.

    It does depend on the guy though. Some guys don't even like blowjobs.

  • yep. I need to know my girl enjoys my d*** so much she'll take it anywhere with a ravenous hunger, or I can't enjoy being with the girl.

    • also, just to head it off, I'm not insecure about my sexuality or anything, I'm just being practical about sexual compatibility. If a girl is not into the same things I am into, I completely understand, but she is not for me.

  • ab-so-freakin-lutely!

  • the rating does go up a notch or two the more sexual she is, for me anyway.

  • no, I had a three year relationship and never got blown, I didn't mind either

  • Depends on the person. Shallow as it seems I agree.

  • For me fellatio does not matter. If I love the girl she is for me the most beautiful and exciting.

  • If he has a penis then yes it is required in a relationship. I love sucking d***.

  • For many guys it's true, yeah.

    More than the blow job itself, what is important in a relationship is the willingness to try and please your partner, however they want to be pleased.

    If he doesn't like oral, fair enough, you don't have to give it. But if she wants oral, then he better be prepared to do it.

  • Yes they are essential and I love giving them its so hot.

  • Well... yeah. I mean, don't you also enjoy being being licked down there? lol. Blowjobs aren't important for a steady relationship, but once you become intimate they are.

  • Bj's are essential and necessary of course. but if I date a girl that does not like to do it then I won't date her

  • essential? not really

  • it doesn't change her looks but I would be a whole lot more interested in the relationship