Are guys gentle when it comes to having sex with a virgin?

I'm a virgin (obviously) and have been thinking about how the first time I have sex will be like. Is he just going to bust it wide open? or will he understand that I don' know what I'm doing and be gentle about it?
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  • Im a virgin and I want to lose it to a girl who is also a virgin, preferably after marriage because I only want to have sex with one girl in my life and for her to be it (as lame as I guess you assume that probably is). Anyway, because she would be the one,

    I would want to make it as easy as possible for her the first time and be gentle because I understand it would hurt her, lots of oral sex on her is essential! so she gets wet enough for it to be as easy for her to be penetrated by me as possible. When you lose your virginity, it depends on how much the guy cares about you on how much it will hurt, a guy who is probably used to sex might just get annoyed with the fact that he would have to take things slow (not all) it depends on the guy you lose it too

  • Basically you have to make sure you find the right guy. Not to sound cliche but if you find a nice guy for your first time that knows your a virgin he will care enough to be gentle with you. Honestly I've never been with a virgin but I have a lot of friends that are girls and believe me it helps to find a guy that cares about you enough to be gentle for your first time. Plus you have to be careful because if your not sure the guy is nice enough to be gentle he might act like he is until he gets you into it and he could hurt you. Believe me I've heard real stories like that. Don't be scared just be careful.

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  • It all depends on the man your with

  • I think most guys will be. Just talk to the guy and tell him that you're a virgin and he will know that he has to be gentle.

  • thats depends on what kind of guy will be with you

    if he is also not sure about what he is doing then it can be a problem

    what you can do is talk about all this before doing anything

    ask him to be a gentle...

  • depends on the guy. any guy worth keeping will be as gentle as you like.

  • for me of course I would be gentel , I mean I won't hurt the girl I love or in another way I will respect her virginty :)

  • Meh, if I wasn't the cynical, asexual, foul, festering, fetid, sexist, old-fashioned, Gurkha saluting hunk that I am, I would probably go for gentle! (I am a gentleman! :D)

    After all: I wouldn't want to tire out! :P