Best way to orgasm for a girl solo? Guide to getting off?

[Anonymous]

I know this has been asked before but I just want to know, after reading an article in Cosmo about a girl who can orgasm in less than 5 minutes. I just can't seem to. 1) First of all I sometimes wonder if I found my clit. Yes I know where it is and it does feel good but not as sensational as I would think considering I've only semi-orgasmed once. So how do you know for sure that you've located yours? 2) Best way to do it? Fingers? Vibrator? Etc? 3) Do you dry hump or whatever while you are doing it? What position do you usually do it in? 4) How long does it take you? 5) Do you use anything else like lube, other substances, etc? 6) Where do you usually do it? 7) Do you think of anything while you do it? I find that sometimes if I fantasize while I'm doing it I start to lose my focus in my thoughts. I'm also the type who has a very active mind and I tend to think of many things at once, or in succession so even if I'm thinking of a guy who turns me on my mind starts to drift easily since he's not actually there 8) Anything else? Thanks!

[sa230e]

I get the impression you think that all, or at least most, girls are like the girl in the article that can come in under five minutes and you're the odd one out. Furthermore, I suspect you think that your inability (so far) to reach orgasm is because of bad technique and that if you knew the "proper technique" you'd be coming in under five minutes too.

The truth is that there is no one "proper" way to masturbate. Everyone's body is different and everyone's body responds differently to to stimulation therefore every one has their own variations and techniques that work best for them. And what works for the girl in the article may not work for you. People learn these techniques by exploring their bodies, taking note of where and what feels good to them and focusing on it. There's no rules or complex techniques to it. It's quite simple: If it feels good, you're doing it right.

And there's no time limit either. It's not a race, you don't need to beat the clock. Don't feel like you failed because you weren't even close to orgasm after five minutes. Some girls can rub one out really quick (probably a minority), others light candles, pour a warm bath and go at it for an hour or two. Don't be too hung up on orgasms either. It's harder to come if you're putting pressure on yourself. Masturbation is all about the ride, not the destination.

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[Anonymous]

No answers. Hmmm. I can sometimes bring my lover off in less than 10 minutes by hand. I will rush to oral when she comes to experience the contractions and fluids with my tongue and mouth. The important first step is starting which your clit which will not be aroused and needs stimulating but is easily irritated. Use plenty of water base lotion. I like cocoa butter lotion because it stays wet and mixes with Vag fluid. Do not pull up and expose your clit. Just press down on the whole area firmly and make wide circles with 3 flat fingers at the speed and pressure that will warm you up gently. As you feel a sort of "rise", your clit will thicken and your vag will expand and open. When that happens your Vag and clit will react to more speed and firmness. Then you can enhance by sliding two curled fingers into and out of your vag so they pass above your cervix (watch the nails) and up behind your pubic bone where your gspot is. Then coordinate your hands so they work you inside and outside with the same rhythm and you should soon get where you want to go.

[Wanderer174]

If only more men knew that THIS is what most girls like, the world would be a better place. Honestly.

[eurochick]

1. With your clit it feels better when you are on it. So for me I spread my vulva and then work upwards until it feels oooo.

2. I prefer toys. So the best type are rubberised vibrators for me as they bend more.

3. I usually lay on my back

4. Anywhere from 5-20 minutes

5. With the vibrator I use lube

6. In bed

7. Learn to relax, especially your muscles around your vagina. Also having a fantasy in me mind of some hot guy works well too.

8. Ill answer any questions I didn't answer for you.

[Anonymous]

Focus fully on the feeling it's giving you and it will happen. Don't let your mind drift on to anything else

[Opinion Owner]

did you know it's just as much a mental thing as it is physical?

[Anonymous]

I don't know because I've never had an orgasm period.