Birth control vs Condoms?

Okay...so, I have an issue. My fiance and I are going to get married in the end of October. The 27th, to be exact :) Anyway, we have run into a bit of an issue. We are not sexually active currently since we are waiting. However, we're looking for contraceptives. He doesn't like condoms. He put one on just for fun once and didn't like how it limited his member lol. So you'd think because would be the answer, right? Wrong! When I was a baby, I suffered a stroke and now have a clotting disorder. Doctors have told me that birth control will interfere with my blood in a way that will make me 10x more likely to suffer a second stroke which would probably kill me. So that option is completely off the table. (This is the oral kind. Any other kind is less risky, yet still not safe for me). We want contraceptives because we want to be sexual, but don't want kids right off the bat. Any ideas?
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Oops...my computer edited BC to become because...it's supposed to say "So you'd think birth control would be the answer, right?"
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Your fiance better get used to condoms...if you were my wife contraceptives would not be an option is there is any chance of an adverse reaction because of past medcal conditions. If you can get a stroke from the pill...then I am using a rubber. Your fiance needs to get on board with that decision or he ain't getting sex.

    • Oh another thing...guys saying they don't like condoms is the oldest line in the book. Fiances shouldn't be using that on their wives to be.

  • Your doctor will let you know what you need to know...there are shots and inserts and a bunch of other stuff. It sounds like your boyfriend isn't sexually experienced have him try different condoms before he turns them down..they aren't that bad.

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  • I would definitely talk to your doctor, there are so many different kinds of bc, so there might be something that you could try. As for condoms, he might just have to try one if you can't use anything. There are also female condoms too, so you might want to look into that option as well.

  • Tell him he better get used to condoms. That's your only option. Your health is SO much more important than his "discomfort of condoms". Tell him to get over it, he'll still be able to come even though the condom may desensitize him a little. That's better than risking your health.

  • He uses a condom.. or he pleasures you with toys until ready to risk kids!

    but in all seriousness.. they are other alternatives..

    Diaphragm, female condom...

    Talk to your Dr., they should have a lot of advice for you considering your condition.

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  • Then you have to use non-hormonal methods. You could check into diaphragms and IUDs, see what will work best for you and then talk to your doctor. Just know that you will still be at risk for becoming pregnant without condoms, even if the risk is smaller.

  • He can get over being uncomfortable...

    Obviously, it's going to "limit his member", but it's also going to "limit" your ability to become pregnant. So... I think it's a pretty good exchange!

  • First off, congrats on your engagement :)

    And second, there are plenty other forms of birth control out there. There is the IUD which you can keep in you for up to five years. There is also the depo shot that you get every three months. Honestly, you should talk to a doctor first, and see which form of birth control will be best for you.

    Or, if anything, you guys can use the pull out method! (lol totally just kidding though)

  • IUD! Or tell him to suck it up and use a condom. Even though they suck.

  • Well there are other options you can talk to your doctor about, but I think if he really loves you and wants the best for both of you, he should be able to wear condoms. I've heard of dissolving vaginal contraceptive film, and contraceptive foam, but I'm not sure if it works. It might be another option to use in addition to condoms since using more than one form of protection is best. I'd talk to you doctor about it some more, but for now I think condoms are a must.

  • There are other non-hormonal birth control options. Diaphragms are a little more difficult to use, but you can buy a non-hormonal IUD (a device that a doctor puts inside your uterus) that doesn't cause any danger of blood clotting.

    Definitely speak to a doctor about it.