Bisexual Girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend of 9 months just recently discovered that she is bisexual. She doesn't want to date girls or anything but she would enjoy doing sexual things with other girls. I'm not really bothered by this but she told me that she would like to have a threesome with another girl, as a guy I was pretty excited. However I started to think about it and I think I would feel really bad for doing things with another girl, almost like I'm cheating. I just feel like having a threesome involving a girlfriend is somewhat disrespectful to the girlfriend. Do you think I should go for it or not? Will our relationship ever be the same afterward?

[ArizonaRX]

I like your thinking. Because your gut feeling is right. You're relationship will not be the same. It will add a whole dynamic to it that not many people can honestly handle.

Take the second vagina out of the picture. Insert a guy with a penis. Do you want her to be in a threesome with you and another guy? Probably not right? Why? I'm sure you can lay out a bunch of reasons. Now put the vagina back into the mix. What's the difference? Two different sexes? I bet a lot of your reasons for not wanting another guy in your sex life will stand true with having another girl in your sex life.

Now, your intimacy with just you and your girlfriend has been extended to a third party. Do you think it will just stop at sex? Don't you think that if your girlfriend enjoyed it that she will be thinking about it at any given time? Like, the next time the two of you have sex?

The bottomline is, your gut feeling is right. You don't feel comfortable with it and you shouldn't allow yourself to get into that situation because it won't be god for your relationship with her. Chances are it won't be good for her either.

[ozzyozz805]

well your relationship will change for sure, but I would most definitely go for it, although the fact that she brought it up brings the risk of you just ending up watching and then that will really change the relationship up cus the bisexual boat will be tipping to the other side if you kno what I mean, so think it through, be willing to take risks and have that second vag, but also anylize how bisexual your girlfriend is, you don't want her cheating on you with another woman either do you?

[kellystafford]

Its risky territory.. I think you will regret if you don't do it. But I also think you need to set out some rules before anything. Like who the other girl will be? Personally I wouldn't use a friend, because jealousy and paranoia almost always occurs! So think about bringing in someone that you don't know, almost like a business deal haha. Secondly I think its important to make sure you can deal with one on one action between them, cause you might find yourself having trouble with that. Thirdly be SAFE! haha

[Anonymous]

If you're not comfortable tell her about it and don't do it. People talk about how sexy 3somes are but you never hear the dark side how it can change your relationship, create problems that weren't there and stuff like that. I wouldn't advise doing it if you have reservations

[l-hedoniste]

It's not cheating if it's her idea.

And your relationship will be exactly the same afterward. This means, of course, that if the relationship was shaky before, this could well blow it up.

[blah52]

Youll probably end up regretting it if you dont.

[mozley]

i agree with blah, go for it.