very few women can get off from penetration alone~ if you aren't turned on or properly warmed up, your chances are much lower.
if you've managed to come on your own (with your hands or a toy) successfully, you can show him what works. if you have a vibrator, you can demonstrate how to use it or just pass it to your guy and say "use this on me".
(note: a lot of younger guys are insecure and will see a vibrator as a replacement for his equipment~ make sure he understands that it's an enhancement, and that both of you can enjoy it. just clear it with him first before doing as i suggested above.)
your man also has fingers and a tongue~ he should make use of both. lol.
other possibilities: you're stressed or sick, you feel guilty, you're on medication that reduces your sex drive (here's looking at you, birth control!), or you're genuinely not into him.
either way, be safe and have fun!
-von
There's nothing wrong with you, a lot of women can't orgasm so easily, it isn't any issue with you. I highly suggest a little self exploration (masturbation) on your end to figure out what feels good and how you like to be touched. From there make sure he's actually turning you on. If that doesn't work, then try inviting a small, non-threatening clitoral vibrator on you that he can use on you after he finishes.
Have you tried to make yourself cum while alone and managed to do so successfully?
If so, there's nothing wrong with you. It's also not entirely because he's doing something wrong. I mean, he is, but different things work best for each girl. It's up to you to ultimately take control of making sure you get yours each session and guide him so that he knows exactly how to make it happen.
Come with what?
Penetration? That's really common. I'm glad I make my girlfriend come through penetration half the time
If he can't make you come with penetration (which, again, is common) he needs to do more after penetration
Fingers and tongue, baby
Masturbate more often and get better at it? Go on top and rub your clit, just focus on you and how you're feeling. You should know if a position is going to make you come if it won't, if it isn't working try something new.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Do you masturbate? If so, do you cum? Because it could just be him. Or it could be you. Or both.
Is his penis satisfying to you any? Do he stroke fast or slow. Do you guys use foreplay or other instruments? Are you still sexually attracted to him? You can answer by using numbers. (1. 2. 3.)
A lot of girls need more than PIV to get off, have him or rub your clitoris during sex so you can orgasm together. Other than that there's always oral he can give you.
Have you tried different positions? Have you been able to with a dildo before?
Because if you don't know where the spots are that need to be hit, he won't know either.
just show him how its done with mutual masturebation
Relax, have fun, use your imagination (that's very important) and guild him. Let him know what feels good.
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