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Boyfriend's hard-on?

I feel so bad for my boyfriend. :( Me and my boyfriend just started our relationship and just started making out, and whenever we make out he gets a hard on. He says that he'll put it between his legs so I don't feel awkward, but doesn't that hurt him a lot? Don't hard-ons hurt in general? Is it normal for him to get hard for just making out with me? Second question: Is there a way my boyfriend can tell if I'm turned on just by pressing his hips to mine? Clothes on, just cuddling, his front to my butt or front? Should I be self-conscious about it?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • It sounds like both of you are a little too worried about this. It's okay for him to get hard. You should tell him that and tell him that he doesn't have to hide his erection. Making a man tuck his penis between his legs just seems wrong. Unless he's a guy who points down when he's erect, I can't imagine it'd be comfortable at all. I don't think I could even get my boyfriend's penis between his legs when he's turned on.

    And it's okay for you to get turned on too. Making out is supposed to turn you on. And no, he probably can't tell with your clothes on, but he'd probably like to know that you're enjoying it too.

    • I told him that it doesn't bother me so he stopped doing it. I was worried before because he did it without asking me if it bothered me, plus I thought it hurt for him to do it. =[

  • I think the guys answered the questions pretty well, but I'm curious why either of you would be uncomfortable or self-conscious about being aroused when you are making out. That is normal! I can understand you being embarrassed if it happened in public or during lunch or something but it is a normal response to sexual behavior (which IS what you are doing, even if you don't gp "all the way").

    • He's my first boyfriend, and I am a little self conscious about him knowing I'm turned on, but he thinks I'm uncomfortable with him being that way when I'm actually not. I think it's rather attractive.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Putting his boner between his legs? That's silly. If we just met, I'll give you six inches of courtesy space. If you're my girl, I'd expect you to know that adult males have erections all the time. (Note to girls: if you can't deal with regular erections, you're not yet ready to date adult males.)

    Erections don't usually hurt if they're not misplaced by, for example, shoving them between your legs.

    • He's my first boyfriend so he thinks that I'd feel uncomfortable by it, when I'm actually not. how can I tell or show him that it doesn't bother me?

    • Tell him you're okay with it, then prove it. On the spot. Show him you want to see it. Sometimes "I don't want to make you uncomfortable" translates to "I'm not fully comfortable." It's a bluff, and should be called.

    • Thanks, I'll ask him sometime. =]

  • It shouldn't hurt him. If he has to move it then it could be uncomfortable. For some guys it is normal. hard ons happen. You should just tell him you like knowing you get him worked up so he won't worry about it.

    The clues for telling when a girl is turned on are more subtle but it is doubtful he will be able to figure it out. You definitely shouldn't be self-conscious about it.

    • Thank you so much for the info and advise! =]

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  • Its extremely hard to know when a girl is turned on just by his hips to yours. and hard ons don't hurt, but moving it between his legs. if I got you correctly. if he was standing up it would be pointing straight down, unless he doesn't have a stiff hard on. that would hurt

  • Heavy make out sessions do make us excited yes. It's a little harder to tell if a girl is turned on. It's not like they have a stick pointing obviously.

    • Would he be able to tell if he put his knee against my groin?

  • Well depending on the severity of the situation, if you could spit a buffalo on it, then it does hurt to point it down. But the fact that he is willing to go through that discomfort to try and keep you comfortable says a lot about him.

    • "Spit a buffalo??" What does that mean?

    • Fully up, as in the middle of sex, it happens all the time to guys

  • It's normal, no it don't hurt, and no he won't be able to tell..

  • hurt? nah, it only hurts if you try to really bend it downwards. boners feel great, and I usually just tuck it up under my belt in any situation where it isn't acceptable to be hard during. also, there really isn't any way for a dude to tell if a girl is horny by pressing his hips against yours, be it the front or back. there are some subtle machinations happening during arousal, like sweat or pupils getting dilated, but nothing hip-wise. maybe a bit more warmth and wetness, but nothing you can tell exists through pants. and a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't feel self conscious about anything, ever

  • you shouldn't feel bad for him, you should be happy that he's turned on enough by you to get a hard-on, and no hard-ons don't hurt but putting it between your legs might end up hurting, or at least feel very uncomfortable or strange lol

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