Boyfriend shushed me while telling him it hurts??

me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and I was really tight...so it hurt but he kept shushing me when I tried to tell him it was hurting and kept "rabbit" f.u.c.king me for an hour I tried to just enjoy the sex and moan but at times it hurt and when I tried to tell him he'd say "shhh" and a couple times he said sorry but continued :S
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no guys he is a really great bf..and treats me well...but I don't know if he got out of control and just f.u.c.k.e.d me like that.. plus I didn't push him off ... I am gonna discuss it with him to not shush me like that ... but he didn't mind it when I was moaning only when I said it hurts =\...guys besides that e never treated me with any disrespect never curse or raise his voice and takes blame for things and he treats me like I am his everything..just I don't know what happened so shocked that he would do that
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Yea he kept calling and after 20 times I answered...and I told him everything what I was feeling at that moment , how he wasn't stopping, he didn't even know when he shushed me , and he was silent and I yelled at him, and I fessed up to my wrog whic was that I didn't yell at him and kick him in his balls, I asked him why he would do that... he kept saying sorry and he can't believe he hurt me, he honestly didn't know he shushed me...but I know it's my fault that I should have voiced it
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And I should have said it right at that moment how it was hurting that much... He drove over to my house and begged me for forgiveness and said how sorry he was... he made me punch him and slap him ...and he went on his knees and bowed and he said sorry... he said I shouldn't forgive him and that he won't touch me for a year or as long as I choose , cause he doesn't deserve me... should I forgive him? it's only once he let himself go , and he said I would understand if I need distance...
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  • Hun...no matter how sweet he is out of bed, your problem right now is different. He just didn't give a crap when he was hurting you. My guess is that he was concentrating on f.u.c.k.i.n.g. and coming and that was it. Really selfish...and quite an a-hole. No matter what, sex is supposed to be great, not painful unless you are both into that (some people just love a bit of pain through sex). Talk to him and be damn serious about it.

  • To your update: Do NOT take the blame for this! Sure, you didn't push him off, but you said that it hut you and that was more than enough for him to be concerned, let alone him telling you to "shush". I truly hope that this was just a very poor lapse in judgement and not a horrible pattern emerging. I wish you the best of luck.

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  • What a dirtbag lmao. I would have a talk with him, if he can't be considerate about your feelings and your body he doesn't deserve to have sex with you. Don't let him treat you like that.

    • You are hot...that is all.

    • @update Well only you know him so its not like any of us can say what kinda guy he is, but regardless of how he treats you outside the bedroom that is probably the most disrespectful thing I've ever heard a guy do. If you're actually in pain he should listen but that's just my opinion. I personally wouldn't just be shushed if he was hurting me, f*** that.

    • ur right... I am gonna seriously discuss it with him and warn him if he ever does that or shhh me I will punch his balls and leave

  • Sounds like an over rush of hormones, this is borderline rape. I think it's important to talk about it with him.

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  • dudes a douche. if it hurts you and he doesn't care then he just wants to get off himself..

    • tell him if he ever does it again your going to have to reevaluate your current situation, because that isn't cool no matter how nice he is outside of the bedroom

    • i definitely will... I'l warn him that I will leave if he ever does it again ...just don't know what was going through his head...gonna ask him =(

    • good! don't get walked on like that, this isn't the 1700's

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  • Wtf! Your bf's an a**hole. Seriously, you should have kicked him off or squeezed the sh*t out of his balls until he bled.

    • he's a great boyfriend and he's never cursed or raised his voice at me or ever disrespected me...justgot shocked that he would ever shush me when I told him it hurts ...i am gonna discuss it with him..and I'll take your suggestions I'll squeeze his balls if he doesn't listen

    • He may have never raised his voice to you before, but physically hurting you during sex and then not even giving a sh*t about the pain you are going through just so he can avoid being bothered is inexcusable. He should apologize while he is on his knees. I can't over a guy "shushing" his girlfriend while he's hurting her during sex. I mean really, that sounds like the behavior of a sociopath.

  • How can you say this is a really great guy? He was hurting you, you told him, and he told you essentially to just shut up and kept going.

    What is really great about that? You don't do that to people you care about. You CARE about people you care about. You don't tell them "shh" when they tell you you're hurting them. That response doesn't even enter into a "great" person's mind.