Boyfriend is too modest ?

[Brilie]

So my boyfriend and I have been dating awhile now, not too long. Wece known each other since we were little though. we started dating and he won't sext me or really tell me anything about his sexuality. He's hinted a few times in mostly non sexual ways that he is submissive, but when I try to talk to him about sex he says he doesn't want to talk about it because he is a gentleman. I respect it, but I want to talk to him about our sex life. how should I go about this gently?

[JanJan]

I think he will need to figure out for himself whether he is a submissive or not. You never know, maybe he is a closet-dom and he just hasn't come out about it yet! Maybe he has never had a safe environment to explore his sexual desires until now. Since you two are close and he has known you for a long time, he probably has this relationship in very high esteems. Maybe he is nervous about what you might think. Just take it slow and make sure not to be judgemental. When he does tell you anything, even the smallest things, show interest and ask him to explain further. But Rome wasn't built in a day. Baby steps. It also helps to try new things playfully in the bedroom. Don't make it serious. Maybe ask him to pin your hands above your head when you're making out, or playfully tie his arms with your scarf. Just make it fun, and he will be more likely to let down his guard and be willing to explore.

[YungNRestless20]

Is he a virgin? some guys are actually self conscience believe it or not or maybe he is just shy. Just come out and ask him why doesn't he want to talk about sex. But try drinking some wine to loosen him up and get a real answer

[islands7]

He's been whipped by past women - they got in his head that bad sex as all on him = BS

Your remedy is to praise any/every-thing sexual he brings to your table.

Lead by example

You rub him a little bit, show him how/where to rub you a bit.

Soon you'll start a fire ...

[Adelphos]

It could be what he says or it could be that he is embarrassed about something. Size, the submissiveness that he hints at or he could be a gay in denial. He could secretly want you to be aggressive with him. Corner him and start kissing see how far you can push it.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Maybe he just wants to do, not talk. Since he's submissive, take the lead.