Boyfriend took the condom off and came in me on purpose?

My boyfriend is very protective of me OVER PROTECTIVE, he says he's afraid I might leave him for another guy all the time and this is his reason for being over protective and controlling, most of his friends have babies, do you think he is trying to get me pregnant so I would never really be able to leave him because id always be tied to him? not on any birth control and I'm not pregnant I just want know? thanks
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  • It happened to one of my exes...

    :-(

    "he says he's afraid I might leave him for another guy all the time, do you think he is trying to get me pregnant so I would never really be able to leave him because id always be tied to him? "

    Indeed, it seems to be something like that.

    It's certainly NOT a proof of respect, nor is it a proof of love !

    (Age:18 to 24) Do you want to have a forced marriage (kinda shotgun wedding?) at your age ? And with a guy who forces you by cheating about condoms? Will you ever be able to trust him enough to marry him?

    Will you ever be able to trust him about ANY other thing? I don't think so.

    What name would you use for a girl lying about BC and getting pregnant with the sole purpose of getting a wedding ring?

    I'd call her a dirty biatch.

    For a guy doing this, one could use 'son of a biatch'

    "most of his friends have babies"

    Is he the father of those kids or are those girls married to other guys?

    Get on BC asap or rather dump him. There are better guys in the world.

  • I agree. His jealousy and need for control have led him to try to get you pregnant as the "ultimate" indicator that you belong to him. Since that's obviously not what you want, that's a HUGE line to cross. Big enough to leave him all by itself. But the other stuff should have clued you in long ago.

    You need to break up with this guy, and you need to tell him that the reason you're breaking up with him isn't another guy, it is him and his behavior. Let him know that is jealousy, insecurity, and control issues are very unattractive and unhealthy, and that his intentionally trying to get you pregnant without your consent was WAY over the line, and is an absolute deal-breaker for you to ever be together.

    Hopefully, hearing that, bluntly and harshly, will get the message through to him, and he won't be such a douche to the next girl.

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  • Well I do very much think that this is a way he is trying to control you. Taking off the condom and trying to get you pregnant would make you have to rely on him for financial support as well as support to take care of this baby. The best thing you can do right now is to go on birth control or stop having sex with him. You do not want to get pregnant because the guy wants to have control of you, that is a terrible reason to bring a baby into this world. If you have a kid with him, it's only going to up the problems he already has by making him more controlling and more over protective of you. Seriously, this is how abusive relationships start, with the guy being overly protective and jealous. So I would seriously consider leaving him or at least seeking help from someone else so they know what is going on and can help you. This doesn't sound like a good situation at all :S

  • This is not OK, it is his way of controling you and you should consider if your relationship with him is worth it. A child will only make him more controling and put you in a bad place. Someone taking off their condom like he did is unacceptable.

  • leave him now! he doesn't respect you or love you. he loves the feeling of being in control of you. anyone who would get a girl pregnant on purpose so she'd have to see him is sick and twisted.

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  • Leave him before he does anything else against your will, for your own good.

  • Your boyfriend is an asshole. Leave him.

  • Tell him you tested and you're pregnant, to see his reaction. (6)

  • In Sweden, not using a condom if the girl wants one is considered RAPE. (that's the official accusation against Wikileaks founder Jullian Assange)

  • The guy is obviously insecure and that is driving his jealousy and "protectiveness". Stalker alert. Put him in his place now before its too late. Also, if you're going to keep banging him you'd better use the pill or something because he is obviously unreliable. Try cutting the sex off for a long time and tell him he's obviously not responsible enough for you since he did such a thing. Hopefully he'll learn his lesson. And don't feel bad, women sometimes have to help turn a boy to a man.