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Boyfriend won't give me oral?

I always go down on my boyfriend,I enjoy doing so(it is fun contrary to belief) and I also enjoy pleasing him. With vaginal stimulation it feels good,but I can't have an orgasm. He fingers me every now and then,but honestly it does nothing,even if I finger myself and stimulate my clit it does nothing. I've asked him if he would do it for me,cause that is the only way for me to orgasm,but he won't. I asked him if he maybe had a bad experience with oral and he said no. I then asked if he needed help giving it and he said no. I don't want to be one of those people who uses sex as a weapon or deprives him of a sexual act because of this,but I'm getting frustrated. But then again, I don't want him going down on me if he doesn't enjoy it. I am bare, good hygiene.what should I do?
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OK...Never mind.I won't bother with oral,i never realized how nasty/dirty it is to guys.I can live without and orgasm.Thanks to all of the answerers though
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  • even if you have good hygeine doesn't matter, bacteria still forms and there's a chance for infection, bare makes it worst because the hair is there to protect from bacteria from entering btw. google it females, read the txt in the health books, I had to see a doctor because my girlfriend gave me a urethra infection.

    doctor clearly said, and her doctor to because I wanted to know if it was true.

    "Bacteria builds up and when the penis goes in and out bacteria goes deeper and deeper in a males sexual organ"

    Many females have a foul smell too and that could also be a reason, I mean its unfair because your doing it to him, but come on everyone says I like to get into that girls garden but actually it doesn't smell like roses, plus some women don't have a good taste

    if you really want him to, add chocolate syrub or something flavor and shower before hand and see a doctor and make sure everything healthy. Then he has no excuse and if he still doesn't then limit him.

    • Your girlfriend must be sexually frustrated.You sound selfish

  • I'm sorry you had such a bad response. Personally I love to give oral to my wife, even when she is worried about it, and she doesn't have to shave, though some trimming is nice. Just recently she let me trim her which I found very flattering as well as erotic. I really enjoy giving my wife pleasure. I have found the more I give her pleasure the more I get, so it works out quite well. I am making no assumptions about your hygene down below, but my thought is if he is reluctant to try oral with you, you might try some of those flavored lotions, because even though I really don't mind the way my wife tastes naturally, a little extra sweetness is a nice treat. I hope this helps some, perhaps some lotion/flavored oil and the 69 position might help him realize that giving can be as much fun as receiving.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It's not nasty or dirty. It is beautiful and a complete turn on to the majority of men... who would appreciate that you consider it fun to give them oral sex too. Your boyfriend is immature. If he doesn't want to, you can't make him, but you don't have to go down on him either. He'll grow up and change his mind or you'll move on and find someone more compatible.

    I sort of disagree with myself a bit though! If you hold out till he gives in, you are shortchanging yourself of the pleasure of being with a man who truly enjoys it. It's no fun thinking he's down there grossing out on you. And if you consider it fun to go down on him, what fun would it be to hold out?

    Maybe he needs to know that you respect his boundaries and don't want to make him do anything he doesn't enjoy, but the fact that he doesn't enjoy it means you will never be compatible and you'd like to move on with no hard feelings.

    • Just normal, everyday hygene is all that is needed, and a lot of guys don't give a damn if their penis stinks either, it can and does. My girlfriend of 24, was wonderful and there wasn't any place that I would NOT put my tongue, and it was wonderful. I know all women are not as clean as she was and their external genitals are not as appealing as hers perhaps were. So many of these relationships we hear about have got to be very short lived and superficial. I love oral sex with a neat woman

  • Okay. I have nooo clue what these guys are talking about. I'm only in high school and the 3 guys I've had serious relationships with were more interested in going down first. They asked me. It doesn't seem to bother them and they are HIGHSCHOOL boys. They're all interested in pleasing me. They would expect me to give oral without recieving. That's rude and unfair. And as for taste/smell. It's not that bad. I let my boyfriend kiss me after. Its a little bitter. We don't taste like chocolate covered strawberries. But guy's come isn't maple syrup either.

    So I'm not sure where these guys came from. But not all guys feel that way, some adore it.

    • You are spot on there, and the first girl I went down on was 16 and a junior in highschool and I was 20 years old and had never done it before, and COULD NOT WAIT to lick those lovely lips and clitoris. I always wanted her to kiss me after she had gone down on me............and yes, I noticed my penis was a little bit salty and very slimey. Good for you to be so forthcoming Most women do taste a bit 'bitter' if that is the word but not at all unpleaseant.

  • What are you TALKING about ?...

    Most of the answers were in support of you getting what you need from your BF, & that he was being selfish expecting without returning.. & Anyways, so what if everyone DID agree that he should not have to. What about YOU? Why should he not try to please you.. Sounding kind of masochistic, really... Go back to where you started where you thought you were justified in seeking equality in the bedroom.

    Peace^

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  • Wait wait wait..don't give up on oral. You shouldn't have to "live without an orgasm". Sexual partners should be willing to try things for the satisfaction of their partners. There are so many guys who love going down on girls.

  • don't be a fool. Your boyfriend is a homo. Any guy worth his stuff goes down. Oh you poor thing.

  • Well, going down on a girl will gross some guys out, I mean its not the prettiest sight in the world to lots of people and it tends to smell. Also when you get wet, the taste/smell/texture/fact that its all over his mouth/face may bother him. you can't force him to do it if he doesn't want to, its his choice too. just because you went down on him doesn't make him obligated to do it to you (though it is nice for the girl) unless you worked a deal or whatnot beforehand.

  • Stop giving it to him. He'll come around to the idea of giving it to you

  • DO NOT deprive yourself! slap him in the head! make him your sex slave! ...hehe

  • You could dump him with good reason, he sounds like a Martinl-Douche type person, that's enough reason to dump anyone. Find someone who is open to sex, that way you'll be having orgasms in no time. Don't just accept it. You haven't lived until you've orgasm'd

  • its not nasty to all men.i love going down.

  • You should stop giving him oral. He'll bend... eventually.

  • 1)It doesn't exactly smell or taste good down there.

    2)A majority of guys do not enjoy going down,some will just to be reciprocated or because they feel as though they have to.

    3)Hygiene doesn't matter,smell and taste can still be bad.

    4)It is unsanitary.

    • My point is accept it.If you really want to orgasm,you'll find a way

    • 1) It should smell and taste very clean. Unless she has umm... issues... (STD, Cleanliness) 2) I love it! 3) Hygiene matters! see 1 4) Not really. as stated before, Urine is sterile, as long as the girl bathes, it is as clean, if not cleaner than other parts on the body. including Lips.

  • i can only give and enjoy giving oral when I'm with an attractive petite pretty female who is clean and shaved. otherwise I think it's gross. now, if you are these things and he still doesn't want to, then he probably won't change anytime soon. ti some people oral is just really gross, just like some girls won't try anal even though it can be extremely satisfying. if oral is important to you then find someone else. I know I would never be in a serious relationship with a girl that didn't enjoy giving blow jobs and swallowing.

    • Yes I am petite and I am attractive and clean and I wax bare

    • Then your boyfriends crazy!

  • If you like giving oral to him then you should since it something that brings pleasure to you and he is benefiting from the action. But you have to respect that he doesn't like it, would you want him to force you to do something if it was something that you didn't want to do? You have two options. 1. Drop it and let hm pleasure you in a different way or 2. Try to play the "if you don't go down then I won't go down" card and see if he bends.

  • I had the opposite thing happen.. I just simply stopped going down on her when she wouldn't go down on me.. It's that easy. I completely ignored her requests for sex until she'd budge a little.. and it worked.

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