By age 25 ... sex life of women?

[Anonymous]

How many girls, by age 25, have honestly had few enough partners where you could only count them on one hand i don't think I know any? but I know plenty of guys in that boat. thoughts>?

[Anonymous]

I have two friends (ages 23 and 24) that are athletic, attractive, successful, still virgins, and the best friends I could ever ask for. One has a job abroad, another is in a top twenty law school. They believe in the whole lifelong meaningful relationship thing, and their priorities are elsewhere at the moment, so they aren't exactly looking, though lots of guys have tried.

I'm not so awesome as they are. I'm 22 and I've had sex with three people, although only one of those persons was within the last ten years, in the only relationship I've ever had (which was in high school). Do the math and you can come to the obvious conclusion I didn't choose the first two, so I like to think they don't really count. Four years ago when I graduated high school I made the decision that before I allow a sexual relationship of any kind again, I'd need to learn to better respect and be confident in myself and my own independence. Once I do that, I can look for someone meaningful to have in my life that I'd be willing to have a sexual relationship with.

Both myself, and my two friends are still under the age of 25, but I like to think our individual partners will still be five or less on our 25th birthdays.

[Asker]

/nods thanks for your answer the same thing happened to me, which is more or less why ... As a *guy*... I value sex as something extremely intimate and personal, and why I passed up the chances for screwing around that I had in my life. I could only do it with someone that I have absolute love and respect for, and have no desire to share something that would mean that much to me with a cheap woman that's just slept around

[acka72]

Almost had sex with... 1... 2... 3... 4...

1. my first boyfriend lasted 2 weeks and he was weird and wanted to kill his mom.

2. A player got me really horny but then I decided that I did not love him hence I did not want to lose my virginity to a one night stand person

3. Another one night stand with another player but this time I really wanted to have sex eventhough I had no feelings for the guy (25 and extremely horny) however he had a nonfunctional penis.

4. My former boyfriend. Took off my clothes wanted him to have sex with me and then he started bitching about me not having experience and that he did not want to teach me so I dumped him because I did not want to share myself to a guy who has zero consideration and respect for me.

Had sex with: 0

Fell intense potential deep love attractions: 1... 2...

I f***ed up on both... the first I followed to much and got rejected... with the second guy I played hard to get he saw through my immaturity and f***ed my best friend instead.

:(

Conclusion: 25 and single and a virgin and frustrated.

[Anonymous]

ME! I'm very happy with my boyfriend, and still like all my former boyfriends (as great friends), but I have yet to have sex. Actually, yes it's old fashioned, but I don't really have the desire to do it probably until I get married. Granted I was brought up that way, so that's a factor, but even so: without being a stickler or anything, I still prefer to just wait as long as possible. It's less complicated, and anyway dating's much more fun when you're actually out doing things! and not always going back to making out on the couch just because you're bored...though that's awesomee if done sparingly ;D

[Jonny_]

I'd say it's less than you'd think, I know a good lot of girls who still haven't even had sex never mind slept around. Of course I do know the girls popular with guys (yet they are few) who will have had quite alot, but they aren't the dominant numbers, just the ones we hear about. Personally I would have to use more than one hand, although I'm still on less than ten. :P

[Rated_R]

Or to age range 30 for that fact. Its like finding a needle in a haystack. Not directing this to all girls but sh*t have some self F'n respect and show some to the men who have not had many partners. Ya dig.

[whoblitzell]

I agree respect is earned. A lot of people seem to believe respect is a government entitlement program.

[Rated_R]

Yes for example you say you have only had a few partners and are clean and healthy but these sluts avoid that and rather.be with someone who been with a sh*t load of girls and don't give a sh*t about them and probably had stds. To those whores out there F-U.

[Belleza]

um still a virgin so think twice before saying I don't think any.

[aster]

my honest thoughts: women choose to be that way.

guys do not.

[Dylan1989]

Some of us do.

[dryad]

I'm 27, had over forty guys in my life time -- yes, blame my crazy insatiable red hair for it if you must -- though many a guy I had sex with repeatedly was either a sex buddy or a boyfriend.

[darkknight1x]

Slut!^

[dryad]

Yes, I am, dark. I've no shame in that, my daddy taught me well by ignoring my sexuality and not restraining me like your daddy did your mother -- is that why she's such a bitch, I'm sure? Yeah, I wasn't taught to be a lady, I was taught to be free, just let myself go. Call that a slut if you must. I don't wear heels, I don't need a guy to open doors for me or pay me for sex with dinner or a beer, unlike the spoiled city bitches you live around with. ^ <<< that's my middle finger at you, baby

[darkknight1x]

My dad doesn't restrain my mother. I'm sure you're going to be a terrible mother. And I'm sure most guys will have a hard time trusting you in a relationship. I bet your not capable of staying faithful in a monogamous relationship.

[dryad]

Oh, so it's a fight you want? You want to take it up with me or my ex-bf who's a Navy Seal? Shall I ask him to go out and find you, then kill you gorishly right in front of your family? Will that make you happy, you piece of crap? Seriously, the fact you think you can insult me with your slut remark proves you're sexually unsatisfied and terribly lacking in confidence. Fix your life first before you cast off "insults", dumbass ^ <<< see that? that's your little penis at it's full growth LOL!

[darkknight1x]

I'm calling you a slut becuase you are just a sex object. I have no respect for sluts. You can't teach a hoe to be a housewife. I don't feel the need to hookup with many women in order to be happy. I just need one girlfriend. If you want to be a slut you should expect to get treated badly. Act like a lady and you will get respect. I have confidence in getting women. The problem with getting a woman is that the good ones are either taken or extremely shallow.

[darkknight1x]

If you want a pic of my penis I will show you. Its not small.

[dryad]

blah blah...i just read the first few reads you wrote, don't feel like playing with you anymore

[Asker]

boyfriend who's a navy seal ahahaha I bet he's a steroid junkie who plays Call of Duty then is one of the thousands of tools pretending to be a navy seal you know the navy CID did an investigative response... for everyone 1 navy seal there are about 300 men pretending to be one (consistently)

[dryad]

@anomally, is this the part where I say 'I'm joking' or 'screw off' ?

[random_hero]

I hope you get the herps, and then die cold, alone and used.

[kiss_me_Kate]

me.

[mid20sgirl86]

I can't even count on one hand, because I still am one unfortunately.

[Southern_Belle]

I am 26 and my husband is the only man I have been with. Women are more liberal when it comes to sex. Virginity isn't valued by some as it once was, casual sex and FWB are more common and people are starting to have sex at younger ages, so it is not that surprising that women and men both are racking up larger numbers of sexual partners in today's society.

[whoblitzell]

No offense but I think its just you and your friends are huge sluts

[Southern_Belle]

I think you need to read my answer again hun. I lost my virginity to my HUSBAND and I was completely untouched! If that makes me a slut then I would hate to hear what you call women who sleep around.

[Asker]

thanks for your answer southern_belle. way I see it though, I hate when people hide behind the culture bandwagon. If a woman doesn't have the emotional depth to be inable to just give herself freely like that, she is a slut and not worth being with. any guy who would be willing to be with a slutty girl has realllly compromised standards

[diamond3]

college has a lot to do with it. when you get to college you meet so many differnt people you do a little bit of experence.

[Asker]

well my question is how many girls don't do that. I would like to think there are girls out there that value sex and intimacy enough where they won't just blow through tons of different guys or do all girls just jump on the bandwagon

[diamond3]

there are some who would not do that. but some girls want to try new things.. I don't think it means the women are whores or don't value relatonships..

[Asker]

so pretty much as long as you rationalize it as being young and having fun, anything goes? it seems like that is kind of whorish... and the idea of having a relationship with a girl that just "had her fun" would just make it seem so cheap... i know the chances of finding a girl that genuinely values intimacy enough where she wouldn't be capable to do that kind of stuff isn't going to happen... but it really does just all feel ugly to me

[diamond3]

y does she have to be a whore? if a guy did it he would just be called playing the field. What is wrong with a women acting out a fantasy? I think you are looking at this from a very conservative stand point. which is fine but people are just a lot more open minded these days. you don't seem to open

[Asker]

i judge someone for their behavior, not their perspective. I don't care how you rationalize it, sleeping around is sleeping around. what's "open minded" have to do with it... I think we have this twisted mentality in our culture where we associate NSA sex with progress of some sort. "open-minded" has become this empty buzz word phrase people love. so what, you think a guy who hasn't had his "wild days" should just be okay with his girl sleeping around? really?

[diamond3]

my point is if she did have a time where she have a few partners that does not make her less of a person. She could be the best girlfriend in the world. but because she has a little past you would over look your perfect match? that is what I mean by open minded

[Asker]

there is a difference between having 1 or even 2 one night stands (AT MAX) and having a hedonistic lifestyle a girl that did that wouldn't be my perfect match; any girl capable of sleeping around wouldn't be cut from the cloth I value; but what I am afraid of is having to A. Settle for someone like that once I have more money/get my life straightened out (making it so I can finally get women) B. having a girl who's been with tons of guys lie to me about it and pretend to be my perfect girl

[whoblitzell]

More than 5 is a slut regardless of the reason. If she dated all them.it says something else is more wrong g she can't hold.a relationship or she's a cheating whore.

[diamond3]

5 is a lot for a 25 year old girl? OK you are just very jugdemental and need to get over yourself.. I bet you are a whore yourself

[random_hero]

Agreed. > 5 = slut.

[emzy-89]

im 21, almost 22 and still a virgin and quite a few of my friends are as well, those who aren't haven't had any more than 5 partners.

[dudeman]

dude women like to have fun man not all but this is the western world man we don't get married we don't have kids we have cluster f***s and have single family homes as soon as I get my md I'm goint to south america to get myself a traditional women

[bunny420]

So that means that there are some guys f***ing all the girls. We need to find them and ask them to teach us the ways of the pussy.

[MikeK]

and beat their asses

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I vote we find them and castrate them. I'll bet anything they are idiots and probably going with the "zomg I use the pull out method" and so they're f***ing over our species :P

[bunny420]

They're only f***ing over our species in one way. At least most of our species will soon be getting laid. ;)

[cyrus7]

Probably a very small percentage. Girls can get it anytime they want, practically anywhere they want.. so a lot of them have high counts

[Quadrophonic84]

Bingo. Women have no idea how much work it is for the average guy to get laid. They only have to slap on some makeup, go to a bar, point at some guy they like, and it's off to the races.

[Anonymous]

definitely less than 5

[Anonymous]

is 9 alot? five of which were my boyfriends

[dudeman]

i think its not a little bit

[Anonymous]

i'm just gonna guess probably 20-25% of women have had less than 5 sexual partners by the age of 25. I am in that category but I'm only 22, who knows what will happen in the next 3 years. I don't know any guys in that boat unless they can't get girls for some reason. most guys are hoes.

[diamond3]

yes they are! but it is OK for them to be a whore

[Asker]

not really I know plenty of guys who have chances to sleep around but they dont until my last girlfriend (who was girl #2) .. when I was 22... who ended up destroying my sense of self worth, I was actually doing pretty well. I turned down sex (stupid now that I'm becoming privy to how things really work and how so many people see things) because I thought I was doing the "right" thing...

[snackeyg]

lol A lot of guys on here are in there 20's and virgins. I'm one of them but I fall under can't get girls.

[Anonymous]

I am 23, and I have slept with one person to whom I was not married.

[thecandymancan]

And how many that you WERE married to? *sound of stand up drums* *laughter*

[Opinion Owner]

16.

[Asker]

..what?

[Anonymous]

I'm 20 and have been intimate with zero men. I really don't think it's all that rare. I've decided to wait until I find the right person at the right time but I'm sure other women have a much more cavalier attitude towards sex. To each their own.

[snackeyg]

Did you have that shower? lol

[Opinion Owner]

Nope lol.

[snackeyg]

Can I claim it? :)

[Opinion Owner]

LOL.

[Asker]

dont think its that rare? how many girls do you know that are in your situation, especially once we are talking about going all the way through college?

[Opinion Owner]

I'd say it's about 50/50. It varies...

[Asker]

50/50? maybe our college experiences differ but I guess I have a HARD time swallowing the idea that 1/2 of girls have slept with 3 guys max and Only give it up in a rare relationship... is that what you are talking about? sorry by the way if that seems aggressively like an attack I just have a hard time buying it

[Opinion Owner]

Where did you pull 3 partners from? Thin air? No worries. And I don't talk about sex lives with my friends because I don't have sex and they know it. So I wouldn't really know exactly how many partners the girl I know have been with. And I'm sure hooking up goes on at parties but that's not my scene.

[random_hero]

Not quite thin air, it's a government statistic here in America. Most American women sleep with 3-4 men in college.

[Anonymous]

Women who are sexually active tend to blow through men for a few years. Those that aren't just don't sleep with anybody.

Either way you can't count 0 or anything above 5 on one hand. Assuming a woman starts having sex at 18. She would have to be with .71 men a year to say under 5.

[Asker]

lol what so you are saying there aren't a good amount of women who sleep with a guy they want a relationship with, then just don't sleep with anyone else until they find someone they really want to be with? so its either intimacy complex or whore you are saying

[Opinion Owner]

I suppose. Have you noticed most highschool/ early college age relationships tend to last about 3 months? A lot of women feel like they have to be with somebody and might seriously date 4 guys in a year and sleep with all of them. And then there are some women like me who just ask when we want to get laid. Have you tried that?

[Asker]

honestly yea it just felt empty and cheap, and I haven't had much luck finding anyone to date

[dudeman]

. a year seems to be a little much