Can I go to the police if someone has a sex tape of me and too it without me knowing?

[Anonymous]

well not really a sex tape since we're not really having sex. But what happened is that I met this guy at party but I was really really drunk and I don't remember but appearently I went home with him and we made out. I'm sure we didn't have sex, because I'm a virgin and I think I would know, but I was only in my panties. Appearently he taped the whole thing and it's not something that I want out there. I don't think he showed it to anyone. It's a small college I'm sure if he did everyone would know by now. He said he'd delete if I go out with him, but I don't want to do it this way. Is there any point of going to the police?

[onlyaguy]

What he did is illegal! I think you should tell him how upset and serious you are about it and that you are getting a lawyer to advise you on how best to protect your self. Put the fear of god in that f***ing bastard!

Going to the police carries with it some side effects that include the embarrassment that might come with the vid being confiscated as evidence. But that's small potatoes compared to him leaking the vid to friends and the possibility of it getting "out". Still something to consider.

I do think you should get a lawyer and have them advise you on the best course of action to take. Either way, the bastard should get the clear message that he'd better destroy the video and any evidence of it if he wants to avoid getting into serious legal trouble. He needs to know you are serious and what could happen to him if he doesn't COMPLETELY delete everything.

[DodgersGM]

Call the police so that there's something documented, even if they deem his actions to be lawful. That way if something illegal were to happen down the line (involving any girl), the PD will have him on file.

As for dealing with his threat, I'd just ignore him completely. It's likely an empty threat, and even if he DID have a tape of some sort, who knows how visible you are. And besides, it would be a huge hit for his rep. if all the girls at a small school knew he tried to blackmail someone into dating him. His sex life and social life would be ruined.

(But seriously, have this documented with the police. This may be a pattern for him and if nothing else you are doing a good deed that may help other women down the line)

[Babygurl2012]

I don't know where you are but here in ontario it is unlawful to record anyone at anytime with out the OK of the preson being recorded call the police they can tell you if it

is legal or not in your area

[Anonymous]

If you really don't remember a thing from that night, he may have put something in your drink.

He's probably lying about the tape, but go to the police anyway.

[kheserthorpe]

I suspect him filming you in his house may be legal. Him blackmailing you probably isn't.

[jacquesvol]

In Europe it's illegal to tape people without their consent (even clothed in the street) unless you're permitted to do it.

[kheserthorpe]

Yes. But this was on private property. Would depend on local laws.

[madhatters4]

I'd call campus police or call the non-emergency police line and ask them what they can do if anything. I don't think it's illegal to have the tape but they could possibly get him for harassment or extortion since he is using the tape as leverage to get something out of you.

Maybe you could agree to go on a date with him, and then show up with a bunch of your friends and demand the tape back and then walk out... (joking, although it would be awesome)

[Asker]

I would hope it's illegal because he took it without my permission. I haven't told any of my friends and I don't want to. I thought about going out with him, but I really don't know what he expects from me then? What's the point? He can't seriously it would be like a real date, does have any other motives?

[madhatters4]

he sounds like a creep and clearly likes to control and manipulate (hence the filming you without your knowledge and coercing you to go on a date)... I think it may be illegal but it would be a legal battle to prove that he in fact did it without your permission, which means pressing charges, lawyering up and potentially going to court. If he distributed the tape then you may have an easier case. I honestly don't think he'll do that or he would have already...

[madhatters4]

but he is definitely extorting, coercing and harassing you which obviously are all illegal.

[madhatters4]

I personally would want to find a way to avoid getting a lawyer inovlved as it can be extremely expensive and time consuming, but if you have the time and money then I'd definitely go that route

[kambo_trick3y]

Wouldn't it be great if we lived in a world where alcohol would accept the blame for all of our stupid decisions?

[KJT6989]

He must be a frat boy! I don't know call the campus police and find out or city police?

[Rooven]

Could always go to the local police and ask them yourself, just don't phone 911 and ask I think they would be upset with that ^^

[jacquesvol]

Just prepare yourself mentally that people may see it (and your panties-no big deal if you've ever been in bikini on a beach ) and tell him to eff off.