Can a relationship work without sexual chemistry?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is much more attracted to me than I am to him. I know he's a really good looking guy, but I'm just not strongly sexually attracted to him. I love him so much, but I'm worried it can't work in the long run because I'm not as into the sex as he is. Normally passion fades over time, but I'm worried there wasn't a lot of passion to begin with. Can this work without the sexual chemistry or is there anything I can do to improve it?

[Anonymous]

well you can stay in situations like this and many women do. I mean, there are pluses. He treats you well, is a good guy, really cares about you. Many women who find husbands like this are treated very well and have many of their needs met in marriage. While some women do not have such a high sex drive or care about sex (overall compared to men I think many women care less, some of my friends included), I personally view sex and sexual chemistry as very important and I know I couldn't be truly happy if we didn't have it.

Sure passion fades over time but if the sexual attraction is there it won't just fade out. TBH if it isn't there in the first few months (I don't say first date because sometimes it builds slowly but within a few months you will either feel it or not) it never will be. Is this less important than how he treats you and what type of guy he is? To some girls it might be, but to me, probably you, and many other girls, that attraction is just as important to sustain a relationship and you shouldn't convince yourself otherwise or feel like you have your priorities wrong.

Your concern is totally valid. Good luck!

[GlitterBell42]

Are you attracted to him in the slightest? If so then I would try to work it out, when I first met my boyfriend he liked me but I didn't feel attracted to him in that way at first, I felt a little bit attraction but not a huge ammount. Now I wouldn't change a thing about him! With some people it just takes time to grow, but if your not attracted to him at all then he's probably better as a friend. You need at least a small ammount of sexual chemistry to begin a relationship with or otherwise your just friends.

[shaydeee]

sounds like you have a good guy, maybe its not the sexual attraction but the sex in its self?

try having sex more for you than for him,... I know lots of guys don't give the girl what they need

i know for a while me and my boyfriend where just having sex for him, and I started to loss attraction for him and interest, I even though about ending it... but then I got more vocal and started taking control in bed. After that are connection was a lot better all around.

[whydogirlsmesswithme]

You don't love him then. Not like that anyway

[sugarglitter]

No, this will not work out.

[BayLatin]

No otherwise its a friendship.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it will work in the long run, because the it will become a chore. maybe you could talk to him about it