Can't remember if I was raped as a child or not?

I was molested as a child and I couldn't fully remember it until I started being sexual in my teen years. But I have never been to a female doctor I think it's called OBGYN, but I've had a sex toy in me, it was kind of thin but it was long. and I had no problem getting it in but I'm still a virgin (by virgin I mean I never had sex of my own choice). I can't remember enough to know if I was actually raped but how do I know if my hymen is intact for sure?
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  • As others have said, it is far from unusual for girls to have ruptured hymens by the time they are 20+, even without sex. There are lots of ways it can happen. You can Google "hymen" and see pictures so you know what it looks like, but essentially it's like a sheet of skin that seals the vaginal entrance mostly shut (there's usually a small hole in/near the center).

    The thing is, though, that it doesn't really matter. You haven't had sex (by choice, and maybe not at all), so you're a virgin in every way that matters. Besides, virginity (the physical part) is WAY less of a deal than people make it out to be. It's the mental aspect that is much more profound.

  • A broken hymen is not proof positive that a woman is a virgin. A lot of girls actually have it break doing non-sexual things (climbing a rope, riding on horseback, etc...) Some girls don't even have a hymen! If you don't remember the details then you can't be sure.

    Guys won't hold it against you if you have a broken hymen, by the way, if that's what you're worried about.

    • Oops, typo. It should say "A broken hymen is not proof positive that a woman is NOT a virgin."

Most Helpful Girl

  • Even that could not tell you if you are truly a virgin or not. So many ways for a hymen to get torn, in fact probably most girls hymen was broken before the first penis was ever inside them.

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  • Either 1 your a troll (which I'm leaning towards)

    Or 2 we are not medical proffesionals, visit a doctor for that answer.

    • Not a troll and I plan on going to the doctor, I was just hoping some on here could help me

    • Well I would assume most women could physically feel if it was intact or not, but a doctor will have a definitive answer for you, he or she can see tears or something you can't. I do know however that the hymen can be easily broke, such as horseback riding, can damage it.

  • talk to your doctor