Can you be bi if you've never been with a girl?

I'm a girl who's into girls at least I think. they're hot and can get me off. but I've only been with guys, I'm willing to be with a girl just hasn't happened yet, does that mean I'm bi or just curious
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  • Well, here's my take on it:

    I've been attracted to girls and guys for as far back as I can remember. When I learned about bisexuality/bicuriosity, I was also quick to realize that a lot of people will say that some girls just pretend to be bisexual for attention from guy. I also heard people say that you can't know if you're bisexual unless you've actually had sex with another girl. I didn't want people to think I was just saying it because I wanted attention, and kind of bought into the idea that: how would I know if I really liked having sex with a girl until I actually tried it? So if someone asked me, I said I was bicurious. I was 18 the first time I had sex with a girl and... I really enjoyed it.

    Thinking back on it, I think the whole idea is silly. I knew I was attracted to girls, and I didn't have to have sex with a girl to know that. We don't tell straight people that they're heterocurious until they've actually had sex with someone of the opposite sex.

    But really, it's just a label. You can label yourself whatever you want, or you can label yourself nothing at all. Whatever you call it, it doesn't change your attraction.

  • yes. bisexuality by definition = sexual attraction to both sexes. you have sexual attraction even without acting on it. is a straight girl still straight if she's a virgin? most people don't question that but there's a really biased hypocrisy going on when it comes to us bi girls. I was telling this guy that I prefer women over guys and had him tell me that I can't be bi or lesbian because I'm a virgin and I haven't even "tried it" yet. I asked him if my friend was straight because she says she is but she's a virgin as well. I asked him if my brother was straight and he's a virgin. he said yeah that's different. lol people are sh*t stupid and the fact that we live in a society that ignorantly assumes heterosexuality to be the default sexuality doesn't help either.

    so yes. if girls turn you on or you're interested in them in a sexual and/or emotional way, you are bisexual. also it doesn't have to be equal - your attraction to both sexes. :)

    i personally never called myself bi-curious because it doesn't make sense to me. is there a straight-curious? I just call myself bisexual.

  • You're probably bisexual, a couple of my friends are and they haven't experienced same-sex stuff either. If you're honest with yourself and you actually feel attraction, then you probably are bisexual. I don't think you need others to guess for you.

Most Helpful Guys

  • why does it matter? lmao. for now you are curious, later you will try it, then you can decide what you like...

  • I don't care. Why do you feel a need to label yourself? When you attach a label, you are limiting yourself.

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  • I could tell you after you've gone on a few dates, but not before.

  • you are bi-curious

    just go out and try being with a girl, and if you like it then you will officially be bi (: