Coitophobic/Genophobic?

[Anonymous]

Guys, what would you do if your girlfriend was Coitophobic/Genophobic? Not necessarily fear of being sexual but more so fear of being penetrated and not just nervous, I mean a strong fear. Would that be a deal breaker and totally not worth it no matter how amazing she is, or would you help her get over her fear? If you're one of the guys that would stick around, what would you do to help her overcome her fear? Girls, are there any of you who are [or have been] coitophobic/genophobic? If so, how did you overcome it?

[Anonymous]

I am genophobic and have been (assuming my whole life, but for sure) since '07. I've been to four different psychologists (and will be with another in a few weeks) and take Zoloft for the depression that accompanied it, but nothing feels like it works. People around me say they see improvements, but it just feels like I'm holding the emotions back better than I used to. I'm afraid of anything having to do with... umm, intimacy. Hate the three-letter word, thoughts about it, ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. I'm also in high school right now, which really isn't the best environment for someone like me...

If someone had it and is better now, PLEASE reply - I need help.

[iammeandno-oneelse]

I don't know how I could help her overcome that fear but I would try to help her anyway that I could. I know that I am saying this as a human male, but still, if I loved her I would try to help her in any way, if that happened to include abstaining from sex then that would merely be the price of love. And if for some reason I could not live up to my principles then I would end the relationship before I would ever cheat on her. So, no, it would not be a deal breaker, because love is love and lust is lust. Loves triumphs all, lust only triumphs the libido.

[Anonymous]

I actually really enjoy oral sex (getting it), and if a girl was really terrific in every other way, and willing to do oral, I could live without penetration.

[Opinion Owner]

PS, if she wanted to get past the problem, I suppose we would have to find the root of it. are you afraid because of some childhood trauma? Some scary story you heard as a kid? what?

[Asker]

Maybe a little bit of childhood trauma (I wasn't raped or molested or anything), but it's mostly just the way I am. I dunno, I just don't like things close to the entrance of my vagina (no matter what it is). It just freaks me out for some reason. I've only had enough courage to masturbate a few times but most of time I'm afraid my finger is going to slip and go inside. I dunno, I'm very afraid of that. I'm weird.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm no psychologist, but there are some pretty good ways of curing phobias. you could either look for a guy like me, who is willing to give it up, or seek counselling for your phobia.

[SomebodyToldMeh]

Honestly, that seems really selfish, especially seeing as you won't give it. If you say "If she does this..." then, in my own female oppinion, you don't really like her, and you'd dump her for a girl who would be penetrated. Look at it from this point: would you ever stick your TV remote up your butt? I didn't think so. Not to be rude or anything, but if you really like the girl and not just getting off, then you'd help her instead of just TAKING oral. The least you could do is give her some

[Hercules]

If I liked the girl, I'd help her through it.