Controling sexual urges?

[Anonymous]

Ok so for a couple of years now I'm been having problems controlling my sexual urges, I'm not a virgin as I gave that up when I was 18 but more and more every day I find it hard to control myself with guys, I can't even be alone in the same room with a guy without thinking sexual things. OK some guys I can if I don't find them attractive but if I do I'm in big trouble. I find myself frustrated beyond belief, I don't have a boyfriend nor can I find a guy who is good enough due to the fact I only get douches after me that can't even wait and get to know me, just generally really pushy and I really don't want to just have sex with any random guy ether. I have tried pleasing myself with vibrators and trying different things but my urges are too much. I just generally feel starved of any physical or emotional fulfillment and I don't always feel like masturbating due to the fact I have a long day cooking at college 2 days a week but on my days off even if I happen to do go swimming I still can't work off my sexual frustrations. I know I need a boyfriend lol but it just isn't really going to happen any time soon you know, I have a lot to sort out with my life and right now it's really hard to do that as well. Is anyone the same way? and what do you do to control it?.

[Ryosanada]

They're very hard to controle. I still find myself wanting to be with damn near all the women in my life. But I try to find something else to do. I watch my favorite TV show's, and other things to keep my mind busy. But from the sounds of it, it's time for a change in where you're looking, and maybe time to drop your standards a bit. If they're set too high, you'll never find anyone good enough for you. Set too low, and you know what happens then... But if you can find someone to have a No Strings Attached relationship, then you might be happy that way. Just become good friends with him, and bring that up in a conversation, and see if he's into that or not. Good luck with whatever you do.

[Asker]

My standards are not really high nor will it be low, all I want is just a guy to be himself and like me for who I am and just take it slow, not to be pushy you know and jsut to let things happen, just to show me some respect but it don't happen much, from guy friends who already have gfs I do but that's it really.

[Ryosanada]

Respect is hard to find these day's. It seems like if women don't show a ton of skin, then guys don't look her way anymore, but give it time, and they will. Hopefully you'll be able to find someone to help your urges.

[Asker]

Yeh it sucks and that's not true, I don't show skin but I still get guys looking my way but pervy guys (which is just odd because I don't even give them anything to perve about lol) men are strange... ha ha you give them something to look at and sure they look but you don't give them something to look at and they still perv even if it's clear how I dress states I don't want that sort attention in the first place lol.

[Ryosanada]

Yeah, we do like to use our imaginations. We are pervs, and women do have to pay the price. Have you found anything for a NSA relationship yet?

[Asker]

I don't want it to be no strings because if I did id be a giant a**hole, id jsut keep coming and going when I please and generally I don't want to keop doing that ot someone, id rather have strings attached because then I don't have to keep messing around trying to find new partners once that one finds a girlfriend lol.

[hallowman]

wish I knew girls with a drive like yours I'm a good guy with a high sex drive.i wanna be around someone who wants me but yeah I get frustrated in the fact that I can't find someone like me.. add me if you would like to talk it over. talking helps

[Brookelynn122]

I can be like that sometimes, where you have to consciously remind yourself not to straddle your guys friends. I think it's just a hormonal, woman thing. Honestly, my best advice is to masturbate, but if that's not working for you I'm not really sure. I'd say if you get the chance, give yourself an hour or two just to yourself and relax, take a bath, read, whatever you like as often as you can. And if you find something that works for you, please share! I could use some advice here too.

[Asker]

Hahaha I know it's like I could be standing in between 2 guys and suddenly I get this urge to lean on both of them and be all sexy and flirty, I have to keep reminding myself I can't just throw myself at a guy like that especially not in class :P rofl. I can spend 3 hours masterbating some nights but man... 2 days later I'm back the same way just frustrated lol especially with this one particular guy friend ha ha he lives far away but argh! it's like automatic turn on lol.

[Brookelynn122]

You should consider getting an f buddy. Haha

[Asker]

No way lol they can have STD's or aids or something lol plus it's just empty not really romantic or passionate really, I know it's not meant to be but still... that part missing ruins the whole thing for me.

[Brookelynn122]

Oh, okay. Then sorry dear, but I think you'll just have to try to keep yourself in check while you're still looking.

[MILWJ]

I know exactly how you feel. It's so frustrating! I took up kickboxing because of it and that kind of helps take out the frustration. But idk, even that isn't enough sometimes. Let me know if you find a way to control it xD

[UrsTruely2]

Don't control it, embrace it! I have a very high drive too.

[snake6473]

you might wanna see about getting a dude...not to be too flip about it.

[Asker]

I do flip about it though it's why I don't go after any random dude, I have a couple of times and it just wasn't good, OK twice it was good lol but the rest were horrible and didn't even really care about me just themselves, it's why I don't do it because I never know if they are going to be fair and please me too or just themselves and bugger off lol.

[snake6473]

you have to find what we call a "Nice guy", and then work with him on your sexual relationship. If you need to, take a day and just go nuts on your own, lol. Find some privacy and try to get as much of it out of your system as possible, lol.

[Asker]

I do nuts regulary ha ha well... id say 2 or 3 times a week ha ha but still... nice guys are always taken when I meet them, not fair :( lol

[snake6473]

nah, you're just not looking in the right places. people you might've friendzoned would be one of those.

[Asker]

I generally don't keep in contact with guys because they act like idiots around me like within a week where they still don't know the first thing about me they act pushy and bring up sexual things far too often, I generally just run and disapear haha.

[larry69]

Masturbate and a lot