Couldn't get hard first time?

Me and my girlfriend were about to do it for the first time, I had her naked and everything and was hard during the fingering and kissing. But when I started to take her underwear off I got nervous and couldn't get hard. I felt so embarrassed and disappointed. I had masturbated earlier that day. Could I have just been so nervous that I couldn't get hard? Or is this all in my head?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It happens to most of boys if it is his first time with a girl. They gets very high level of excitement just before the moment he is removing the undergarments of his girl and then get get nervous all of a sudden unconsciously. Girl may also feel too tight to allow him penetrate fearing pain of first time are or will not get enough wet. Support each-other and try it again after few days. Give your excited P*** in her hand when you meet in private, allow her to do what she would like to do and this ma lead to penetration soon. Just relax and enjoy the moment the experience and the sensations. You (most probably both) had performance anxiety. It is OK do not feel too bad about it. She may try Girl on top to help you and get it penetrated with control in her hands (Her movements will control all the things nicely)

  • Lots of guys have this problem at first (being nervous and thus unable to perform). When that happens, instead of freaking out, go back to doing things to make HER feel good, and you'll start to relax and things will probably happen.

    And I recommend abstaining from masturbating if you expect to be going on a date/having sex within the next 24 hours or so.

Most Helpful Girls

  • its nerves getting the best of you which will effect your performance. it happens to a lot of guys, hell it can happen to girls when they get nervous that they are too tight or can't get wet. just relax and enjoy the moment the experience and the sensations

  • Yes being really nervous can effect your erection. You just had performance anxiety. Its OK don't feel too bad about it. Its never happened with the guys I've been with but it happens to other guys too from what I've read.

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  • I guess that having masturbated earlier didn't really help you.

    I think it's probably anxiety, but next time I wouldn't masturbate. I would try to explain to her that it was anxiety or something, even though it would be embarassing.