Crying over the lack of sex?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for just under a year. We are both in our twenties first 6 months we used to have sex all the time. Our sex life is near nothing. We only have sex in bed and lucky if its once or twice a week. It lasts 10 minutes maybe and very little foreplay. I'm getting frustrated because I love sex and I want to try new things. I have tried to have sex with him in the shower and a couple of other semi public places and he has always turned me down. I also suggest he do me in other positions like doggy but he always sais he's too tired or something. Whenever I try to talk to him about this he just tells me I'm obbsessed with sex and that he just wants to watch tv. Mind you he really wanted me to pick up this chick on the weekend sayin if I picked her up for a threesome he would do anything for me. It didn't end up happening and then we never had sex. If he sees hot chicks on TV or down the street he will make a noice or comment on them. It makes me feel like maybe I am not attractive enough. Please help me!
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  • If a person is not having sex with you, then he doesn't love you. It's really as simple as that.

    If you really love someone, your urge to have sex with that person is irresistible. He's not even trying to resist it, it's just not there.

    Now, I know what you're thinking --> (maybe he just has a low sex drive). Well, the girls on the street and TV he's itching to have sex with via a three-some seems to suggest otherwise; so we can rule out that possibility.

    He doesn't love you, which means he doesn't sexually feel drawn to you. This is just such a huge strain on your own self-esteem, that it's not worth it. I agree. I think you should leave him, let him jerk off to the girls on TV, and the thought of the girls on the street.

    You should be with someone that doesn't avoid having sex with you. That's not only rude, that's hurtful towards your emotional health. You can't have ANY tolerance for those things. Leave him ASAP.

    • Thank you so much for your comment. I have been wondering this myself for some time and wondering whether to leave him but just can't seem to bring myself to do it. He has probably told me he loves me about 3 times all usually when he's been drunk. I try to have sex with him. I'm always usually the one that has to do all the work to get him hard and yet he never spends any time on me. I have never had this problem with any of my ex's. I know he doesn't have a low sex drive for sure. Thanks =)

  • first...you are not obbsessed with sex honey, sex is your way of showing love, with that definition when someone refuse to have sex with you but with someone else, what would that mean?...i will leave you to answer that question...my advice-my seem so cruelbut trust me I am honest- leave him to someone who trully love you- when I was in relationship with my ex girlfriend I codlnt keep my hands off her :D.

    find someone who is worthy for your heart...have fun!

    • I feel like he is not attracted to me although he sais he is. Surely if a man hardly ever uses tongue to kiss you not even in sex... only ever pecking, always wants the light off and has his eyes closed most of the time during sex. Always comments on how hot women are and theyre always really slim and skinny which is not my body type. =(

    • body type...really?!...i am just wondering because that sound pretty shallow to me, when you love someone you accept all her "features" because nobody is perfect, I know many attractive girls, and by attractive I mean not thier look, but how fun to be with and I feel so great to be with them...i dunno...yeah I won't lie ihave a certin taste of girls looks, but as I said before I care more about thier soul attractivness since that what will last and body get old anyway...

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  • well this question has been on your mind for some time before finding this site and asking us ... during that time sex has not changed for your satisfaction, with HIM !... So you make him a deal- either you start pleasing me and waking up your lazy ass in the bedroom (or other places,lol..) or I don't break up with your ass and find me a real man that would!