I am very religious, and you probably won't believe me that it's not religion what stops me. It's because I genuinely don't want to have had sexual partners since I do believe in marriage in it's truest spirit.
I also don't like the idea of a wife who has had sexual partners before. This whole argument of how you don't have experience if you don't screw around for me is completely absurd. Sex itself is something enjoyable regardless the first or your 50th time, given that you have it with someone you're really really attracted to (wife for me), and given that you truly commit yourself to your matrimonial relationship, you have years to work on making it more exciting.
Likewise, fornication and adultery for me is the biggest cause of divorce. You can not treat marriages the way you would treat a random fling with someone in high school. If you have issues with the system, don't marry, it's very simple.
So although I don't expect modern youth to agree with me, I won't sleep with a girl in a million years as long as she is my wife. I can control myself, I don't have issues with people who masturbate or watch p*rn to 'gain experience', but pre maritial sex is not my cup of tea. My Religion is just something that compliments my philosophy about such matters.
Just thought this may be helpful in perspective of something who is religious, isn't married, but isn't stopped from having sex due to religion but personal views about an ideal spouse-material morality and genuine belief in fully committing oneself to their married partner.
Brilliance. People my age don't understand this.
In today’s world where on average both partners have to have a decent job to barely be able to afford a roof over their heads. Yeah officially marrying someone before sex makes cents... Bleh. It was considerably easier back then.
I’m a Christian and started having sex at around 17. 1 of the 10 commandments states that sex before marriage is a sin. But what is marriage in today’s world? A governmental form that you sign in the money making franchise known as a church AKA the so called house of god? I’m against many of my own religion’s doings cause: since when was it classified that the house of God is that building that requests 10% of your money? Not 10% of your time, 10% of your love. They want your cold hard cash. To me marriage is an intimate relationship classified as official. Yes dropping that relationship is classified as a sin but we’ve all made mistakes. People act as if it’s such a big step but IMO you can be just as good as married.
B is my vote cause I, myself don’t have religious views against it.
I mean if you want to look at "marriage of the world" then yea I agree with you. The house of God is what you claim it to be spiritually. What I'm saying is even churches around the world don't do God's will, they do theirs. But because it's a church, people feel like it's perfect and good. Churches can be just as imperfect as humans are. If you're a Christian, and I mean in no way to question your faith because I have no authority to, you should know that marriage is a covenant. Way deeper.
You?re 100% spot on. Marriage is sacred. It?s just my personal view, that, marriage today is a formality. Yes I would get married and is busy buying an engagement ring but telling someone you love and gave your heart too is committing your vows.
Sex before marriage was not uncommon lol that depends on what specific small group you're looking at. People have been f***ing since before the concept of religion Nd marriage were created. And not all religions prohibit premarital sex either. Not to mention prostitution was legal before a certain point. Take ancient Greece for example, orgies, homosexuality, and pedophilia. All right there for you. If any society sees an increase in premarital sex it's usually because of a shift in focus away from family life to the individual (we all have our own goals now and dreams and go off to accomplish them in careers or whatever). Also womens rights have a lot to do with it - women have more options and aren't bound to the home. Also economics and so forth play into fewer marriages, people getting married older than they would have 100 years ago, and all this plays into why people have sex outside of marriage. And then of course we have a very sexualized culture in the media.
I'm an atheist so I have no religious views. I don't intend on waiting until marriage at all but I am a virgin.
I am aware that not every religion feels the same on the sex discussion, but I know a lot of people that didn't have sex, it was because of religion. Thank you for your feedback(:
I always wanted to wait til marriage to have sex. It was a spiritual thing for me. I don't like using the word religious because it is derogatory in most of the way it is used.
I was doing well. Was a virgin for 20 years. That's when I had my first kiss, and pretty much first everything in college. In a way, I felt like it was a test for me. More of a wake up call because I was proud of being a virgin for so long. A little boastful too. So, I had to get knocked off my self-built pedestal. I've learned a lot since then (22 now) and I can say that I am a very different person since. I've never been closer to God than I was before, which tells you I was being a virgin for my own will and not God's.
It's something that I wish wouldn't happen because I won't be able to give my future husband that gift. I've seen it. A couple I know recently got married. Both were virgins, both struggled. She was 30 and he was 22. But they made it. Marriage...real marriage...is a beautiful thing.
personally I did have sex b4 marriage. BUT that's my view I believe that a man is going to be with you cause he wants you, not cause he has to . A ring on his finger and a paper that says he's yours is not going to stop him from walking out that door. I feel like if a person wants to be with you their going to be with you and they shouldn't need a pice of paper saying your theirs . I mean don't get me wrong I still want the ring. Just no legal papers it's just easier to clean up the mess if you don't get married.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!No I am not having sex until marriage .. because both religious views and personal beliefs. I think it's more special doing it with the person I love .. I am a very deep person lol, and I enjoy doing meaningful stuff with the one I adore the most .. it's gonna be like a very romantic, strong tie between us :)
You and me both. My boyfriend is a virgin, but he was not religious when we met, he just so happened to of been a virgin. I think at the beginning that drove him nuts, but I started teaching him my religion, and now it doesn't bother him at all(:
Thank you! Wish more people felt like this. Saving myself for my wife :)
fully agree with u
yeah I'm not married and I've had sex I don't no anyone whos waiting for marriage :s
Back in the day girls got married at 14 so waiting until marriage wasn't a big deal. At first I think I was all for it but then I realized I may not get married until I'm 30. I'm religious and yeah the Bible does say you're not to have premarital sex...but when the Bible was written girls were married at 14 and being 40 made you pretty a senior citizen knocking on death's door. Times have changed, it's just not practical to wait until marriage anymore.
I have no issue with it. I am very liberal. I lost my virginity at 14. I think it has a lot to do with the invention of condoms and a lot of other contraceptives as well as better knowledge of STDs. There is a lot less consequences and risk when having sex than there was 100 years ago.
That is very true.
I don't consider marriage as anything else than showing that a relationship has gone official.
In my opinion, no sex without marriage means :
- no experience at all.
- possibly not a long marriage (sex is a big part of staying together, even if you don't want to believe it)
- anyway, as soon as you get divorce, you end up having sex left and right as a rebound.
So no sex before marriage is just a loss of time and human nature.
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