Do extremely sexual women intimidate men?

I ask this question because of the reaction I get most times from men when I say I love being a sexual person I'm not sure it's because this comes from a woman or because I'm very sure of what I want. I love all of it and am not afraid to explore, sexuality can be fun and unpredictable. No I don't randomly sleep around just for sex there has to be an attraction I have to want to be with this person.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I'd have to hear a specific situation to know how you're coming across.

    I know that we guys LOVE a confident and sexy woman.

    And I know that guys will judge a woman if they feel her boundaries are too loose. And I'm not entirely sure why this is the case.

    So perhaps you're not allowing these guys enough time and comfort before you're completely open and honest with them? If you don't show them that you have healthy boundaries then it's easy for them to pre-judge you before they really get to know you.

    We have terrible terms like "slut" or "loose" as a way to judge women we fear are quick to cheat or sleep around. This type of judgement comes from an insecure place and from men who are trying to control the behavior s of women.

    It's not right but it's definitely something to think about.

    I love women who are open and willing to explore their sexual desires, but (as a guy) I prefer these types of women to only open up like this with me when I've really put in some effort getting to know her first. This helps imply that she's only open and sexually comfortable with men she's gotten to know and trust. As opposed to just any john she meets at the bar. I think I feel this way because it helps me to feel more important... like I've EARNED access to her inner world.

    Does this make sense?

    I'm just brainstorming here...

    ~ Robby

    • You are right on so many levels. It's unfortunate that there is still a double standard today. Men are surprised that I am very comfortable exploring with exceptions, I do have boundaries. I don't sleep around I personally don't have the time nor do I seek it out. If I talk to a man I like & find myself attracted to then yes but easy no. I don't do it because a man can, I like men not only sexually but also because they are not afraid to be themselves a woman does it & right away she's a slut

  • I would say it all depends...I can think of one young lady on here that is a amazing flirt and is very popular with a lot of the males. But she takes the seduction line and that fires males up...on the other hand when some gal talks about how wild and insatiable she is in bed...well I immediately start to doubt if I can measure up...i have never employed a prositute but my two main fears are that: 1) I would get rolled 2) she would laugh at me or be contemptuous and I would not be able to get it up...lol...I don't worry about the last one as much as I used to...intercourse is only one possibility...(:

Most Helpful Girls

  • I love being sexual too but I really don't do things with many guys, even make out because my logic is better than my passions. And I need an attraction too, it's an important part of a relationship.

    I don't think men are intimidated by this. But I do think that if you are too open about it in certain situations guys may think you are up for easy sex or casual sex and not a relationship.

    I am like you too, so when I meet a new guy I try not to show my sexual side so much. Although when we make out I get pretty into it. It's actually a hard balance, I'm always worried about guys just wanting sex and that's it because at the same time as much as I like all that stuff I get attached to guys and I want a guy who likes me for me too and isn't just going to hit and quit it.

    It's hard though, to strike that balance between being yourself, and not seeming easy.

  • No, but I'd imagine that there will be many who are afraid she is putting it on to try to manipulate him somehow.

    • true

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  • falling for you already... lol

  • I don't think we do!

  • Some guys are caught off guard by these type of women because they're used to convincing the girl to have sex with them or they're used to being the aggressive party.

  • I actually prefer this type of women...I like to explore a woman and know what makes her have the big O...multiples..I like period sex even.For myself I want a woman that needs sex daily.

    5 stars

  • Not me. I love a woman who is unashamedly sexual. If I could find one I liked, and she wanted us to be monogamous... I'd actually consider it.