You don't have to depending on the girl, but it always helps. Gotta really get to know the girl first and see what she really likes. Some have a really REALLY sensitive clit so you can't play with it directly, but you can play with the area around it and it'll feel great to them. The only reason you should feel ashamed you didn't get her off is if you didn't ask her what she likes.
If she doesn't know, tell her she needs to start masturbating so she can learn her body better cause then she'll know what she likes and can tell you. But, if you did everything you could and still couldn't get her off, don't feel discouraged, sometimes girls just don't come from sex. Not cause nothing was done wrong, but because they might have not been entirely into it for whatever reason. Into it, but not into it on the level they should be. For some reason it seems so many girls think about other things during sex that it seems to confuse them. Not all, but seriously like every girl I've talked to or read talking about what they think about during sex is just stupid. Thinking about things like the work they have to do or whatnot. That's not going to help them get off. And, honestly, if they expect the guy to do that work for them too (keep their mind focused on the sex) they're really expecting the stupidest thing in the world.
So ya, talk to her, see what she likes. Talk to her during sex to see if she enjoys how it's going or likes a certain way different. Experiment during and just keep working at it.
But ya, some of the best positions are ones where you can both penetrate her and access her clit to rub and play with it :P if not you, than her. Best of luck. Also hope you aren't rushing into sex (not sure how long you've been with your girlfriend).
"I would feel ashamed if I couldn't get my girlfriend off and she would have to play with herself to get off."
That is foolish.
Let the girl get off any which way she's able. There's nothing to feel ashamed about if she needs to manipulate the clit. No more than if she needs foreplay or needs someone to work her nipples while she comes. Each girl is different. Each girl is ultimately responsible for her own orgasm.
Your attitude is both silly, and very much outdated. No offense.
So far, no guy has succeeded getting me off with his own hands or otherwise. I can come during penetrative sex by touching my clit.
I would suggest you play with her before sex, learn what she likes and hopefully make her come. Otherwise, unless she's one of the few who can come from penetration alone, you'd be pretty clueless hoping to get her off while you're, you know, lost in the throes of first-time passionate sex.
Or, you could talk to her. You might find she's not bothered and would rather you enjoy some worry-free sex at least for your first few times.
:) Good luck!
ok, firstly don't be ashamed if your girlfriend doesn't come - some girls can come quite easily but others incuding myself just cant, and id feel awful if my guy thought it was because he wasn't good enough. a lot of girls do need clit stimulation to be able to cum. they could do it themselves or you could if you're in a position which make it possible to reach. every girls different and just because I don't come every time it doesn't make sex any less enjoyable!
Don't feel ashamed or anything, I use my hands and fingers allot. Anything that would enhance my stimulation I'm all for I would love to receive oral while being penetrated.. But It's not a bad thing at all if a woman stimulates herself. Besides some guys like it when I rub myself.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It is not very often that a girl is going to get off with just penatration. Stimulating the clit does the trick in most cases. Take stimulating the clit plus the penis stimulating the g spot and it becomes a mind blowing orgasm for her. I encourage my guys to play with my clit as often as possible while their tool is in me. I find that better than me doing the stimulating.
I need it, otherwise I don't cum
You don't have to be ashamed! Its all part of the fun... finding out what she likes best. If she doesn't climax with just having sex why don't you stimulate her clit for her, before penetration try it, relax have fun make her wet get her in the mood and see how she reacts to your touch. My friend can only climax through sex but I have to have my clit touched. Every women s different so give it a bash and good luck ;)
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