Do guys expect blow jobs after they give you oral?

So I've been dating this guy for 6 months and we are very in love. We were both new to everything sexual when we started dating. Within the last month or so he started giving me oral. Does he expect me to give him a blow job? Also, guys, did you give a girl oral first or did you receive oral first? And if I don't feel comfortable with oral yet, what is something else I can do to give him pleasure?
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  • Yes they do and no they don't. If a guy loves you he is going to want to give you oral (if he is comfortable with it). He isn't going to do it as a sneaky way to get it back. But what tends to happen in relationships, for both men and women, is when something starts to feel unbalanced, frustration kicks in. So it's like this. You give one and it's OK they don't give cause you wanted to give it to them. You give 2, still OK. You give 3, wonder why it isn't coming back your way. You give 4, what is going on? You give 5, what the hell?! You give 6, OK now they are just being selfish and not giving!

    That's just human nature. It doesn't have anything to do with the blowjob itself. If he gave you 6 gifts with nothing in return he would start to wonder what is going on.

    I do think it is important for you to figure out why you are comfortable receiving oral but not giving oral. If it's something like inexperience, then it is important that at some time you try to find out some tips on how to do it so you can gain experience. He knows you aren't a porn star who can give him a blowjob perfectly. He doesn't want that, he wants you. I assure you, no guy who loves a woman is going to think twice about her practicing how to give oral on him.

    But most important is talking to him about this. You need to know where his mind is. Whether he does want one back or not. What he thinks is a reasonable time to wait while you figure it out. You need to tell him that you aren't at a stage where you feel comfortable giving oral sex and would he like to hold off on giving it to you till you feel comfortable or does he want to continue doing it. This at least might help with any frustration that builds up. He has the option to hold off and not feel like he is giving, giving, giving till he can't give anymore. That is so important because if frustration builds for him you will start to feel that and you will feel pushed into doing something you aren't ready for. Then anger builds. It is always small things like this, that aren't intended to be issues, that can turn into them. So it's best to catch them before they start.

    My suggestion would be to read some books on how to give blowjobs. Feel comfortable with the topic. It will take practice but at least if you have some idea what you are doing you might get closer to feeling comfortable with it.

  • well yes I think guys do expect the favor returned, and I think its only fair, but that's my point of view. if you don't feel like doing it, just be very honest with him and let him know ur not ready for it. other things you can do to give him pleasure? well aside from actual intercourse, you can try a two fisted hand job with lots of lube, try the one that heats up when you blow your breath on it or rub it, as you pump his member you can very gently squeeze and release the grip making it like a throbbing sensation , also try twisting your hands around it, (don't twist IT!) just move ur hands in a twisting motion softly while you pump. when you get down close to the base you can litely stroke his testes with the side of you lower fist. this can be a real turn on for guys especially if you gaze in their eyes when ur doing it, a very sexy move! good luck.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't know about other guys, but no, not in my case.

    If I give oral I feel satisfied enough, specially if I could make her reach orgasm.

    Recieving a blow job is a totally different matter on wether I went down on her or not. However I would not feel comfortable if she did not like my genitalia close or in her mouth (no matter wether I went down on her), as I do love women genitalia and I find oral sex is part of a healthy relationship.

  • typically, oral is a way to get into normal sex...it's not expected to lead to more oral unless your doing the 69. oral gets the guy up and for the girl into the mood. if you don't feel comfortable, then just go straight into sex or give him a hand job. it doesn't matter who goes first either.

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  • Nobody should "expect" sexual favors, but it's good etiquette to give when you receive. Hand jobs are adequate reciprocation if you're uncomfortable with providing him with oral sex.

  • In all honesty, yes, I hope I get a blowjob. But it is by no means necessary.

    That being said, I LOVE going down on my gf.

    Reciprocation is nice, but the only scorecard I keep with sex is as long as we both orgasm, we win.

  • the first girl I did it with ..i went down on her first... she just returned the favor to me... I'm pretty large... so a lot of girls have problems doing it comfortably or enjoying it.. so ...im just as happy having sex or anal if they don't wanna give head

  • some guys do, some dont. I love giving oral and dont expect to receive a blowjob, I dont even want it. I dont enjoy blowjobs. but I'm sure 95% of guys like blowjobs and would like to get it back ;)
    I think its totally fine to just give oral and not receive. MAybe your boyfriend is like that, too.

  • Not necessarily every time, but at least every few times would be nice. I like eating girls out more than I like receiving, so it's fine that I give oral more often than I receive. If I went down on a girl every time we were together and never got oral in return, I would start to think she was really selfish, though.