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Do guys get some type of pleasure knowing a girl is in pain from sex?

If you know your penis was hurting her, but not to the pain where she is in huge amounts of pain, does that turn a guy on?
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  • It depends on the girl. If it was a girl who didn't want it and enjoy it (and beg for it), then, no, I wouldn't want to be hurting her, accidentally or otherwise. I *have* done so accidentially a couple of times, and addressed the issue as soon as I found out (lube or whatever).

    But some girls WANT some pain during sex, and ask/beg for it. That's a totally different stroy, and in that case, yes, I'd enjoy it. I enjoy it because SHE enjoys it and gets turned on by it and that's really what I find hot about it.

    Lots of girls like to be spanked, hair pulled, neck "choked" (not really choked, but having your hand around their neck firmly, but without really applying any pressure), etc. as part of being dominated. We aren't talking anything that is going to cause permanent damage; I wouldn't do THAT even if she wanted it. But if I was causing her a little pain, and she liked it, then why not?

    The important (vital) component here is TRUST. My girls have always known that they could trust me to stop completely if they asked, no matter what. That trust allows them to explore their own boundries, whatever they are, while always feeling safe.

    • Hah I'm trying to take you serious about girls trusting you but all I keep thinking is "Quagmire and trusted in the same sentence"? But I agree, I do enjoy a bit of pain during sex. I asked my last boyfriend to choke me during. I'm really tight so it feels a little painful and a lot pleasurable during the act. I guess I should ask more often to be dominated than to assume.

  • dominating the girl, hell yes. but physically hurting her? wouldn't do anything for me. that said, if she told me that me hurting her turned her on, I would try it.

    • Do most guys like dominating women?

    • i don't know about most, but its a fairly common fantasy I think.

Most Helpful Girl

  • hope not :(

    • Who would thumbs down a comment like that? I hope not either! :(

    • Yagh I would hope not either. :(

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  • Big turn-off, it means I'm doing it wrong. Way wrong.

    • I mean in the sense of dominating her, but with your penis if that makes any sense.

    • I totally get that, but domination =/= massive pain. In fact, if domination is what she's into, I'd want to have a talk about what that means to her, rather than pounding away hoping she likes it.

  • No, not at all.

    • Really? I thought some guys had rape fantasies.

    • Some guys do, but it's more for the feeling of taking what you want and dominating, not hurting.

    • Now in your case if you said it works for you, then I wouldn't have a problem with it.

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  • No, I'm not a sadist.

    • Not in a sadistic sense. In a sense that you're "bigger" in areas that count?

    • If I'm so big that it hurts her, what's the use in being big? The whole appeal of having a big penis is for the girl's pleasure (unless it's all about the guy's irrational ego). From your comments, it sounds like you enjoy it, and that's a whole different story. If the pain IS pleasure to you, I think many guys would eventually be comfortable with it as long as you emphasize that.

    • Im just commeting to tell you ment to press the like butten but my tuch screen is a twat and disliked insted.

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  • YES!

    It make me feel like I'm dominating her, ans she's totally down for being submissive to me, it's a real power trip, the fact that she lets you hurt her, and she likes it, kinda naughty.

    So many girls like it when it hurts during sex too.

    • Yeah, I love it! But most of the answers are saying "no". It's nice to be dominated during sex. Maybe it's just me, but it reminds me who is in charge. :P

  • Not at all.

    Some people like receiving pain during sex, and some people like giving it... it's an S&M thing, as others have noted. I don't think it is a gender-based preference, though.

    • Oh, that makes sense.

    • ...if all you're talking about is a girl saying to a guy saying "Go slow... that hurts a little"... well, that implies that you're filling her up, and yeah, I've taken that as a compliment, but it isn't about the 'pain'.

  • If I knew that what I was doing was hurting my girl, I would feel really bad. I do not want to hurt the girl I love.

    • It's more of pleasure in the form of pain. You know?

  • There are some people who are into that sort of thing. but its not a big percentage

    • Kind of sucks.

    • well there are entire clubs and places devoted to that kind of thing if you're into it then try and find one. its not that hard I found one by accident once lol

    • It's not a fetish or anything. I can't explain it, just a nice feeling I guess.

  • I don't want her to be in pain at all. I want her to be in ecstasy.

    • ecstasy! love that word

  • If I'm causing a girl pain that would be an automatic turnoff. The thing that turns me on the most is her pleasure.

  • no not really. unless she enjoyed it. I guess it could imply that she thinks you're big down there

  • I wouldn't.. unless that's something she's into.

    • So you would make more of an effort if you knew she was attracted to pain? That would get you off as well?

    • it wouldn't get me off but if it made her happy and got her off then why not?

  • i would, but I wouldn't tell her I was getting off on it

    • Why?

    • why? because she probably wouldn't be happy knowing that

  • No...never sex is meant to be intense pleasure

    • But pain and pleasure walk a thin line, yeah?

    • It is..but there should be only maybe the ache for insertion..it should feel good

  • No way. Pain is not fun

  • In p*rn I sometimes find it a turn on. It's happened in reality andi did not like it - I felt bad. But if she was turned in by it I think it would have excited me. I'm an overly sensitive bastard what can I say.

  • Maybe If it was like pain from anal, they like it

    • I've never tried anal. Why does anal make them more aroused?

    • Guys or girls?

    • Guys. Giving anal

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  • alot of girls seem to be into pain so maybe, and it also infers that the guy is big which all guys want

    so yes

    • I enjoy the idea of a guy dominating me since I'm pretty independent and dominate my own life. From the answers I'm guessing most guys aren't into that.

    • i think most want to cause pain from their size more than anything else

  • It depends on if she likes the pain or not. There can be good kinds of pain like I absolutely love to be scratched by a girl's long nails while making out. It would probably make me feel like I had a nice big penis if it hurt the girl a little bit but I definitely wouldn't want it to hurt for her all the time because that would mean I'm too big and the girl is just enduring sex not enjoying it.

    • It could be a bit of both. Pain and enjoyment, right? I read in a book that mean can get aroused by fear, I think pain works the same way

    • Yeah it is both. Like I said about girls and fingernails, I love when they scratch me with them and it does hurt when they do it hard enough to leave marks but at the same time it feels so good. I imagine some girls feel the same when their guy is penetrating them.

  • no. because tht means shell ask 2 stop and ill lose my boner.

    • but I can see where your coming from.

    • What if she doesn't ask you to stop?

    • then ill just use more lube or go slower for her to feel better.

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