Do guys really expect birthday sex / birthday blow job?

Are you disappointed on your b-day if you don't have some kind of sexual gratification from your GF?
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I asked the question because his birthday was over the weekend, and we got really drunk the day before, and had sex.. but he was incredibly drunk and never came. We spent the entire day together on his actual birthday, and watched a movie together... but, when bedtime came we kissed.. and he held me, but didn't make any move to have sex with me.. he seemed content with out... *I* assumed that it would've been something he 100% wanted.. that's why I'm asking.. because I thought it was weird with out!
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Yes, I would be disappointed, and so would most guys. But for that matter, every girl I've ever dated wanted sex for her birthday too. It's hardly unusual.

    Is that surprising to you?

    One of the things that should be understood when you ask someone to be sexually exclusive with you is that you then WILLINGLY and HAPPILY take on the obligation of meeting their sexual needs. I don't mean that you have to do absolutely every dirty thing they can dream up (unless you want to), but in a general sense, they have entrusted you with their sexuality, and you are obligated to, within reason, take care of those needs and desires. And vice versa with your needs and desires.

    My GFs probably started thinking about what they wanted to do to/for/with me about a year in advance; it wasn't something they saw as a chore or obligation, but rather as an oppertunity to demonstrate their passion and desire. If you don't feel that way, there might be something missing in your relationship (trust? security?) that's causing you to feel that way.

    • Read my update, and then elaborate? I wasn't saying that I didn't WANT to do it.. it just didn't happen, and I feel bad!

  • If you were with him all day, and he knew he had the oppertunity, then it's fine. Just having you there made him feel relaxed and contented, so he got what he really needed at the time. No need to worry.

    • Okay! I feel better! Thanks. I just realized I probably should've put more information from the beginning! I definitely agree with your other response, but I'm happy that you added this comment.. I was really worried about it! The opportunity was 100% there.

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  • Guess I have disappointed a lot of guys if this is their thinking!

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  • I think it would depend on her personality with whether or not I expected it. If she's usually the sexual type then yes, but if she isn't...well I'd still hope to get some lol why not it's my birthday.

  • Expect? That depends how things are. But disappointed? Yeah, definitely.

    In a lot of ways, if I'm not going to get sex/something, I don't want to celebrate the day _period_. I'd rather ignore the day.

  • BJ's are like flowers for men. If youdont want to put out I hope your skills at gift giving are better.

  • If I had a girlfriend, I would not expect something like that from her. I would simply want a romantic dinner, and cuddle together on the couch, or the bed... and fall asleep together.

  • no I don't usaully expect it at all.

  • Honestly, yes, if a guy says different, he is lying! No we are not mad about it. But yes we are disappointed. Kinda like, we would love to win a gun in a raffle we signed up for, but didn't win. It would be awesome to get, but we really don't expect it. Unless promised, then we get a little upset.

  • I'd be disappointed and would probably re-evaluate our relationship unless there were a good reason, like she's traveling or sick.

  • I don't expect it as none of my gfs have ever done that for my birthday. I did have one girlfriend who expected me to blow another guy on her birthday--I was up for doing almost everything for her special day but I drew the line on that one.

    • OMG! That girl sounds nuts! lol

    • WTF dude...

    • She was nuts and very kinky, which I loved. I might have surrendered to the fantasy because she wanted it so badly but she literally had a guy show up at the door while I was cooking dinner for her. She didn't even ply me with alcohol first.

  • it is supposed to be our day, where you treat us

    if you have sex and give bj's anyway

    why not give it

  • YES we do

    • Read my update, and then elaborate?