Do guys really hate it when girls talk about their period?

[Anonymous]

I figured I should have my older brother in training since he'll be marrying a female and should grow some empathy... so the other day I told him I had the worst cramps ever and I didn't want to move at all! Ever since then he's been so annoying to deal with. I'm not a crazy pms-er, but now he likes to be like control your emotions crazy hormone bag! I guess telling him seemed like a good idea, I thought he might be a little more sympathetic... what about you other guys? What do you think about the whole subject? Is it really that weird?

[samhradh_leannan]

I would imagine that generally, guys don't want to hear every girl in town talking about her period. However, most guys are probably okay with hearing their girlfriend (or maybe another girl they are very close to) discuss it or at least mention it. I know that my boyfriend is okay talking to me about my period. We don't go into the gory details, but there's usually no need for that anyway. He doesn't mind hearing that I'm on my period, how it's affecting me, or that I'm running low on tampons or such practicalities. He's not squeamish about it at all, and I love that- it makes me feel very accepted. And I think it's a sign of maturity when a guy can handle it. Periods are actually a fairly big part of a woman's life, especially if you are someone who has longer ones or experiences more symptoms, and it would be difficult for me to be close to a guy who didn't want me to mention it even briefly. I think if you are going to stick your penis in a vagina, you should also be able to deal with the other realities that come with female sexuality, even if they're less pleasant.

[Asker]

that's a very good point. so well said I don't need to say anything haha

[samhradh_leannan]

Haha, thanks :)

[Malcom_Reynolds]

I'm comfortable enough with the subject that I don't mind if it's mentioned now and again. What I don't like is

1. Blaming everything on it - I get that I don't know what it's like, and cutting you some slack here and there is fine. You be reasonable, I'll be reasonable.

2. "You're a guy, you'll never understand" - There's a lot of truth in that statement, I accept that. The problem comes with us trying to help in any way possible and being completely dismissed.

3. "You're so lucky you don't have to deal with this" Believe me when I say that every guy out there knows this and is thankful for it. Stop guilt tripping us about it.

These are my thoughts. I know a lot of guys who are completely uncomfortable talking about it, I try to be, but usually it doesn't go very far.

[sovetskii13]

Nobody has ever said something like that to me because I have very little contact with girls, but if a girl did say that, it would not bother me. I like to be a caring, and understanding person. I know that girls have periods, and they can be really painful sometimes. It would make me feel bad that she has to go through that. Because of that, I would not bother her about it. If she needs to rest, or be left alone, okay. If she needs anything, I would be glad to help.

[Asker]

aw, see that's nice. I definitely didn't mean that he has to hear every detail. my friends and I don't even talk about that. ha ha I just wondered how much it really bothered guys!

[sovetskii13]

Details, or no details. Doesn't matter to me.

[Asker]

wow I don't know how to give you and the other person BA haha

[Longshot]

It's a perfectly normal biological function so I am not bothered by it, but not something I want to discuss at great length either.

[Asker]

true true. but just them saying that it's happening doesn't bother you right?

[Longshot]

No,doeasn't bother me.

[Asker]

oh, that's good lol

[snowboarder720]

it bothers me. I think it's gross and it's something that shouldn't be brought up and it's something the girl should take care of by herself. Unless your guy asks, I wouldn't mention it.

[Blahblah_blah]

I think its gross that you think we should take care of it by ourselves, it happens every single month, and its a big part of our lives, so if you can't go into a few gross details with your girlfriend to comfort her, you don't deserve her

[snowboarder720]

She can talk about anything to me, but it's my personal preference. The reason why I'd feel a bit uncomfortable talking about it is because I know NOTHING about it. I've had plenty of girlfriends (one relationship lasted about 4 years) and she never really brought it up. It's like me asking/talking to you about electrical circuits problems. Telling you about capacitors, inductors, and resistors then explaining differential equations that describe their voltage, current, charge, and capacitance over time. I'm assuming you don't have much experience with this topic and therefore it isn't easy for you to just simply talk about. That's just how I see it.

[snowboarder720]

Also, are you saying that you don't take of it by yourself? Do you ask family/friends to help you remove/insert tampons?

[Asker]

Such a sexist comment by @snowboarder720. How do you know I wouldn't be interested in talking about mathematical equations or electricity?

[snowboarder720]

I never mentioned anything about gender in my last comment, so it isn't being sexist. A large majority of the population don't know about electrical circuits, so I just used an assumption. Listen, I didn't mean to piss anybody off. I'm normally a bit better at leaving a better opinion, I'm sorry if I came out to be sexist.

[DeepBlue]

I doesn't bother me much unless you get really graphic in your descriptions. If you tell me you're a little down on energy or having cramps because you're on your period that is preferable to me finding out by you having a huge mood swing and trying to rip my head off for leaving the toilet seat up. And be discreet with used pad/tampons. No one wants to see that, including other women. Other than that you can talk about it all you like, it's not an issue.

[Konnour]

I don't hate when girls talk about it, I hate how they act when it happens!

[Asker]

haha some of them are crazy! not all though! some you'd never know

[MikeK]

It certainly does not "gross me out", or bother me. It's not the aspect of what her period entails - it's how much she emphasizes it. If all I hear is "ooh, ouch, cramps, blah, blah, blah"... it would get pretty annoying.

Frankly, I think a lot of women use their period as a copout to bitch. The actual act of menstruation does not gross me out or repel me - it's nature.

So if she brings it up - I'm fine with it. If that's all she talks about for the week, I'd become pretty irked.

[samhradh_leannan]

Talking about nothing but menstruation for a week straight is pretty excessive. Most girls wouldn't go to such an extreme.

[MikeK]

You'd be surprised - many girls are starved for attention

[Asker]

yeah, I have a friend who talks about her period ALL the time. that drives me nuts. one week before, oh I need ice cream because I'm pmsing... during her period, sorry I'm on my period everything sucks blah blah. I think that's annoying. I guess some people have it worse, but... yeah, that's excessive I'd say.

[MikeK]

Exactly. I doubt that it's much worse than enduring blue collar/manual labor work that men have to do on a daily basis... I've worked outdoors my entire life - having to deal with unimaginable cramps, sore limbs, cuts, etc... I wouldn't think that many women would have to lift anything heavier than 5 pounds throughout the course of their routine day LOL

[Asker]

you must live in a small town that's very traditional. the rest of the world isn't like where you are. women actually do work.

[MikeK]

Contrary - I live in NYC :P

[Asker]

haha east coast... explains it. west coast isn't so traditional :)

[Anonymous]

Well, if she's just any girl and expects me to care about her period, I most certainly won't.

And yes, I love women. Just not the girlie gossipy "totally on my period OMG FREAKIN OUT" talk.

But if my girlfriend was on her period I'd care. I just don't like random girls spewing this unimportant information into my ears.

[scnbabe89]

Such a good point!

[Asker]

haha yeah, I wouldn't tell some random guy I was on my period! no way.

[Anonymous]

No guy will every truly be sympathetic to that time of the month because we don't have anything nearly as inconvenient that happens on a regular basis. It's just some gross things that happens once a month to women where you just want to avoid saying or doing anything to annoy them.

[samhradh_leannan]

You don't have to experience something to be sympathetic about it.