Do men get intimidated easily? *More detailed question*

Does a man get intimidated easily at a party/bar/club by young women that are pretty, hold their own with confidence, are educated, and seem independent and ambitious? Would this prevent the man from approaching said girl/ attempting to hook up with her? I am often told while out at night that men are interested, but are intimidated. Could this really be true?
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  • Absolutely!

    Even I was this way when I was younger, but many of my single guy friends, even at my age, are often too intimidated to approach a beautiful, confident girl (or one they see as "overly sophisticated"), because they assume that she has a ton of "better guys" (i.e., better looking, more money, higher status, more sophisticated, etc.) hitting on her and that she can get any man she wants, so what chance does HE have? The truth is that the girl is probably lonely and maybe even depressed because she thinks she is unattractive, when the problem is that she's TOO attractive, and intimidates guys.

    A small percentage of guys are players; shallow guys who either never cared, or learned not to care, what women think about them, and so they approach any attractive woman they see, and don't care if they get rejected, because there are always other girls. There's an even smaller number of guys (like me) who aren't players, but who have learned to be confident and not take rejection personally, and learned that it doesn't kill you, who will approach girls. And then there's the remaining majority of guys, whose worst fear in life is being rejected by a girl he's attracted to, ESPECIALLY in a public place, where he's SURE everyone in the room is watching.

    So, yes, it is VERY common. It's also easy to fix - when a girl sees a guy she's interested in checking her out or whatever, she can simply introduce herself and break the ice. Once she shows a bit of interest, most guys relax and can take it from there.

  • You can be confident and outgoing, which makes it easy to approach. If a girl is dancing and smiling it wouldn't intimidate me.

    But then there is also confident and reserved, which is hard to approach. Standing around with friends and not interacting (dancing, talking) with others might seem stuck-up or not interested (maybe she has a boyfriend), so that could keep me from approaching.

Most Helpful Girls

  • At a party/club/bar - no, probably not.

    In those situations people are fueled by alcohol - which gives them confidence, hence guys in those places tend to more frequently approach girls who they would maybe normally be intimidated by; because they aren't in this situation.

    Plus - they'd not know if you're educated and ambitious etc, you can't really tell that by just looking at a girl, especially in a club environment.

  • There have been MANY times where I approached a man, and he told me that if I hadn't, nothing would have happened because he was intimidated.

    Men are afraid of rejection just as much as woman are.

    Personally for me, I would rather be rejected than not try if someone really strikes my interest.

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  • for me yes I would be intimidated. but it will also be the way you come across. it won't just her looks, its the way she presents herself. sometimes I look at a pretty girl in club, and think she is probably full of herself. and there is another pretty girl, and she possibly friendly and approachable. but that's my perception of some girls.

  • Some Yes

  • some men might feel "intimidated", but it wouldn't

    keep them from approaching you, if it does, they're probably not

    worth your time anyway.

  • I learned long ago that the very worst that can happen is a very flat NO from a woman so if I see one that I would like to get into her pants I will every time at least give it a shot using my so called charm to attempt getting acquainted.

  • Well I wouldn't be able to tell whether a young woman is educated, independant or ambitious just by looking at her. But I do get intimidated easily by a girl who is pretty and carries herself with confidence.

  • No, those girls get all the action.

  • no of course not, delightfully surprised would be a better term

  • yes it's true for me. I can be very intimidated by someone very beautiful but I try to work past that.

  • Really depends on the guy.

    Confident guys won't be intimidated.