Do men really lose their libido?

My boyfriend says since he is 27 he doesn't want to have sex a lot (or continue having sex after he already came) because he is older and is losing his sex drive compared to when he was 16 and doing it. Deep down I feel like it might be more, like insecurities he may have or something like that. But just to the older male population, is this true? Do you really lose interest in sex as you get older/not want to do it as much/want to stop after only coming once?
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  • I know you asked for older guys but I just have to say that is totally true from my experience and from what I've seen with my friends. And it doesn't matter their age cause every guy is different. I notice guys complain about that more especially if there is an age gap and it seems like you guys have a few years on each other so he probably thinks you are still in the height of your sexual peak and can't keep up with you.

    Also, he is comparing the slow down to his younger self, not other men. So he may have wanted it 20 times a day when he was younger and was able to do it repeatedly but now he can only do it a couple times back to back. I know 27 seems young still but after 25 for both men and women, your body does start to change a little.

    Also, priorities change as you age. So he may be focused on work or other worries. But it may simply be that his ability to get an erection after just having sex, is getting longer each time.

    Also, their opinion of sex can change as they age. Like when they are in their teens and early 20's, sex is just this need, like drinking water and they don't care if it's good or bad or whatever, they just want to get it. Once they get a little age under their belt, and can't go as many times as they would like, they start to focus on quality more than quantity and would rather have a real nice experience once a day then 5 so-so one's.

    That's just my experience.

  • I think it depends on the person, his drive may be decreasing a tad bit but its probably more of a stress thing. Hope I helped.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Tricky: the sex drive of men declines while that of women rises. It may be more, but that's hard to talk about. I think there's a good idea already shared here: to focus on the quality of the sex and then the quantity sorts itself out. Ask him what his fantasies are. Maybe you can get ideas from the sort of porn he likes.

  • Losing his sex drive at 27? Maybe a little, but not that much...

    Perhaps he's tressed over work, finances, life, etc? Tired and run down?

    Lots can have an effect on guys desire for sex...

    • Couldn't agree more. My boyfriend is 31 and he broke his hand and was out of work for 6 weeks. Pretty much, those 6 weeks we didn't have sex. When I thought it was me I asked him, and he said when he's losing money instead of gaining it it's all he can think/worry about. So I was supportive of him and now he's back to work, and ALMOST back to his old self. Just got to put some money back into savings and I'm set! lol

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  • Yes, your sex drive tends to slow down a bit, BUT, not at 27! However after an orgasm, some time is usually needed before going into another one. He may not be turned on or he may have an "insecurity" as you mentioned.

  • It sounds like he is insecure, mabee he can't get it up after the first time, your know it takes 19 to get it up after you come once. give him some head after he cums see what happens.