Do most girlfriends give their boyfriends blowjobs?

[Anonymous]

Because I have only given my boyfriend about 3 of them lol and we have been together for nearly a year. Am I being mean not giving them? I just don't really like doing it, it makes me feel a bit sick (just having it in my mouth) even though he is well groomed and clean, I just don't like the idea of genitals in my mouth lol. He likes to give me oral and I don't understand it. I think it's gross when he does it to me too and I don't enjoy it, I just let him because he likes to.

[Anonymous]

Yes, most girlfriends give their boyfriends blowjobs.

I know what you mean by disliking bodily fluids in your mouth, I was like that a bit when I first started becoming sexually active. However, once I started focusing more on the guy's reaction to what I was doing rather than what I was actually doing, it became a lot easier. In time, I forgot about the whole come issue to begin with. I think that if you WANT to change your attitude (of course, if you don't want to, disregard me), you need to change your mentality and the way you think about things. Start playing with his penis more, even if it's just with your hands, and look at the way he reacts to your touch. Slowly, it'll become more of a turn on for you, and I think you'll WANT to give him oral. I know it might seem like a long shot, but be patient and try.

As for not liking receiving head - is there any reason? I don't think you should let him do it if you don't like it or aren't comfortable with it, but if you want to get more comfortable - I think you'll find out you love receiving.

[fisher01]

Damme I love giveing blow jobs my boyfriend of two years gets around 3 a week it did not enjoy it at frist but in time it felt right kinda sounds I enjoy giveing them more than sex as I like the way it moves a little when enjoys it more and more and when he cums I no I have pleased him

[Asker]

how did you learn to enjoy it? I gag even just putting my tongue on it, I can't stand getting his precum in my mouth... I feel bad but I can't help it.

[fisher01]

Um I don't no with him it just came nautally and the feelings came stronger .before that I was the same I could not stand it . But I think it changes when you grow closer . But not everyone enjoys it . But good luck

[peace-love-couture]

I give my boyfriend a blowjob almost daily...

I enjoy giving oral sex though. It's hot knowing that I can please him in that manner, cause oral sex (in general) takes skill, as opposed to sex

[zolly9999]

You are awsome ... :)

[Asker]

how did you learn to enjoy it?

[Anonymous]

The issue at hand isn't really meanness. The big issue is surely that you don't want to do it. Most people, if they found their partner attractive, would want to give them oral.

I think you still think (subconsciously) of genitals as purely for waste-disposal. That seems to me to be the reason that you don't enjoy giving or receiving oral. Maybe you're too self-conscious. Next time you're giving or receiving oral, maybe close your eyes. Forget about the fact that it's genitals. Just concentrate on how it feels and how it's intimate and brings you and your boyfriend closer together. Or maybe try in the shower, so you're both super clean.

[Asker]

not just because of urine, he cleans himself so I'm sure there is no urine on his penis, I just can't stand getting his precum in my mouth, it makes me gag just licking it...

[Opinion Owner]

Precum doesn't have a taste in my experience LOL. And that doesn't explain why you dislike RECEIVING oral too. As I said I think it's psychological. But again I recommend the shower. There will be so much water I think you'll feel much better about it. Also have you ever properly masturbated? Take time to explore and learn to love your own body.

[kheserthorpe]

Most girlfriend do, yes. Not all.

Are you being mean? That's complicated. None of us can really say, because none of us can really know -how much- you dislike them. If its part of a long list of things you won't do in life, I'd start thinking you were just selfish. If you are in all other ways open minded and giving, its just a particular hang up of yours. Whether that's a problem or not depends on how much your boyfriend cares about bj. Whether he loves them or not doesn't make you mean or not mean, but it may suggest whether you're compatible or not.

[blackkid2]

"Being mean" would be purposeful rejection with the intent to injure. She's not being mean. It's not complicated.

[kheserthorpe]

Its complicated because a purposeful rejection that's indifferent to the likelihood of injuring IS mean if its not for good reasons. It may not be deliberately cruel, but being callous probably falls under what most of us consider 'mean' - especially given 'mean' had an original meaning that was closer to cheap or the opposite of generous.

[Asker]

He does like them but he said it's OK if I don't like doing it. I have tried to do it without gagging, but it makes me feel sick just putting it in my mouth, he gets really wet with pre come and I don't want to get that in my mouth. I offered to do it with him wearing a condom but he said he wouldn't really feel it.

[kheserthorpe]

I like them but could live with a few a year if she was into everything ELSE I was into.

[Asker]

well I have tried everything he has wanted to try (even tried anal sex but it was really painful)

[kheserthorpe]

My partner won't do anal. I'd take anal and few bj over regular bj. Different people like different things.

[Racez]

It seems you're so selfish of your tongue and lips.

[Asker]

I don't mean to be, it makes me feel sick

[blackkid2]

Succinctly, yes.

You're taking a general truth and trying to apply it to a personal matter which doesn't make sense.

He doesn't seem to mind. So it doesn't seem to matter.

[Tommy321]

It depends on the guy, I personally would be really disappointed if I wasn't getting any blow jobs.

[Asker]

he probably is disappointed :( but I have tried and it just makes me gag every time (just licking it)

[hannibal214]

you need to get over it. having his come in your mouth isn't that bad in the grand scheme of things

[Belgie]

Most girls do it's true.

So long as he doesn't think it's a big deal, then you're okay. But if they were important to him, then yes it's selfish not to do it.

Personally, I couldn't date someone like you, who thinks her own body is gross. To me, that says you have issues.

[CheshireCat89]

Just think about it this way. Boys generally learn to hold and touch themselves at a young age (so they don't make a mess in the bathroom). "Almost all" girls are taught to use toilet paper and never directly touch themselves. That concept that it is dirty is ingrained in us from such a young age that it is really hard to see it from a different perspective. That's at least what I've found from the women I know.

[Belgie]

Thankfully all the women I dated, have managed to leave such idiotic notions behind them.

[Asker]

I just think oral sex is gross (getting those bodily fluids in your mouth is dirty to me)

[Belgie]

Then put a condom on it.

[Asker]

I offered to do that but he said he wouldn't feel it so much

[Belgie]

Well that is rubbish. That's just him being stupid then.

[hannibal214]

using a condom for a blow job is ridiculous. and it would probably taste worse. imagine sucking on a balloon for 10 minutes

[Belgie]

Right, that's why there are so many flavoured condoms on the market... because of womens taste buds in their VAGINAS. You f***ing moron...

[Asker]

yeah condoms don't taste bad they come in all different flavors, like strawberry, banana, chocolate, berry, mint... they don't taste like rubber at all.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Your poor boyfriend, indeed.

[Asker]

I can't help it :(

[yaddayaddayadda02]

As your mama told you "if everyone else was jumping off a bridge, would you do it too?" You're entitled to not like doing something sexually...and also shouldn't have something done to you you don't like if it makes you uncomfortable.

That being said, if you desire to change your attitude about oral, you can - otherwise just keep on like you're doing.

My wife doesn't care for receiving oral, but likes giving it...so I have to live with that.

[raineydaygurl]

a couple times a week for us

[Asker]

do you like doing it?

[raineydaygurl]

yeah, it turns me on to know he's enjoying it so much. I had to get used to the taste and such at first but it doesn't bother me anymore, and sometimes he gets really bad taste but I just push past it and swallow anyway. maybe if you wanted to try a little flavoured lube on him to improve the taste

[Asker]

I have tried putting chocolate sauce on it, and I still do the same thing

[raineydaygurl]

what is his diet like? eating lots of sweet fruits especially pineapple can make him taste sweeter. then again maybe oral just isn't for you

[Asker]

hes a vegetarian so its very good. It's not the taste, I think it's mental... I don't like the idea of having bodily fluids in my mouth... I would do it with a condom on but then he wouldn't feel it so there's no point lol

[raineydaygurl]

Yeah it probablt is in your head. maybe over time you will eventually be fine

[kitkat1991991]

yea, most girl do and I think it is pretty important to give them in a relationship.

[justincider]

Id say you are lucky he is still with you, seriously. 3 bjs a month would be more normal. If he didn't like going down on you, there would be a GAG crucifixion by the ladies, but if a girl doesn't want to do it that is her choice. BS. I understand you have concerns or issues with it, but they are your issues to work on. If you don't want to work on them, well, he will do what he feels is right.

[hannibal214]

re-read. three times in the past yr...

[Asker]

He's with me because he loves me, and he thinks other things are more important in our relationship. I will try to do it more often but it's really hard when it makes me gag and feel sick just from licking it.

[justincider]

Look, I'm sure you convince him of many things that are more important to you. You can be the greatest girl in the world, seriously, but people who do not give oral sex are selfish, man or woman, period. Your boyfriend deals with it, because he loves you, but he's whipped

[Asker]

I don't convince him at all. He convinces ME that there are more important things in our relationship and that he's lucky to have met me because we are so compatible in every other way. He knows why I don't like giving oral sex and we have tried things to improve the situation (like putting chocolate sauce on his penis) but it didn't really help... I will have to just get on with it even if I don't like it :( I will just feel horrible if I vomit from it... that's how bad I gag.

[hannibal214]

honestly, most girls do it whether they like it or not to keep their man satisfied. not saying on-demand, of 3x per week, but they do it kinda regularly. if you don't sooner or later he'll find some one less frigid than you who will do it

[Asker]

I don't think he will leave me because of that lol he's not that type of guy. I will try to do it more often but it just makes me feel sick...

[hannibal214]

giving blow jobs is completely normal for a girl. no offense, but it sounds like you have mental hangups or something. I feel sorry for your bf

[OccamZRazor]

I wouldn't date you

[Anonymous]

I hate doing it. I guess it just depends on people if they wanna do it or not. I think there's nothing bad in not doing it if your boyfriend understands you but if he doesn't then that's when the problem starts.:)

[Asker]

I think he wishes I would do it for him but he understands why I don't. Do you think its gross too?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think it's gross, I just think it's kinda degrading on my part. I don't know why. I just feel it like that. I don't really like the idea of a guy's genitals on my mouth, :(

[Anonymous]

i would assume so. I like giving my boyfriend blowjobs haha. I love his reaction it turns me on so much and I get something special in return!

[Asker]

don't you get grosses out by the bodily fluids he produces?

[Opinion Owner]

as in cum? um no haha. why should i?

[Asker]

and pecum... well because its going in your mouth and you have to taste it and might swallow some.

[Opinion Owner]

i like it! I think its so hot and it tastes good I'm so in love with him

[Anonymous]

I like to please him and it turns me on.

[Anonymous]

No a lot of girls dont( but I think they should) my current girl friend won't even touch it with her hands let alone put it in her mouth...and my girl friend before her loved giving me bjs she always wanted me to finish in her mouth even during sex... you don't have to do what you are not comfortable with... I wouldnt( I love giving oral to girls) ;)