Do shy men find aggressive women intimidating/ scary/etc?

I am really attracted to shy guys. They seem so sweet, intelligent, and calm. However, I am a very aggressive person when it comes to interest in a guy. When I say aggressive - I mean the first one to make a move. I am usually the first to just tell a guy what I like about him. I am usually the one to make the first move, whether that be the first kiss, sending card,dates.etc But because I don't want to come off to strong, I read the person and take it really slow. However, when it comes to shy men, It's harder to do that. I can't read them that well, and I want to know if I put them off? Would they rather be approached by a not so aggressive woman? Would they rather I just sit back and let them make the first move? Either way is fine, I just want to know the best action to take. Ladies ...Gentlemen ... I want any advice you could give me. Thanks a bunch. = )
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's definitely possible to be TOO agressive and scare a shy guy away, but in general, if you are trying to get a shy guy, you are going to HAVE to take the initiative anyway. He's not going to have the courage to do it, so you've got to step up and make some moves. So as long as you don't go too overboard or go too fast, you're going to be just fine.

  • Maybe a little intimidating but we quite like it. It really is nice to have a girl actively show interest in you. I personally like assertive girls (not that I have anything against shy girls). If that's you're style I say good on you. Be yourself and go for it.

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  • From what I've seen shy guys usually end up with super aggressive girls because they are submissive. Usually submissive people end up with more dominate ones so if anything I would think logically speaking that shy guys would be more attracted to an aggressive gal. ;) Go for it!

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  • I actually don't care much for the shy girls because I'm shy myself. I very much prefer aggressive/assertive girls especially if they're talkative and curious. So yeah, wouldn't intimidate me at all, if I liked the girl :)

  • I wouldn't call that aggressive, just assertive, which is definitely a plus for shy guys because they know they're VERY unlikely to get up the guts to make the first move. I for one really appreciated it when my girlfriend made the first moves. She would have been waiting a long time otherwise, and I would have felt more and more awkward and cautious.

  • I find your avatar aggressive.

    To be honest - I prefer sweet & feminine girls, as I myself in most of times am an outspoken & assertive guy.

    Girls like you described give me "I feel inferior to men so I'll flex & roar to match with them" vibes.

    • Okay. = /

  • id think they'd be happier..less work to do

  • I am not very shy...but you seem cool as well as very lovable..so no...you would not scare me...(:(:(:

    • Aww, you're so sweet!

  • i find them very extremely attractive, I swear I'm being honest

  • We love aggressive gals because they tell us what to do and that's exactly what we need, a woman who takes the lead.

  • I'm not the shy, fearful or anxious person. But I'm reserved, calm and assertive, if that makes sense.

    I'm generalizing, but I think a shy guy would want the girl to make the first move, etc. He's too shy to do it himself. Those first moves would give him encouragement, and he would likely show you that he appreciates you and is interested. If he doesn't act on it, then I would say he's not interested rather than put off.