Do you care about dying a virgin?

I'm pretty sure that I will. I've never been on a date. I don't have a good job or any job ATM. I've been called cute but that feels like a kick to the balls instead of wanting to be around me, and don't really have many friends. I barely talk to anybody, even my family in my house. I don't even know if I care anymore
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  • Dude, I am 37, and due to chronic illness, I don't have a job and I still live with my mother who is a religious zealot and forbids that I have any girl stay the night, so I can relate to your situation somewhat.

    It sounds like you've become entrapped by your and others' expectations. None of what you have or haven't done with your life so far really matters. What matters now is what you can do with our life now. I'm not religious, but I think the Buddhist philosophies and meditations are very good at helping people cut away all the social crap that life throws at us and learning how to be still and at peace with ourselves, letting go of all the crap that is weighing us down. Pessimistic words from family can hurt us and hold us back more than anything else, whereas the Buddhists tend to be non-judgmental and uplifting. When you identify what's holding you back, and find a way to let it go, then you can feel uninhibited to engage with people again, and when you can talk to people again, new doors will open up for you. Have a dream. Have a goal, something that you really want to do. Some of the most successful people achieved success by bluffing their way - pretending to be who they wanted to be until they were! Learn not to fear failure. The less you are afraid to fail, the more you can try to succeed, until eventually you do! Good luck.

  • You need to quit the sob story, suck it up, and grow a pair. I'm sorry I have to be brutally honest but do you really think women are attracted to a low self esteem, whiny, unconfident guy? No bud. Sorry. Get out there and put some effort in to it. Stop being so harsh on yourself. That's not helping at all

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  • I shouldn't get too worried about it. A lot more people are virgins than you think. I honestly wished I had waited. Sex means nothing if it isn't with someone you love. Do you want to get married? Sex is only a very small part of a relationship. I would try internet dating, everyone does it now and whether we like the idea of it or not, it is the way people are going. Why do you think there are so many internet dating sites? That way you can go on a date and find out who and what you really want from a girl.

    Go on give it a go. Life is too short, just to sit back and watch it pass you by. There may well be a girl on there thinking the same as you, waiting for you to come a long.

    :)

  • Nah, I really don't care. I haven't had a boyfriend either, and I don't know if the hang out I went on this past summer counted as a date. Anyways, I've never even been kissed, and although I want to experience all that, I don't care too die this way if tomorrow was my last day. I feel that humans put too much focus on relationships, when they should worry about enjoying life and finding out who they and being happy with who they are. Yes, all that stuff is fun, but life isn't all about that imo.

    • yep, never done anything like that with a girl, so I don't know I feel hopeless that way. but I also want to be able to experience life, right now and the last 10 years or so I have mainly been waiting around because I don't know what toi do with myself

    • Don't wait around, that just leads you down a dark road of depression, self-putty and self-loathing. You should go and live life! Things happen when you least expect them to. work on yourself first, then things will fall into place. There's no specific time on how and when things should be done. How old are you, do you go to school? Work?

    • ill turn 27 on new years eve. did go to school it only ever led to one phone interview and never called back or had any communication after. I used to work at a swimming pool for 10 years, but I let my qualifications run out, besides getting tired of the place.

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  • Well...I'm not a virgin but even when I was..I didn't want to die a virgin. And now that I'm active, I'm glad I though this way. I love sex. I think it's something you should live before you give up. Sex is important in a person's life. I honestly think you should try at least one time to know. Don't give up by the way. In the past three years, I sway my friends have their first relationships and they are happy now

    • Not so easy for people like me with social anxiety and no hope of a lasting relationship

    • Besides as I said I have no job, and I still live with my parents. Never had a chance with a girl anyway

    • You know as I always say, you have to work on your problems first. To have an healthy relationship, you have to learn how to feel good about yourself and to be more confident. Right now, you probably wouldn't be ready for a relationship. It doesn't mean it will never happen.

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  • Not really, no since I have other more valuable things to concern myself with. Valuable to me at least.

  • I wouldn't be a virgin.

  • Go pay for a prostitute and get laid, just make sure to have a condom. Maybe you will chill out after that. Lol but if there are girls telling you you are cute then those might be the ones waiting for you to ask them out. Kind of hard these days to find a women though without and cash. Why aren't you working?

  • no

  • hate how us guys are expected to actively pursue sex while girls have the final say

  • I sure do

  • First, I would get some confidence because girls like men who are sure of themselves and confidant, but not cocky. Second, put yourself out there! Go to clubs, or meet someone online even.

    I've heard pretty good success stories of people meeting up. OkCupid is a good place to start.

  • I used to care about it but now I don't care anymore. There are things in life that are more important for me than having sex.

  • If you want sex and you can't get it, visit a prostitute. They're better in bed than "normal" women, and much less hassle. Sex is overrated, a lot of people are terrible lays, you aren't missing out on much. The best orgasms I've had were from masdurbation.

  • I wait for the "right one" or die trying.. I give no shyts.