Do you like to watch your girl masturbate with a vibrator?

[acote]

I know that my boyfriend likes to watch girls play with toys in all the p*rn that he watches. His p*rn addiction has been an issue with us because he chooses it over me sometimes. I decided to get a dolphin vibrator and told him I was about to play with it in the shower. I waited awhile, started using it, waited, and he never came into the bathroom. I was hoping he'd want to come watch me! so I got out of the shower and stood in front of him naked, with the vibrator still in me, and asked if he was even curious. He said "curious about what?" like the thought never even crossed his mind. So... Would you have hurried in to get a show? Or laid in bed and ignored me. (and potentially jerked off to some p*rn while I was away)

[ThoroughFred]

If it was me, I'd be in that shower with you vibing you like a madman and quickly replacing that toy with the real thing. But hey, that's just me apparently.

This however is an interesting situation. I read a study that men who watch too much p*rn actually develop reduced sex drives. They basically train themselves like a pavlovian dog to respond to only certain things for arousal. Unfortunately half of those things are visuals of real people, and half of those things are the equipment to view the p*rn on. The end result is an unhealthy view of what is attractive, and a need to be sitting in a chair in front of a screen to get horny.

Sounds to me like your man has become so obsessed with p*rn, that unless you can exactly mimic what he's seeing, it won't work well for him. If you don't look just like the girls int he p*rn (which only very few can) and be on the other side of a screen, which makes no sense, he might have a hard time creating an intimate connection because of his training with p*rn.

I'm not sure of the best solution, because even if you started doing sexual things with him while he watches the p*rn, you'd just be further reinforcing his addiction which would have an opposite effect.

I'm all for some good p*rn myself, but all things should be done in moderation. I would politely request for him a p*rn break, without making a big deal about it. Just see if you can get him to not view p*rn or masturbate for about a week. Then offer to f*** him like crazy (with outfits and the whole nine yards) at the end of the week. Hopefully he will be so horny from the break that he will have no problem paying attention to you. If you can get him to do this a few times in a row, you might be able to start deprogramming him. might be worth a shot.

Just don't yell at him or get angry, or he will just push you away and probably reinforce his want for the idealistic p*rn experience. It will be tough, but worth a shot.

[Anonymous]

As a student, we paid good money to watch a film of a women jerking off herself! I would be quite caught up with the idea of watching a woman masturbate while I watched!

In your case, don't treat p*rn as a rival please. His attitude to you might also have something to do with the length of your relationship (ardour cools down over time), or the fact that he has a Madonna-versus-the-whole conception in his mind. He might like to watch the "dirty" girls doing "dirty" things, but not his own partner!

Just guessing... Earlier on I used to be rather prudish, till a sudden sexual awakening came my way!

PS: Note the male responses to your query! It's easy for a man to get stimulated with "another woman"! Your own becomes boring after awhile... sad but true! Same perhaps for women too, though a relationship could be more than sex for them.

PPS: As the guys whether they'd like to watch their partner masturbate OR just someone else? My suspicion is... Of course, a male fantasy: a woman pleasuring herself knowing that she's being watched by him... and doing it for him. Guys are very visual. Again, in a long relationship where the sex drives might be mismatched, there could be a difference though!

[minnie12]

I had an ex with a p*rn addiction and it was so hurtful to me. He got to the point that he would rather sit at the computer then have real sex. He would have to watch it for hours before he would even think about me and I always knew that it wasn't me he was really thinking about. Now my general rule is if I'm dating a guy and he watches it when I'm not around then that's his private business. If he wants to watch it together as a part of foreplay then I can handle that. But if I'm willing and they choose p*rn over me I'll be out the door never to return.

[redcrane]

i think your boyfriend is a jerk. the fact that he chooses his p*rn over you shows how careless he is about you.

[DrSanta]

Most men would kill for a woman like you! Methinks something is going on with him...

[Zach_G]

Or he actually likes you and would prefer to separate his love life from his p*rn.

[acote]

Interesting take on things

[l-hedoniste]

If course I would have come (heh) for the show. A girl wants to get a vibrator and have an orgasm for me, I would never miss that.

[anynymoooooose]

Are you sure he took you seriously? Maybe he didn't want to intrude?

[anynymoooooose]

By the way, I don't know that I would want to see my girlfriend masturbate with a toy. Might screw with my confidence.

[dreamishobby]

i love to...!

[earth2ray]

I would have been watching you!

[Caliguy88]

Love it! Woundnt miss A show!

[Dallsimo]

Seeing (and hearing) my girlfriend giving herself pleasure is one of the most beautiful and arousing thing there is ;)

[TallBlondeJohn]

Hell yes yes. Yes

[Anonymous]

I watch p0rn for vicarious pleasure. There have been occasions of jacking along with the players, but mostly my pleasure comes from watching her give it to or receive it from her man or give it to herself. There are times when I want to be "titillated" without going through a sexual cycle and watching an attractive woman masturbate with intent (mostly amateur, commercial p0rn is too p0rny) does that for me. Watching you masturbate either for the visual pleasure or as an inspiration for sex is very appealing. I would actually prefer just fingers but your Dolphin would be good as well. Yes, I would shut off the sports and watch. Probably at close range.