Do you think extreme toys ruin a woman?

I am average but recently talked my girl into using bigger and bigger dildos as well as powerful vibrators during sex. She's loving it like NEVER before. We have sex all the time now and she always has powerful full body rolling orgasm that wear her out. Multiples every time. I love that she and I are sharing the thrill of this in our sex life but at the same time I'm not so sure she'd be satisfied by just sex with my d*** and without the toys anymore. Its like she's been given so much pleasure this way that regular sex just isn't going to get her to the same place. The extreme size. The powerful vibrations. No human man can duplicate that. Sometimes after her p**** has been banged around by one of the huge dildos I can't feel the sides. Was it a mistake?
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For what its worth, we're in love and plan to get married soon.
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  • Well vaginas come in all sizes, but they are very flexible and designed to snap back into place. They are all designed to move a 6 pound baby through them, so they can take a lot of abuse. My fiancee had a previous child with a girlfriend and I asked him if it changed at all. He said the outer part of the vag was slightly looser after the baby, but the inside was exactly the same. I do notice that after not having sex for a few weeks, I get tighter and tighter. I don't think it will 'ruin' her or anything as negative as that... who is to say she would ever get off normally before she discovered the joy of toys. She might have just lived life without orgasms. It's a sad life.

    • How do you go a few weeks without sex? 2 days and I'm going crazy to bust. For her its probably 3 days and she's attacking me. She had orgasms prior to the toys with me and before me. They just weren't as "forceful" and "explosive". She didn't squirt from sex and rarely came multiple times. In fact she didn't think she could. I'm proud to have opened her eyes to that.

    • I wouldn't worry about it, I think she loves you and probably has no idea that her toy play is bothering you at all. As she is your future wife, you really need to sit down and talk to her. If it's affecting your self image you need to tell her.

    • I have mixed emotions really. Bothersome maybe a bit. It doesn't affect my self image per se because I know that I'm human and not a mechanical bull with a built in vibrator and horse sized cock. What would be the point in comparing apples to oranges?

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  • Ruin a woman?

    No. She just find more pleasure from them.

    Does p*rn ruin a man?

    No.

    She doesn't love the toys she loves you.

    About her stretching either halt on the toy usage, get some tightening cream, have her do kegels, or get tightening surgery.

    • but does a p**** go back small if you don't use big toys?

    • Yep the vagina stretches & returns to pretty much the same size. The average vagina can easily fit a 9.5 incher so unless she's been going with toys past that they'll be virtually no change. Have her do kegels.

    • We use a 9 inch toy. She bottoms out with it. But its really fat like a coke can all the way down the shaft. It really gets her g spot off and gives her p**** a good stretching.

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  • Do I think it ruins a woman? Nah. I love toys myself, but I've never gone extreme with them as far as size or anything. I love my pocket rocket, and it can make me come like no other, but I'd still choose sex with my partner any day.

    • what about combining the two.

    • Combining the two is even better, but grabbing my toy during sex is usually the last thing on my mind cause I'm already enjoying myself so much as it is lol

    • True that.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Having sex with you is more of an emotional thing. The feeling of her man pressed against her and inside her can't be matched with toys. I wouldn't worry about it. If she wants to orgasm than you always have the toys, if you want a more intimate time than don't use the toys that time.

    • She orgasms with me. Its just not as "electric" or as intense. I don't want to deprive her of pleasure and feel I can give her the pleasure and the intimacy. I think your comment is the right attitude.

  • Unless she decides to use the toys all by herself constantly I eouldn't worry about that at all.

    If she keeps using them with you and always end up having a blast and you too then I think you are all good.

    And yes, her p**** does tighten back up over time.

    • I've told her that she should sometime when I'm at work and call me so I could listen. If she did it and didn't tell me I'd feel like she was cheating or something. Like not sharing the experience. Very insightful btw.

    • I think you guys are having a great sexual life since you're both having a great time! (that's what matters really) May be sometimes make passionate love to her without toys. Personally I like to have fun, intense, exciting sex with my girl and to try new stuff regularly, and we're both loving all of that a lot! But, we also can have slow and sensual love sessions. And we don't have as many powerful orgasms then, but it feels amazing emotionally and we feel so connected then.

    • I will trythat. I think she'd actually like that. I don't think I would as much but I am pretty sure she would so I'll give it a try. Thanks.

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  • Damn you, you're aiding Skynet in taking over. They're taking over mans role in nature.

    I'd say its a safe bet it will lessen her sexual experience with you. I remember hearing that they can decrease sensitivity in that area.

    • Vibes can make the clit less sensitive I think but I don't think a dildo will make her pssy less sensitive, maybe stretched out but not less sensitive. Whatever though. At least no other guy will be able to please her like I do.

  • Your girl is having the orgasms of a lifetime, and you're bothered because those orgasms didn't come from your d*ck?

    Does it matter, really?

  • yes.

    • Maybe ruined her for other guys. I guess she's stuck with me now since no other guys would give her that much pleasure. She's all mine now.

  • Yep, your d*** is now second fiddle. But at least one of you is getting off. Just get a fleshlight or something for yourself.

    • Thats nuts. I can still get off various ways. But for me its really about getting her off and making her go out of her f***ing mind.

    • Blow her out, you're the one who's going to have to f*** that pussy.

    • Put my Cave Pussy stamp on it. LOL

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  • I think for some girls it is more about the size and stuff but for me personally, the passion and sweat and human bodies rubbing and kissing is much hotter! plus a guy has fingers and a mouth so he can multi task ;)

    • Oh we sweat and there's passion too. And no doubt I'll use the fingers/mouth/d***/vibes/dildos or whatever just to push her further and further overboard. She didn't know she was a squirter until she met me. I love that. She didn't know she came from penetration b4 me. love that too. She didn't know what multiple orgasms or g spot orgasms were either. I guess you can say I opened her eyes to extremely good sex. Feels good. I can't wait to get her deep in the ass and p**** at the same time.

    • I'm guessing she'll want the huge dildo stretching her p**** walls while my average d*** stretches her ass out. What do you think?

  • Why not try the back door, if the front door is occupied?

    Or you could go down on her WHILE she's using a toy.

    • I'll eat while using the toy. We havent' done DP but have done anal. I want to do the DP next but I think she's apprehensive.

  • im a virgin but I still think I can offer advice. its like when you masturbate to much then it doesn't feel as good. so she just needs to stop using the toys for a while and her body will go back to normal and get the pleasure just from u. her body could be worn out from all the toy sex so she isn't getting the sensations from u. kinda hard to explain I hope you get my point.

    • Stopping is probably impossible. I think she's addicted to that feeling. And I can't blame her. Its f***ing incredible to behold. Shit I might be addicted too.

    • okay then keep using them?